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I am a chosson baruch hashem and i need help! 16 Nov 2017 00:03 #322472

mevakesh1818 OFFLINE Fresh Boarder Posts: 2 Karma: 0	I am new to gye and recently got engaged baruch hashem. I am wondering if anyone can help give me guidance to better prepare myself for marriage?
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Re: I am a chosson baruch hashem and i need help! 16 Nov 2017 00:08 #322473

Markz OFFLINE Platinum Boarder Posts: 8204 Karma: 426	MAZEL TOV!!! Welcome - have you heard of Dov and Simcha Feuerman
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Re: I am a chosson baruch hashem and i need help! 16 Nov 2017 00:37 #322474

mevakesh1818 OFFLINE Fresh Boarder Posts: 2 Karma: 0	no. please tell me more. thank you.
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Re: I am a chosson baruch hashem and i need help! 16 Nov 2017 02:09 #322475

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Truth and honesty. Be the person she thinks she is marrying.

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Re: I am a chosson baruch hashem and i need help! 16 Nov 2017 02:54 #322478

Markz OFFLINE Platinum Boarder Posts: 8204 Karma: 426	serenity wrote on 16 Nov 2017 02:09: Truth and honesty. Be the person she thinks she is marrying. I heard that from someone I look upto, but I needed tuning. Truth and honesty are crucial in marriage but that doesn't make someone a great husband. And if he's masurbating occasionally and tells his wife, that's not the best honesty for marriage either Are you still serene?
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Re: I am a chosson baruch hashem and i need help! 16 Nov 2017 05:21 #322485

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Mazel tov! It should be with brocho and hatzlocha. Find yourself a chosson rebbi. Most nowadays are very well trained in guiding chassanim with the issues they may be struggling with or confused about. Just for starters keep telling yourself that marriage is about giving and giving and then even more giving. Don't worry, you will get too, but that cant be your focus. Your wife is not your cook, maid, and pleasure machine. However if you treat her properly and with humility, iyh you will benefit greatly and feel very proud of yourself. Keep in touch for more.

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Re: I am a chosson baruch hashem and i need help! 16 Nov 2017 23:15 #322531

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marriage is about giving and giving and then even more giving.

So true!!

Another point: now as a chosson, it seems very obvious that making your marriage great is the most important goal in your life. But let me share with you that once you're a year or two down the road, other priorities will arise, be it parnassa, kids etc etc and your marriage can fall to the sidelines. The key is to always remember how important it is for you! For if it is the most important thing in your life, anything you will learn will be easy to implement. But if it falls to the sidelines, things get much more complicated.

Anyways, you're in a great place; welcome abroad and stay connected!!

Last Edit: 16 Nov 2017 23:16 by LoveU,Hashem.

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