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Re: Make it to Yeshiva 23 Sep 2020 23:55 #355400

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Markz wrote on 23 Sep 2020 23:39:

YeshivaGuy wrote on 23 Sep 2020 22:50:
Do u think there’s a particular reason I should speak to him on the phone?

If you’re looking for someone to chat about messiah, islam, girls, and a tried and tested way to get out of lust rut, he’s a good candidate and there are others here too.

Again only when you’re ready up for the challenge.

Until then you’ll have to be your own boss to make sure the Apple doesn’t take another bite out of you...

Not really looking to shmuze bout Islam etc with anyone, but “getting out of lust rut” sounds good.
Though I had a coffee today and learnt a geshmak second Seder with my chavrusa in my room and feeling pretty good, so i think I’m pretty fine.

Plus, I hear Dov is for addicts, and though I’m never bashful to admit my chesronos or challenges, I truly don’t believe I’m an addict, but rather a regular guy with taavos.
Again, If you disagree, then I welcome all thoughts- I am open to being wrong.
Thank you for your concern!

Re: Make it to Yeshiva 24 Sep 2020 04:27 #355420

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That’s a misconception, he will help anyone and in fact feels strongly that many if not most of us here are NOT addicts...
He gave me some really good advice and perspective.

Either keep strong! Your an incredible guy!

Re: Make it to Yeshiva 24 Sep 2020 05:48 #355427

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17 days so far with touching my “ever” for hanaa.
Taiva now to be nichshal. Won’t give in.
Gn fellas!

Re: Make it to Yeshiva 24 Sep 2020 11:37 #355433

Why taka doesn't Dov post on these forums any more?

And yeshiva guy, you're doing great. About addiction, there are a few questions I've seen (I think in the GYE handbook) that try and figure out if you are an addict. Its not gonna be foolproof, maybe worth a look though.

All the best.

יהי רצון שהדברים לתועלת

Today I will do what others won't, so tomorrow I can do what others can't.
We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence then, is not an act, but a habit.
We all make choices in life, but in the end, our choices make us.

Re: Make it to Yeshiva 24 Sep 2020 16:17 #355443

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I’m in quarantine by myself in a room.
Outside my door there’s a group of the Yeshiva having minyanim etc.
I feel like HaShem has brought me here into his “yichud room” and is telling me he wants a relationship with ME personally.
I wasn’t going to minyanim, so HaShem brought my bedroom to to the minyan, same with Seder.
This is incredible Hashgochas HaShem.
May I be zoche to capitalize.

Re: Make it to Yeshiva 24 Sep 2020 19:41 #355450

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Im Tevakshena Kakasef wrote on 24 Sep 2020 11:37:
Why taka doesn't Dov post on these forums any more?


The greatest of GYE have been pondering this for many years to no avail...


P.S. Once again @yeshivaguy you just never stop amazing me with your attitude.

May you carry this awesome attitude of yours forever and maybe see if it is contagious...

Hatzlachah and feel good.
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Re: Make it to Yeshiva 24 Sep 2020 20:03 #355453

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Takin a moment to post this.
Its hard cuz I’m in a room myself and all my chavrusas aren’t available to learn on the phone, so there’s bigger Yetzer to be motzei zera.. 
Usualy when I’m in the bais medrash I don’t even think about it, but now I’m learning right next to my bed and no BODY can see me.

But HaShem sees me.
I will fight hard. May this be m’chaper for all the times I thought I can hide from HaShem. For all the times I thought no one was watching me.
May HaShem see that I am machshiv His metsius-and want to be part of “His plan”

Thank you all for the support.
I will really need it to get through the next few days without even touching my “ever”.
And then we go home for Bein hazmanim with more nisyonos!

Its gonna be a fun ride together
And I wouldn’t be on this journey without you all.
Thank You!!
Last Edit: 24 Sep 2020 20:05 by YeshivaGuy. Reason: Spelling

Re: Make it to Yeshiva 24 Sep 2020 21:56 #355464

Just you and Hashem. A special form of yichud. To be moitzei zera is to introduce another into the mix, namely your fantasy. Try keeping this unique one on one with Hashem.

Love the updates. Stay strong.

יהי רצון שהדברים לתועלת

Today I will do what others won't, so tomorrow I can do what others can't.
We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence then, is not an act, but a habit.
We all make choices in life, but in the end, our choices make us.

Re: Make it to Yeshiva 25 Sep 2020 04:49 #355474

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i-man wrote on 24 Sep 2020 04:27:
That’s a misconception, he will help anyone and in fact feels strongly that many if not most of us here are NOT addicts...
He gave me some really good advice and perspective.

Either keep strong! Your an incredible guy!

i-man wrote:
and(dov) in act feels strongly that...most of us here are NOT addicts...

wow ,thanks for this info i-man, so your saying that dov feels that the way to go to for most of us here is not the 12 steps, but the plain old Torah Tavlin mehalich,Musar,and heartfelt Prayer .
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Re: Make it to Yeshiva 25 Sep 2020 05:22 #355475

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You would have to ask him that ,via wequithiding@gmail.com

Either way let’s not hijack yeshivaguy’s thread , we are all getting inspired by him and hopefully he can be mechazek from others as well.

Re: Make it to Yeshiva 25 Sep 2020 05:48 #355476

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Hey guys,
long story.. bkitzur, I’m heading home now...
Things have been exciting, this isn’t the place to discuss it though.
Will keep y’all posted about the nisyonos and the Kavod Shamayim that awaits.
We’re gonna need “all hands on deck” fellas.
I need y’all to get through this.
No watching stuff online and NO touching the “ever.”

I am riding Hashems train, and hope I may grow along the ride.

Re: Make it to Yeshiva 25 Sep 2020 14:06 #355485

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i-man wrote on 25 Sep 2020 05:22:
You would have to ask him that ,via wequithiding@gmail.com

Either way let’s not hijack yeshivaguy’s thread , we are all getting inspired by him and hopefully he can be mechazek from others as well.

great point  iman , yeshivaguy keep it up, were rooting for you 
For an explanation on my choice of username and avatar see my first post 

Re: Make it to Yeshiva 25 Sep 2020 16:46 #355496

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YeshivaGuy wrote on 25 Sep 2020 05:48:

I am riding Hashems train, and hope I may grow along the ride.

With the amount of guys following this thread, it’s time we opened a virtual Yeshiva. 

Btw how’s your sense of smell? Are you back to yourself
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Re: Make it to Yeshiva 25 Sep 2020 17:39 #355499

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Markz wrote on 25 Sep 2020 16:46:

YeshivaGuy wrote on 25 Sep 2020 05:48:

I am riding Hashems train, and hope I may grow along the ride.

With the amount of guys following this thread, it’s time we opened a virtual Yeshiva. 

Btw how’s your sense of smell? Are you back to yourself

It’s a big chizzuk for me, all you guys caring so much. It really means a lot.
And I wouldn’t mind if one day we had an in person reunion of the talmidei HaYeshiva sometime...

I feel great bh. I had only sorta lost taste but even then I was able to taste abit.
Just got test results-was negative.
But my parents want me to test again...
So I’m staying in our rv in the driveway until I get tested again and get the results..
Its pretty agitating cuz after all this craziness and finally negative test I wanted to just be able to enter the house, but I understand, my parents are high risk...

If I woulda stayed in Yeshiva last night, I would’ve gotten corona virus, so it’s good I left.
Not so excited for Yom Kippur here, especially since it’s more modern here...
But once again, I’m trying (though unsuccessfuly) to remember that I live in HASHEMS world. Not mine.

My Avodas HaShem is still feels shver, especially with all this uncertainty. Slept late again until 12pm.
Havent davend normal shachris all week!

At this point I feel powerless. I have nothing.
I turn to HaShem with no accomplishments or hard work.
And you’ll all say” but Shmiras habris! Your doing great!”
And that’s true. But there’s many more mitzvos folks!
And I gotta do those too...

Ah, the life of a Yid. Complicated. Volatile. And gripping.

Any chizzuk would be great.
Especially a rebuttal to my last point.
Thanks!
Last Edit: 25 Sep 2020 18:52 by YeshivaGuy. Reason: Spelling

Re: Make it to Yeshiva 25 Sep 2020 19:17 #355502

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You're right. Everything matters. But that also means your success in Shmiras habris also matters.

In fact, it matters a lot. The fact that it's so hard makes it so important and valuable. It's such a big aaccomplishment that it might have joined many other things. 

The main thing is instead of viewing it as your whole point is not to mess up in any area of avodas Hashem, view it as you are able to accomplish in avodas Hashem in many different areas. And each one is very valuable, and you are accomplishing a lot. Like you're collecting a lot of different kinds of diamonds, instead of that you're trying to avoid smearing ink on a painting. Not "I better not mess up in any area," but "I am trying to accomplish in many different areas."

On a related note, sometimes it's just very practical and good to work on other areas of Avodas Hashem, and when you're a growing and you feel it, it boosts your Shmiras Habris too. My best recommendation is that you get your hands on Rabbi Bentzion Shafier's shmuzin, that are so many topics. He has a series on Taivah called The Fight, but maybe it's good to focus on something else. (They're free on theshmuz.com or you can get The Shmuz App.) Start growing in other areas too. It will lift you up.

Hatzlocha
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Rabbi Shafier's incredible lectures on breaking free: The Fight. Download here: 
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