A little bit about myself I am 40 Chasidish Happily married B"H I have no smiras ainayim problems but being that my wife has a Chronic Disease/and emotional issues which she is being helped for she is rarely up for intimacy so as to not have to make her feel pressured for intimacy I have opted for masturbation instead which helps me relax when I want to be intimate with her approval.

​I have browsed this site a few times but never thought of taking the plunge but I decided last week and said to hashem I take upon myself to not masturbate and in that zechus he should take the koach of my zera and give it to a friend of mine who has  been married for 10 years with no children and give him children.

Clean for six days!

Good move!

btw did she have these issues before marriage?

Chronic disease she did not have, the emotional a little but got a lot worse after the chronic disease.

alexgso wrote on 24 Oct 2017 20:05:

Oy - that doesn't sound pleasant. Refua Sheleima!

Welcome. Sounds tough. Great progress so far. Stay connected and iyh you will have success. Maybe take another plunge and speak to some of the chevra. You can do so anonymously.

Welcome!  I wish you all the best.