< Day 8 >
Today was also one of those days you just breeze through, B"H.
I'd like to speak about קבלות for a minute, in particular incremental ones. We know the secret behind קבלות is they power to gradually inspire change. One of my קבלות this year is: to "do" the 90 day challenge and keep a daily log. That's all. I didn't make a קבלה not to derive any pleasure from looking at any women, other than the one I will marry, בשעה טובה מוצלחת. Although that is what the תורה mandates. So what am I doing then. It seams if on the day right before יום כיפור I am telling Hashem that I'm not willing to stop doing עבירות, just the ones that make me feel depressed. Therefore, even when I make a commitment to work on these עבירות, it just happens to be what Hashem wants. Right. The other example of this is, one who commits not to speak לשון הרע for one hour a day. Is he not saying that he is allowed to speak לשון הרע for the other 23 hours. I'm not a בעל תשובה (in the classical sense of the word), but I can just imagine how difficult it must be. Its imperative for these precious neshamas to take things on slowly, but once you relize there is a G-D and those religious guys are right how could you still eat non-kosher, not put on teffilin, not keep Shabbos, and all the other 613 Mitzvot right away?
This was bothering me for the past week, but just yesterday I think I found a solution. If one properly frames things, the truth is that the real me doesn't ever want to look at these things (or do any עבירה for that matter). However, the יצר הרע comes and tricks us, right? Once we realize that our commitment is just to try to fight harder against the יצר הרע, I understand things much easier. You see I always fight my יצר הרע on any עבירה, but on these I'm going to fight even harder.
I heard the following in the name of someone, but unfortunately forgot who, my apologies. "Teshuva means to return, right? So doing teshuva can't mean to become perfect. For, since I was never perfect, I can't return to that. So what does teshuva mean? It means to return to the time when you put up a good fight against the יצר הרע."
I still remember the first time I viewed inappropriate material. My body was quivering. And now? Nothing. It seams as if I have signed a peace treaty with my יצר הרע.
This is how I understand teshuva. Ripping up that peace treaty, and going back to fighting the good fight.