Friends,

After spending the last 10 years never having gone without p and mzl for more than a few days at a time. This summer i worked hard to kick this habit. 

I've been clean for 73 days and counting. I'm excited to pass the 90 day finish line. After I got through a month, it pretty much just flowed for me. I don't trust myself and know it's a lifelong struggle. But I feel well equipped to handle it. Hashem has guided me in this process and I have tremendous hakarras hatov.

Below are a few points that may be helpful for the olam.

i started learning Sefer  zos brisi (Hebrew version) regularly  - it is amazing - great stuff in there - one point that spoke to me was the quote that pgimas habris causes aniyus, (it can change a mazel of ashirus to aniyus) and vice Versa shmiras habris can even change a person's mazel towards ashirus.

I feel that learning it regularly keeps me continually strengthened about how bad mzl is. And certainly how bad porn is. 

Another thing I read was about the fact that zerah is meant to go into a beis kibbul. That is the mitzius of it. I found that interesting.

i learned more Torah. Gemara with ameilus. It helped me be misgaber.

i avoided going into the city. I haven't been to Manhattan for 6 Months. I don't go on trains buses etc. 

i pretty much avoided reading any news. Listening to any radio and watching any movies etc

i davened for it

i donated monthly to GYE (I figured it is a  helpful site to the olam, and also, I reasoned that most don't have the funds to donate and probably there is a lot of stigma attached to the site- wives wouldn't understand unless they caught their husband. So a wife mah be against making a donation.  I believe people should donate at least something minimal- even $10 a month or whatever. It offers good resources. Ir give something annually.  It is a unique tzedekah and must have a high overhead. 

surprisingly, pas besalo didn't help me. I'm b"h at the stage where I don't need it. Whether it is yemei niddah or not. I'm ok. of course when it happens, it's great. But it's not a need, such as food. This is something I read from markz early on. It's a deep idea. 

I kept myself busy and I avoided ribui gashmius.