Welcome, Guest
Welcome to our forum! Introduce yourself here (anonymously, of course) and get a warm welcome from the rest of the community!
  • Page:
  • 1

TOPIC: First timer 3280 Views

First timer 09 Oct 2016 09:25 #296062

  • Bobcohen
  • Current streak: 9 days
  • OFFLINE
  • Fresh Boarder
  • Posts: 4
  • Karma: 0
This is a first for me to sign up to this kinda thing, but I realized I need it and wasn't strong enough on my own against my 4g unlimited data. Anyways thought of saying hi. 
Hope we all succeed
Bob Cohen 

Re: First timer 09 Oct 2016 11:23 #296073

  • Markz
  • OFFLINE
  • Platinum Boarder
  • Posts: 8259
  • Karma: 428
Welcome!!
My Story---------Dov Quotes




FREE LUST TRUCK TOWING
Click HERE to checkout;
100 Day Success Stories: cordnoy, Dov, Gevura and more...
• Awesome Threads Saved for You
• Cast Your Vote

GYE Plenty Solutions
➣ The Mark of Torah - Lust Chizuk

➣ Nice Trucking Story

Re: First timer 09 Oct 2016 11:32 #296077

  • trysohard
  • Current streak: 2809 days
  • OFFLINE
  • Expert Boarder
  • clever avatar goes here
  • Posts: 97
  • Karma: 7
Hi there!
There sure is plenty of help here!
clever signature goes here

Re: First timer 09 Oct 2016 12:39 #296079

  • teshuvahguy
  • Current streak: 6 days
  • OFFLINE
  • Platinum Boarder
  • Posts: 417
  • Karma: 24
Hi, Bob! Welcome to the GYE community. 

Re: First timer 09 Oct 2016 12:45 #296080

  • Newleaf354
  • Current streak: 106 days
  • OFFLINE
  • Junior Boarder
  • Posts: 32
  • Karma: 2
Hi Bob.

Good move.  How are you finding GYE so far?

Good luck,

NL354

Re: First timer 10 Oct 2016 13:59 #296151

  • Bobcohen
  • Current streak: 9 days
  • OFFLINE
  • Fresh Boarder
  • Posts: 4
  • Karma: 0
Thanks ppl for support. 
Its aight. Altho finding it annoying that so much info everywhere at once. Need only one article of video or audio at a time, they have everything availabe, also I don't log onto email everyday or this website...its a step to have to initially go on the website yourself. Watever I don't know. Also I don't believe I am a porn addict, just I want to get rid of it comoletlely... Not sure if this is right place for that. This seems more like for more extreme cases. I could be wrong. What you think?

Re: First timer 10 Oct 2016 14:01 #296153

  • shlomo24
  • Current streak: 1 day
  • OFFLINE
  • Platinum Boarder
  • Posts: 2213
  • Karma: 135
Bobcohen wrote on 10 Oct 2016 13:59:
Thanks ppl for support. 
Its aight. Altho finding it annoying that so much info everywhere at once. Need only one article of video or audio at a time, they have everything availabe, also I don't log onto email everyday or this website...its a step to have to initially go on the website yourself. Watever I don't know. Also I don't believe I am a porn addict, just I want to get rid of it comoletlely... Not sure if this is right place for that. This seems more like for more extreme cases. I could be wrong. What you think?

All are welcome here. There are those who are "severe" and those much less. 
If you're an LGBTQ or LGBTQ-questioning person and looking for someone who can understand you, feel free to reach out. I promise no judgement and to try and listen the best I can. 

Email: iam24zman@gmail.com

Re: First timer 13 Oct 2016 14:04 #296316

  • Newleaf354
  • Current streak: 106 days
  • OFFLINE
  • Junior Boarder
  • Posts: 32
  • Karma: 2
Bobcohen wrote on 10 Oct 2016 13:59:
Thanks ppl for support. 
Its aight. Altho finding it annoying that so much info everywhere at once... This seems more like for more extreme cases. I could be wrong. What you think?

Just download the GYE Handbook and start with that, one page at a time!

The biggest chochmah of this place is davka that it's not only for extreme cases.  The handbook was laid out with great thought, starting with the simplest tools that really EVERYONE should have, and it moves GRADUALLY to stronger measures.  It's sort of like, "you tried tool 1 and it wasn't enough, okay, so move on to tool 2 and see if that helps." And you can basically stop at whatever level is right for you.

That's what got me into recovery.  I started off getting the chizzuk E-mails, but I kept acting out (for some people they get a little chizzuk and that's all they need). So then I got active in the forum (I'm on a second gilgul here now, but a few years ago, under a different name, I was very active here). For some people, that's enough, but I still kept acting out, so then I joined the anonymous phone conferences.  That really helped--I had months at a time with clean streaks instead of just a few days or weeks.  But I still kept acting out, so I joined face-to-face 12-step meetings.  I've had a few falls with this, but they have been a year or two apart, and I think it was at times when I was easing up on my recovery efforts, or undergoing extreme difficulties in my life (it used to be that the slightest discomfort would send me running to act out).  So I think I'm at the right level now, as long as I take it seriously.  Baruch Hashem, I am not anywhere near needing those extreme tools at the back of the GYE handbook, which would mean to check myself into a mental treatment center or to chemically castrate myself for the sake of recovery.

Hatzlacha,

NL354

Re: First timer 13 Oct 2016 22:16 #296357

  • Markz
  • OFFLINE
  • Platinum Boarder
  • Posts: 8259
  • Karma: 428
Can someone pls give NL354 another thank you so I can put his post under the new "Post of the Year 5777" thread
My Story---------Dov Quotes




FREE LUST TRUCK TOWING
Click HERE to checkout;
100 Day Success Stories: cordnoy, Dov, Gevura and more...
• Awesome Threads Saved for You
• Cast Your Vote

GYE Plenty Solutions
➣ The Mark of Torah - Lust Chizuk

➣ Nice Trucking Story

Re: First timer 14 Oct 2016 01:13 #296378

  • trysohard
  • Current streak: 2809 days
  • OFFLINE
  • Expert Boarder
  • clever avatar goes here
  • Posts: 97
  • Karma: 7
Markz wrote on 13 Oct 2016 22:16:
Can someone pls give NL354 another thank you so I can put his post under the new "Post of the Year 5777" thread

done 
clever signature goes here

Re: First timer 14 Oct 2016 11:35 #296399

  • Bobcohen
  • Current streak: 9 days
  • OFFLINE
  • Fresh Boarder
  • Posts: 4
  • Karma: 0
Wow.
NL354, I really appreciate that you took the time and effort to write that up. It means a lot. As I read it I felt like it was coming from your heart and you were writing it like I would right a personal message to my best friend. Yet you have no idea who I am and probably won't ever. 
I guess I'm starting to see the benefits of gye.
I'm going to download the handbook now.
Thanks so much. 
Good shabbos
Sincerely grateful
Bob Cohen
Last Edit: 14 Oct 2016 11:38 by Bobcohen.

Re: First timer 14 Oct 2016 19:29 #296452

  • gibbor120
  • OFFLINE
  • Platinum Boarder
  • NEVER EVER GIVE UP!
  • Posts: 5251
  • Karma: 166
Welcome!  Make a committment and don't look back.  It'll be the best decision you ever made.  We are here for you.

Re: First timer 18 Oct 2016 07:56 #296535

  • Newleaf354
  • Current streak: 106 days
  • OFFLINE
  • Junior Boarder
  • Posts: 32
  • Karma: 2
Bobcohen wrote on 14 Oct 2016 11:35:
Wow.
NL354, I really appreciate that you took the time and effort to write that up. 

I'm glad you found that helpful.
  • Page:
  • 1
Time to create page: 0.59 seconds

Are you sure?

Yes