Was listening to the song "from the ashes" by Abie Rotenberg, and I had a thought
The song brings out, as only Abie knows how, the unbelievable and unfathomable gevura our grandparents had, having barely survived the inferno of the Holocaust, having lost everything, and yet they set out to rebuild. And rebuild the did! They built the communities we see today, thriving and growing. They had  nothing and no one, and yet, they somehow persevered, digging into the deep reservoirs of strength and faith that a Yid has, and somehow managed to restart, to build together such beautiful families and communities.

And as I was listening to this, I had the thought. 

Klal Yisroel is much bigger than today, yesterday and tomorrow. We have been challenged throughout the ages, and we are still here. We had many challenges prior to the Holocaust, and there was the unique challenge of the post-Holocaust generation.

And our generation has its challenge. 
And our children will perhaps be challenged by this in an even stronger way.

And we, the people fighting to stay as pure as we possibly can, as we are challenged by the decadent society that surrounds, as we try so hard to rebuild our sense of kedusha, as we try so hard to rebuild our inner selves, as we try mightily to fix the things that were destroyed, we face a daunting challenge. That of rebuilding ourselves from scratch, of relearning how to behave, of rebuilding our connection to Hashem. All while we look back at the past and see spiritual ashes
And yet, we see geboirei Chayil, warriors of the highest order, facing such difficult challenges and rebuilding in spite of it all. Klal Yisroel has a rich history, and we have grandfathers and grandmothers to inspire us, with but the clothing on their backs, with but tears for them to drink, with but pain for them to eat, they worked to rebuild from the ashes.
And today's rebuilders take strength, as they contemplate the ashes of parts of their insides, and the only thing they can feel is an overwhelming sense of sadness, of terrible loss, of the lost innocence, of the lost years, of the lost growth. And yet, they are here, one day at a time, rebuilding themselves, rebuilding their lives, rebuilding a person that can be the next link in the glorious chain of Yiddishkeit. 
My dear friends, perhaps there will one day be a song about us. About the builders who stood among the ashes of their lives and pulled themselves together, gave each other strength, and paved the road for the next chapter of klal Yisroel.
But perhaps there will be no song.
Yet every single one of the wonderful fighters here is writing the most beautiful, exquisite song for all eternity, the song of רצוננו לראות את מלכנו

eerie wrote on 27 Jan 2025 19:50:

Sholom dear eerie! i feel a little weird responding to u! but hey just a small thought that went through my head, who cares what others think AT ALL, we gotta just focus on doing what's right, and not the image, (like my dear friend tells me many times ) either way loving ur honesty, hatzlocha raba from the mir!

With tears in my eyes, I beg you Hashem, עד הנה עזרונו רחמיך, ועל תטשנו לנצח!!!!!!!
Please RBSO, just as you have helped me, in your infinite kindness, to reach this milestone, please help me continue to grow, stronger and stronger, closer and closer to You. And, please, I beg You, Hashem, your children cry from the depths of the YH's clutches, they are in such pain, they really want to be close to You, they really want to make You proud. The challenges are tremendous. Please, I beg you, Hashem, help Your beautiful children come close! Minimize the challenges. Show them how much you love them and the efforts they make even in the depths. Please Hashem, take us out of this galus. We just can't take it here anymore! We need your holy embrace!
And dearest, amazing friends and brothers, thank you for all you always do for me. Impossible to describe. Hashem should pay you all back for all that you do!

Mazel tov!!!

Eerie, you’re an inspiration to us all! To see that beautiful round number is to see emese kedusha, a living embodiment of ODAAT, and a tzaddik who doesn’t stop helping others…. And trucking!

With boundless brotherly love,
Muttel

Mazel tov 900!!

Hadran alach, Hadran alach! 

Its amazing to see how much a person can change and grow, Its almost unrelatable to me, but i know its possible, thanks to you showing me the way.

MAZEL TOV REBBI !!!!!!!      YOUR NUMBER INSPIRES ME,  THE MORE ZEROS YOU HAVE YOUR NUMBER BECOMES INDEFINETLY GREATER !!!      rabboysay lets take all our zeros all our falls all our second looks......   and use them to help our other brothers that ned all the help they can get , just like our rebbi r eeire did.                                                                       imh vieter by the ganz gye mishpacha 

I have been dealing lately with a couple where the wife busted her husband and found out all about his infidelity. The massage parlors, the porn, the phone relationships. As you can all imagine, all hell broke loose
And I found it fascinating that this woman is mostly destroyed by the fact that her husband was shmoozing with Jewish women on the phone. Women he never met. In her words, the having sex in the massage parlors, the porn, even the discussing inappropriate things on chat lines, that doesn't kill her. She understands that men can have a tayva, and they'll do crazy things to get their tayva fulfilled. Of course it bothers her, very much so, but it doesn't kill her. It's the shmoozing about stam things with those Jewish women that he found on those cursed chat lines that she can't forgive. In her words, "am I not even good enough for a conversation?"
There's the part that she sees this as a relationship, as a threat to her own, etc. Bottom line is, a woman can be much more distraught that her husband is casually shmoozing with another women in an inappropriate setting, than she is by the fact that he had sex with other women

eerie wrote on 26 Feb 2025 00:37:

Well, it's a very different type of conversation when it's lust oriented, no?! מים גנובים...

eerie wrote on 26 Feb 2025 00:37:

Powerful.
Just want to accentuate the obvious: you’re not mitigating the fact that many women would murder their husbands (and dismember them limb by limb) for having any kind of physical contact with another woman, let alone sex. You’re pointing out that  to some women, casual intimate conversation can be as bad (or in this particular case worse). 

לא בא רבינו להקל על החמורות אלא להחמיר על מה שנראה כקלה, שאף זו מן החמורות, ודו״ק

yiftach wrote on 26 Feb 2025 00:46:

Of course. And that's what I have been trying to explain to her, when she's calm enough to listen, that these women don't replace her, he has no real relationship and caring for these women, and even the stam shmoozing is just a way to fill his tayva. 
Depending on her mood, she can hear it somewhat.
But it still kills her the most of all his misdeeds

chaimoigen wrote on 26 Feb 2025 00:48:

ABSOLUTELY! 
I don't want to imagine what most women would do their husband when they find out what this woman did. I want people to realize that 'just' chatting on the phone, and even if not seriously inappropriate stuff are being said, is enough to drive a wife insane
And, being honest, wouldn't it drive any one of us insane if we found out our wives were doing something like that?

chaimoigen wrote on 26 Feb 2025 00:48:

ישמע חכם ויוסיף לקח, שמש״כ רבינו לעיל ״דיסמעמבער לימב בעי לימב״, בוודאי אין בכוונתו להקל על האבר שפשע בה, כמו הסיפור של לארינא באביט , רק שדיבר בלשון זך ונקי , וד״ל

eerie wrote on 26 Feb 2025 00:37:

Chat lines with frum ladies you say? Do tell me more.  Call a spade a spade. He cheated on her. With some women he cheated physically, and with some women he cheated emotionally. It makes sense that a woman would be more bothered by the emotional element of the cheating than by the physical cheating. 

youknowwho wrote on 26 Feb 2025 01:10:

Once again it all goes back to לארינא באביט

She would be thrilled to know how she is inspiring the generations

Just saw this now..... (hey am i even later then py?!!!!!!!), to add my 2 cents from the point of view as someones who's been there and done that........ sorry chachomim but what this women is saying and feeling is basic stuff........., to me the chiddush would be the other way around...., what a women needs and craves most is to find chein in their husbands eyes, that's her essence it's her mohus, so when she finds out that her husband is in a emotional relationship with someone else, then she feels no existence at all, not just is her husband crazy....... but she feels like she herself is worthless, and that is a indescribable pain........., on the other hand this that her husband is acting out in all these crazy ways while it hurts her tons tons tons... and she is in alot of pain, it is still not reiring uhn her gontzeh metzius in the same oifen (although it is also.... but it's not as deep...), ok enough with my rambling, and please hashem help out all the yidden, r' eerie wishing you much hatzlocha with them!!! my heart goes out to her and to him.

kol tuv from the mir!