Thank you I will do that but I want to have a private chat with someone who is married that can teach me what marriage is truly about. Thank you!

SimonConfused wrote:
Why?

Uri, it's the Bochurim who are actually lucky. "The less you feed it, the less you need it". This is the real- real truth, not just a saying. A Bochur, with a little hard-work in the beginning, can learn to completely let go of lust to the point that he just forgets about it, while a married man has to keep walking a tight-rope of balance!

30 Aug 2009

Uri,

I wish I would have dealt with this head on  when I was a bachur! Do you know what kind of damage this wreaks in a marriage? I'm not going to get into details - do you know how difficult it is to appreciate a Bas Yisrael when she's competing with sdom v'amorah? And don't you think she feels that - and creates a horrid cycle.

You are the lucky one; IY"H b'ito u'bzmano you will be able to start with a fresh start with your wife ; not have to rebuild like the rest of us. And B"H rebuild we are - but what a bracha to meet a kallah b'kedusha u'b'tahara! (And of course, we can't reiterate enough - marriage will not cure any of this! Doesn't matter who you marry! No way Jose!)

I am sure the married chevra agree.

Chazak V'Ematz! And I"YH you will be paid back 100 times more in your married life for all of you difficulties now

Marriage is not a cure all.
There are tons of people in the B"B section.
As a matter of fact, we have a waitin' list now.
we are waitin' for someone to recover, so he can leave, and the next guy can enter.