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Re: My Journey 19 Apr 2016 18:27 #285282

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Shlomo24 wrote on 19 Apr 2016 05:17:
The more I am connected to god, SA, and other fellows, the less I will need to act out. People many times don't post when they are struggling, and that itself is another reason why they are struggling. I think it's a noble idea to reach out.

Thanks for all the input. It's really helpful.  What can I say Mark, I'm a sucker for punishment ; ) I guess building connections even when not in a struggle is the difference between "living recovery" and just plain "living". 

Still, I think your point Shlomo is a big one for me.  I have NEVER reached out to someone from GYE before a fall, slip, or dive. I have called non-GYE friends sometimes, to connect, but not to ask for help with the struggle.  I have lots of reasons- Excuses, really.  "It won't help", "What can they possibly say", "I will only feel worse afterwards".  I think the real reasons are more like "I really want to act out", "I can't stand being told what to do.  I don't want to look weak", "I refuse to admit that I am wrong and acting like a משוגנה".

Thanks also for this

Life will always be changing, the main thing will still be you. You can adapt yourself, and the systems when the changes come.

Re: My Journey 19 Apr 2016 18:29 #285283

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I was thinking what shlomo said and was just as curious as everyone else as to why I really wrote it.


Freud has nothing on you.

It's probably about time we gave thanks613 his thread back. We should continue the psychoanalysis in the JHF section. 

 
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Re: My Journey 19 Apr 2016 19:01 #285294

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thanks613 wrote on 19 Apr 2016 18:27:

Shlomo24 wrote on 19 Apr 2016 05:17:
The more I am connected to god, SA, and other fellows, the less I will need to act out. People many times don't post when they are struggling, and that itself is another reason why they are struggling. I think it's a noble idea to reach out.

Thanks for all the input. It's really helpful.  What can I say Mark, I'm a sucker for punishment ; ) I guess building connections even when not in a struggle is the difference between "living recovery" and just plain "living". 

Still, I think your point Shlomo is a big one for me.  I have NEVER reached out to someone from GYE before a fall, slip, or dive. I have called non-GYE friends sometimes, to connect, but not to ask for help with the struggle.  I have lots of reasons- Excuses, really.  "It won't help", "What can they possibly say", "I will only feel worse afterwards".  I think the real reasons are more like "I really want to act out", "I can't stand being told what to do.  I don't want to look weak", "I refuse to admit that I am wrong and acting like a משוגנה".

Thanks also for this

Life will always be changing, the main thing will still be you. You can adapt yourself, and the systems when the changes come.



And after our talk the other week, would you change your mind on the above?
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Re: My Journey 19 Apr 2016 19:05 #285295

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cordnoy wrote on 19 Apr 2016 19:01:

thanks613 wrote on 19 Apr 2016 18:27:

Shlomo24 wrote on 19 Apr 2016 05:17:
The more I am connected to god, SA, and other fellows, the less I will need to act out. People many times don't post when they are struggling, and that itself is another reason why they are struggling. I think it's a noble idea to reach out.

Thanks for all the input. It's really helpful.  What can I say Mark, I'm a sucker for punishment ; ) I guess building connections even when not in a struggle is the difference between "living recovery" and just plain "living". 

Still, I think your point Shlomo is a big one for me.  I have NEVER reached out to someone from GYE before a fall, slip, or dive. I have called non-GYE friends sometimes, to connect, but not to ask for help with the struggle.  I have lots of reasons- Excuses, really.  "It won't help", "What can they possibly say", "I will only feel worse afterwards".  I think the real reasons are more like "I really want to act out", "I can't stand being told what to do.  I don't want to look weak", "I refuse to admit that I am wrong and acting like a משוגנה".

Thanks also for this

Life will always be changing, the main thing will still be you. You can adapt yourself, and the systems when the changes come.



And after our talk the other week, would you change your mind on the above?

Which part? Not reaching out? I think I kinda know it's idiotic, but there's a mind-body divide or something.
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Re: My Journey 19 Apr 2016 19:17 #285300

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Yes.
Reaching out to another.

Did i/we bite?
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Re: My Journey 19 Apr 2016 19:30 #285302

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cordnoy wrote on 19 Apr 2016 19:17:
Yes.
Reaching out to another.

Did i/we bite?

A little nip in the bud never hurt anyone. Permanently... 
 

Re: My Journey 21 Apr 2016 18:02 #285610

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Got a new computer that's running windows 10, but haven't been able to find a compatible filter yet.  Any ideas?

Re: My Journey 21 Apr 2016 18:19 #285612

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Why you playing Gevura's game, tag?
Why not call them?
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Re: My Journey 21 Apr 2016 19:19 #285618

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Are you hinting at the "P" word?
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 Haven't you ever heard of FOP (Fear of Phone) 
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Re: My Journey 21 Apr 2016 19:23 #285619

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You need a filter
faaaaaaaaaaast


call tag
 
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Re: My Journey 21 Apr 2016 20:46 #285628

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False alarm actually. k9 seems to work. Filter installed.  I didn't make any custom settings (and I allowed youtube), but I seem to remember someone saying that the only filters that ever worked for him are the ones he never "tested". So maybe I'll try it that way.

What's tag anyway?

Re: My Journey 21 Apr 2016 22:07 #285637

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thanks613 wrote on 21 Apr 2016 20:46:
False alarm actually. k9 seems to work. Filter installed.  I didn't make any custom settings (and I allowed youtube), but I seem to remember someone saying that the only filters that ever worked for him are the ones he never "tested". So maybe I'll try it that way.

What's tag anyway?

What's a filter?
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Re: My Journey 21 Apr 2016 22:20 #285639

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What's the white book?

It takes time to learn things on gye
TAG = technology awareness group

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Re: My Journey 22 Apr 2016 03:22 #285657

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cordnoy wrote on 21 Apr 2016 22:07:
What's a filter?

 
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Re: My Journey 22 Apr 2016 03:25 #285658

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