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Re: 90 Days .25 Cents at a Time 09 Oct 2016 17:49 #296101

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Re: 90 Days .25 Cents at a Time 10 Oct 2016 04:10 #296126

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I'm sorry guys, but I can't really think of any thing. Today was a pretty ordinary day. If only everyday could be this easy. I also set the GYE forums as my homepage.

Re: 90 Days .25 Cents at a Time 11 Oct 2016 04:54 #296210

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Today was also one of those days you just breeze through, B"H.
I'd like to speak about קבלות for a minute, in particular incremental ones. We know the secret behind קבלות is they power to gradually inspire change. One of my קבלות this year is: to "do" the 90 day challenge and keep a daily log. That's all. I didn't make a קבלה not to derive any pleasure from looking at any women, other than the one I will marry, בשעה טובה מוצלחת. Although that is what the תורה mandates. So what am I doing then. It seams if on the day right before יום כיפור I am telling Hashem that I'm not willing to stop doing עבירות, just the ones that make me feel depressed. Therefore, even when I make a commitment to work on these עבירות, it just happens to be what Hashem wants. Right. The other example of this is, one who commits not to speak לשון הרע for one hour a day. Is he not saying that he is allowed to speak לשון הרע for the other 23 hours. I'm not a בעל תשובה (in the classical sense of the word), but I can just imagine how difficult it must be. Its imperative for these precious neshamas to take things on slowly, but once you relize there is a G-D and those religious guys are right how could you still eat non-kosher, not put on teffilin, not keep Shabbos, and all the other 613 Mitzvot right away?
This was bothering me for the past week, but just yesterday I think I found a solution. If one properly frames things, the truth is that the real me doesn't ever want to look at these things (or do any עבירה for that matter). However, the יצר הרע comes and tricks us, right? Once we realize that our commitment  is just to try to fight harder against the יצר הרע, I understand things much easier. You see I always fight my יצר הרע  on any עבירה, but on these I'm going to fight even harder.
I heard the following in the name of someone, but unfortunately forgot who, my apologies. "Teshuva means to return, right? So doing teshuva can't mean to become perfect. For, since I was never perfect, I can't return to that. So what does teshuva mean? It means to return to the time when you put up a good fight against the יצר הרע."
I still remember the first time I viewed inappropriate material. My body was quivering. And now? Nothing. It seams as if I have signed a peace treaty with my יצר הרע.
This is how I understand teshuva. Ripping up that peace treaty, and going back to fighting the good fight.
Last Edit: 11 Oct 2016 05:00 by r3byid.

Re: 90 Days .25 Cents at a Time 13 Oct 2016 03:51 #296288

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< Day 9 > < Day 10 >
Yom Kippur was very exhausting both physically and mentally, still a little tired. Just earned that first bag of chips.

Re: 90 Days .25 Cents at a Time 14 Oct 2016 04:22 #296387

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First day of בין  הזמנים. That just means I will need to be extra vigilant.

Re: 90 Days .25 Cents at a Time 14 Oct 2016 04:29 #296389

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Great going!

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Re: 90 Days .25 Cents at a Time 14 Oct 2016 21:37 #296467

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I'm still trucking.

Re: 90 Days .25 Cents at a Time 16 Oct 2016 04:14 #296486

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Just some rhetoric, "Sukkahs don't have Wi-Fi."

Re: 90 Days .25 Cents at a Time 16 Oct 2016 21:01 #296531

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Just checking in. חג שמח
Last Edit: 16 Oct 2016 21:01 by r3byid.

Re: 90 Days .25 Cents at a Time 19 Oct 2016 02:27 #296548

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Unfortunately I fell on the first day of סוכת. So now we have a new header. The black is the day of the year (since this is kind of a personal diary). The red is the day in the streak.
Last Edit: 19 Oct 2016 02:28 by r3byid.

Re: 90 Days .25 Cents at a Time 19 Oct 2016 02:41 #296550

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I was thinking of keeping the 7-day badge to remind me that: א) I can grow. ב) I did grow.
What do you think?
Last Edit: 19 Oct 2016 02:43 by r3byid.

Re: 90 Days .25 Cents at a Time 19 Oct 2016 03:22 #296551

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Brother - GYE is a great move you took

Youre asking a "90 day chart" question. 
So we need to find someone that has succeeded getting sober without any other changes to their life other than counting 90 days. And it's virtually impossible to find him - I haven't encountered him yet :-(
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Re: 90 Days .25 Cents at a Time 19 Oct 2016 07:48 #296565

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Markz wrote on 19 Oct 2016 03:22:
Youre asking a "90 day chart" question. 
So we need to find someone that has succeeded getting sober without any other changes to their life other than counting 90 days. And it's virtually impossible to find him - I haven't encountered him yet :-(

I used to think I was him until I found out I wasn't 
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Re: 90 Days .25 Cents at a Time 19 Oct 2016 22:32 #296600

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Markz wrote on 19 Oct 2016 03:22:
Brother - GYE is a great move you took

Youre asking a "90 day chart" question. 
So we need to find someone that has succeeded getting sober without any other changes to their life other than counting 90 days. And it's virtually impossible to find him - I haven't encountered him yet :-(

I'm sorry. I don't exactly understand the 2 highlighted lines.

Re: 90 Days .25 Cents at a Time 20 Oct 2016 02:17 #296610

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Markz will be along soon to explain himself. The way I understood him was that first he was telling you that joining guard your eyes was a great move because you CAN find the tools here to make you succeed. And secondly, he was telling you that many people think that just joining the 90 day chart will make them better, and it sounded like that was your impression. However, many of us have found that this one tool is not enough to solve our problem (by itself).
that's just my understanding, but Mark will come soon to correct me if I'm wrong.

we are all rooting for you to succeed, maybe look around to see what else might help you here.
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