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Re: Success Story 03 Feb 2016 18:03 #276511

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Awesome! I was actually wondering where you were up to, I was going to post on the thread to see if you would respond. Glad things are going well. Keep it up!
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Re: Success Story 05 Feb 2016 13:59 #276793

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So close to achieving a real milestone for me!

Very very excited. 

I thought though, signing off for Shabbat, I'd just state for perhaps the upteenth time, how much these struggles function to allow for escapism, avoiding doing what needs to be done, avoiding becoming a stronger eved Hashem. Platering over the pain. 

Just a thought, sometimes getting active is a strong help for me. 

Shabbat Shalom!

Re: Success Story 05 Feb 2016 14:04 #276794

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Please please do us all a favor and detail here your lust autobio, what trucking tools gained you this success story.

We all have what to learn from each other

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Re: Success Story 07 Feb 2016 21:28 #276996

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Cannot believe it!!! 90 days of shmirat habit!!!! Is that a complete success story? No I fell once with shmirat eynayim, and that is definitely the next hurdle to overcome, but as can be imagined, I'm extactic. I really feel I've achieved something special and it's a tremendous and ground breaking milestone for me, a significant part of my main motivations for achievement this year.

Markz I will definitely  bn write a more detailed account of how I feel I got here and what I dealt with in the upcoming days. But here's and short preview.

1. Determination...I've been trying to break free for just under a year now, and despite constant falling I kept pressing on refusing to believe it was impossible, that alone, being the optimist I think plays a massive role. If at first you don't succeed...

2. Goals outside of this...This is definitely my main goal in life right now, but essentially none of my focus goes into it, I've focused hard on pushing myself in other areas, to the sense that I have become absorbed with them. Sticking to a rigorous schedule and allowing myself very little time to focus on temptation. This also explains why I haven't written on here so much recently.

3. Not getting into the ring, I've worked hard to constantly remember this. It's not about fighting the yetzer (because then he's already won) but avoiding him.

4. Sleep. I've been getting good sleep recently, it's been a primary focus.

5. Knowing my weaknesses...avoiding being with my Internet on at the end of the day has been massive. Paying money to install a filter has probably also helped because there's financial investment in the cause.

6. Disassociation of behaviours. I think a massive help has been that in the past every time I would fall and watch pornography i would also masturbate. This reality left me feeling helpless and powerless. When I fell a few weeks ago, it was the first time I didn't masturbate too, this seems to have broken the cycle and empowered me massively. It's also reduced my incentive to watch porn because my yetzer knows the physical rewards will not be the same (bh)

7. Realising that a lot of this about avoiding taking action...feeling numb rather than being active, reading and listening to materials which have promoted action taking and training myself to become active habitually has also helped.

That's all I have for now.
The reality is that I still haven't been shmirat eynayim for 90 days yet.
But it seems that that is no where my battle ground is, and I truly believe that with time I will accomplish it!
We go on...

Re: Success Story 07 Feb 2016 23:17 #277000

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Wow amazing!!! Keep it up

Re: Success Story 08 Feb 2016 00:21 #277007

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Mazel Tov on your accomplishment! May you achieve many more one days
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Re: Success Story 08 Feb 2016 05:06 #277030

Mazal Tov! 
Feel free to email me at BenTorah.BaalHabayis@gmail.com

1 day may be too long for me, but I take it OWAAT = One wave at a time, cause the lust comes and goes like a wave which rises and crashes.

Re: Success Story 08 Feb 2016 05:20 #277032

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Ysftw I really like what you wrote!!

And also
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Re: Success Story 09 Feb 2016 14:38 #277198

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All future destiny continues with the actions of today, today is always the Day of salvation, so let us stay in the moment, we are not looking for tomorrow's success, all preparation for tomorrow begins today.  Your success brightens my day, so continue being one of the star in this site of heroes.
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Re: Success Story 12 Feb 2016 13:21 #277629

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BH this particular struggle of Shmirat Habrit is still going strong. I feel psychologically there is now more distance between myself and my willingness to do this aveirah. I have a concrete achievement moving forward.

During this blog did I achieve what I set out to achieve? No. In terms of Shmirat einayim I fell fully once, slipped a couple of times and came very close over the last few days unfortunately.

At the same time there has clearly been a major success for in terms of Shmirat Habrit.

I will end this blog here as a testimony to that. And start a new one specifically detailing my work on Shmirat einayim. Certainly this is a far larger challenge for me and we will see how this goes.

Thanks to everyone who followed this through!

Re: Success Story 12 Feb 2016 13:44 #277632

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Hey!
Hold on!

ysftw, I'm following your "success story" truck, and would appreciate if you stay in it

Im following your progress, you're an inspiration to me, look how many thank you's I clicked for you
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Re: Success Story 13 Feb 2016 02:48 #277685

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Praying the best for you, may our Maker be close to you at this time.
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