My Chaver,

As I wrote elsewhere, for those that their lust life is manageable;

'Many have reached 90 days with the chart (and before the chart), but fallen again later (or before). This is because their challenge is only when encountering lust situations, and at those times the chart often doesn't restrain. It's highly recommend you consider also putting up a filter to prevent challenging situations, and also see the Blue level tools shown on the homepage'. As another example B"H I was zocheh to initiate the good night device calendar, which works great for some of us...

If your lust life is unmanageable, I have a different already posted drasha for you about the 90 days. There's another piece I haven't written yet which is just as important, hopefully one of these days.

And I assure you many other bigger truckers can help you along too if your lust life is unmanageable

Bahatzlacha

Nearly a month!!

WOW!!

Do I feel good?
Not really!!
Y?
Because MZL is only a tip in the iceberg of where lies the ikker problem i.e shmiras aiyneyim/fantasies...i think i'm gonna make a 90 second chart of controlling myself in these inyonim...

The day i rid myself of this i'll throw a seudas levyoson!!

Here 2 improve wrote:


I am not so good with fish. Will you have Sushi there??

Here 2 improve wrote:

How will you know when you are really rid of it?

Perhaps by the big Seudas Livyoson that's when we'll know we are finally rid of it.

Trust me my friend you'll know.

When your marriage is bliss.
When you don't ave the urge to act out.
When you don't double look at a pretty women because you really haven't got a tayva 4 her.
when you can learn with a klorer kop.

The answers are simple.

ok ok we'll change the seuda for those non fish likers.
It'll be a seudas achashverosh...bar the women of course!!

Here 2 improve wrote:

Say it even simpler:
When you look up and all you see is dirt.

I fell-again.

The author of the marriage book 'men are from mars women are from venus' has soled millions of books.
He has been divorced twice!
Someone once asked him 'with all due respect what right have you got to write such a book if you have been divorced twice'?
His response- 'just the opposite my friend i can only do what i do because i got divorced twice. I only have the license to do what i do because i have been there done that and can tell others what to do and what not to do'.

With that intro let me share a piece of advice i have decided once and for all.
Doing a 90 day chart means nothing.
Gedarim for MZL pretty much mean nothing.
One needs to dig deep and go to the root of the problem-shmiras ainayim. That is where the monster lies. If you kill him its mission accomplished.
To keep attempting 90 days means nothing if you still have a burning desire, it'll be a matter of time b4 you fall in.
So my new goal??
Shmiras ainayim
with that and help from the almighty I'll get there.

#what works 4 me

Or what you want that it should work for you. WHAT WORKS FOR ME means what HAS worked for me, not what I WANT that it should work for me.

Here 2 improve wrote:


Not every coach is a good player and vice versa

Here 2 improve wrote:


Here 2 improve wrote:


Hi Here2I

I just wanted to comment on what you wrote regarding the
90 day chart
What's it for?

It's been mentioned that it can change the neuron pattern of addiction - if you pass 90 days.
True for some - not for me at all since I was never addicted (And by the grace of Gd I just reached there today as shared on my Post HERE)

In my little mind one of the greatest benefits of the Chart is BEFORE 90 days. It keeps reminding us
"Today is day 1 - What are you gonna do to be sober today?"
As depicted here


Perhaps you meant that in your words? I don't know

Read more about about the 90-days HERE

You're invited to click on the GPS in my signature
Hatzlacha!!