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Re: my problems 22 Mar 2017 01:43 #308768

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that's what we are here for. this is a great place.
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Re: my problems 22 Mar 2017 22:17 #308873

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yes i'm extremely happy that i formally joined gye
i used to just look for articles now i can feel the support

btw anyone with a hard past feel free to post maybe i can share what i learned from my therapists
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Re: my problems 22 Mar 2017 22:22 #308875

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Most of us here have had challenging pasts and would appreciate your sharing any advice you received in therapy.
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Re: my problems 23 Mar 2017 01:05 #308888

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the absolutely most useful thing i have learnt is a way to to conquer ALL negative feelings. Whether it is anger regret anxiety etc. 

the nature of a person when confronted with bad feelings is to run away so to speak. i used to think through all the arguments i should've told my mother. why are you bossing me around? hitting me? and i would think how unfairly she treated me all due to my pent up anger

the better way to deal with this is what is called CBT or cognitive behavioral therapy which i can't adequately describe you should really see a professional for more help but basically it is that instead of dealing with your emotions you tell yourself i can handle the pain and you allow the pain of the anger to just sit still sort of and focus on it

let me know i this helped

maybe i'll elaborate in a later post 
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Re: my problems 23 Mar 2017 05:11 #308909

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mikestruggling wrote on 23 Mar 2017 01:05:
the absolutely most useful thing i have learnt is a way to to conquer ALL negative feelings. Whether it is anger regret anxiety etc. 

the nature of a person when confronted with bad feelings is to run away so to speak. i used to think through all the arguments i should've told my mother. why are you bossing me around? hitting me? and i would think how unfairly she treated me all due to my pent up anger

the better way to deal with this is what is called CBT or cognitive behavioral therapy which i can't adequately describe you should really see a professional for more help but basically it is that instead of dealing with your emotions you tell yourself i can handle the pain and you allow the pain of the anger to just sit still sort of and focus on it

let me know i this helped

maybe i'll elaborate in a later post 

How long have you been practicin' cbt?
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Re: my problems 23 Mar 2017 17:23 #308976

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4 years or so

are you familiar with cbt?
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Re: my problems 27 Mar 2017 18:22 #309390

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hi i'm back i had a rough couple of days

maybe someone wants to take me step by step through taphsic

maybe email me mikefineroth@gmail.com 
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Re: my problems 27 Mar 2017 18:50 #309397

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Re: my problems 27 Mar 2017 23:09 #309424

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mike, sorry to hear about your rough days. BH you have the courage to post that. Honesty is what makes men around here. Reach out and talk to people. It really helps.
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Re: my problems 29 Mar 2017 14:06 #309598

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had a fall last night i wrote down what i was thinkingi don't like being myself (having to deal with anxieties)i am annoyed at my social anxiety (the feeling that everyone thinks i'm worthless)i am sick (and therefore) i am afraid of lack of sleep (had a hard time falling asleep)

anyone have any tips please feel free to post here or email me (1st post ayin sham)
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Re: my problems 29 Mar 2017 14:40 #309604

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maybe try cure the craving his cds are great to boost your confidence and teach you how to deal with anxiety

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Re: my problems 29 Mar 2017 17:38 #309622

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whose cds? carlebach?
was listening last night to The Fight by r bentzion shafier the shmuz about conquering desire
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Re: my problems 30 Mar 2017 10:02 #309678

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Re: my problems 30 Mar 2017 12:41 #309691

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mikestruggling wrote on 29 Mar 2017 17:38:
whose cds? carlebach?
was listening last night to The Fight by r bentzion shafier the shmuz about conquering desire

cure the craving. com 

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Re: my problems 30 Mar 2017 14:18 #309698

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thanx

not feeling well i have some sort of cold thats being passed around together with the down of a fall it doesn't go well together.

anyway i modified y taphsic my last thing was too easy now in addition i need to learn an amud gemara before a fall moshcheihu lbais hamedrash 

thanx again for the replies
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