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Re: My Story / Asperger 27 Mar 2016 01:59 #282565

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Re: My Story / Asperger 27 Mar 2016 02:32 #282579

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markz wrote on 27 Mar 2016 01:59:

unnecessary. but thanks all the same. 

i would show my hakaras hatov to mark by wearing this:

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Have a corny day ... and if you do have other plans, change 'em!!
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None of us has it all together, but together, we have it all.

we always put our sobriety before our ego -
מוטב שאקרא שוטה כל ימי ואל אהיה רשע שעה אחת לפני המקום

לפעולות אדם בדבר שפתיך אני שמרתי אורחות פריץ. תמוך אשורי במעגלותיך בל נמוטו פעמי. תהלים יז
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- THE BEST THREAD ON THE FORUM; READ, POST, AND HAVE A GREAT TIME
 

Re: My Story / Asperger 27 Mar 2016 03:38 #282595

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I thought it might have a different meanin', but the only place in Shas (I think, but then again, i haven't been battin' too good lately, and especially on this thread) is Brachos 26, where there it clearly means to daven, and with Mark's mareh makom as well, I will put this baby to rest. I always liked the vort. Thank you
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If one gives up at the first sign of a struggle, he is really not ready to be successful."
"Tryin' and doin' are two different thin's - tryin' is hopin'; doin' is succeedin'.
"The right thin' to do and the hard thin' to do are usually the same."


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Re: My Story / Asperger 27 Mar 2016 04:00 #282602

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cordnoy wrote on 27 Mar 2016 03:38:
I thought it might have a different meanin', but the only place in Shas (I think, but then again, i haven't been battin' too good lately, and especially on this thread) is Brachos 26, where there it clearly means to daven, and with Mark's mareh makom as well, I will put this baby to rest. I always liked the vort. Thank you
 

brachos 13, 17, 26, 27, 28, 29, 30 ....
bava basra 10b
yoma 53b
nidda 14a
eruvin 65a
rosh hashana 35a
sota 33a
chagiga 11b 
suka 41b
shabbos 30b
moed katan 28a
taanis 13b
kesuvos 67b

...  i am sure there are others.
cords!!!! i missed you soooo much. it's good to be back.
Have a corny day ... and if you do have other plans, change 'em!!
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None of us has it all together, but together, we have it all.

we always put our sobriety before our ego -
מוטב שאקרא שוטה כל ימי ואל אהיה רשע שעה אחת לפני המקום

לפעולות אדם בדבר שפתיך אני שמרתי אורחות פריץ. תמוך אשורי במעגלותיך בל נמוטו פעמי. תהלים יז
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- DOWNLOAD GYE HANDBOOK & READ AT LEAST TWICE
- OVERDOSE OF DOV: READING MATERIAL TO KEEP ME SANE
- THE BEST THREAD ON THE FORUM; READ, POST, AND HAVE A GREAT TIME
 

Re: My Story / Asperger 27 Mar 2016 04:05 #282604

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oh i forgot brachos 6b and 7a.
Have a corny day ... and if you do have other plans, change 'em!!
peloni_almoni@hotmail.com

None of us has it all together, but together, we have it all.

we always put our sobriety before our ego -
מוטב שאקרא שוטה כל ימי ואל אהיה רשע שעה אחת לפני המקום

לפעולות אדם בדבר שפתיך אני שמרתי אורחות פריץ. תמוך אשורי במעגלותיך בל נמוטו פעמי. תהלים יז
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- SOLUTIONS: WHERE DO I FIT IN TO GYE
- DOWNLOAD GYE HANDBOOK & READ AT LEAST TWICE
- OVERDOSE OF DOV: READING MATERIAL TO KEEP ME SANE
- THE BEST THREAD ON THE FORUM; READ, POST, AND HAVE A GREAT TIME
 

Re: My Story / Asperger 27 Mar 2016 04:11 #282605

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I was referrin' to מצלי ואזיל.
Perhaps some of your places say that as well, but not in the four that i checked.

sounds like you're excited though; that's good.
We're glad to have you back.
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If one gives up at the first sign of a struggle, he is really not ready to be successful."
"Tryin' and doin' are two different thin's - tryin' is hopin'; doin' is succeedin'.
"The right thin' to do and the hard thin' to do are usually the same."


Disclaimer: I am not a cheerleader; B"H, there are many on the site. I am here to change myself, and with God's help, by some mistake, I might even help change others.

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Re: My Story / Asperger 27 Mar 2016 04:13 #282607

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I don't know if you want to stay too long on this thread, my amiretus עמ׳רצות may rub off on you
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Re: My Story / Asperger 27 Mar 2016 04:20 #282611

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cordnoy wrote on 27 Mar 2016 04:11:
I was referrin' to מצלי ואזיל.
 

thank god. you had me scared.
Have a corny day ... and if you do have other plans, change 'em!!
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None of us has it all together, but together, we have it all.

we always put our sobriety before our ego -
מוטב שאקרא שוטה כל ימי ואל אהיה רשע שעה אחת לפני המקום

לפעולות אדם בדבר שפתיך אני שמרתי אורחות פריץ. תמוך אשורי במעגלותיך בל נמוטו פעמי. תהלים יז
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- SOLUTIONS: WHERE DO I FIT IN TO GYE
- DOWNLOAD GYE HANDBOOK & READ AT LEAST TWICE
- OVERDOSE OF DOV: READING MATERIAL TO KEEP ME SANE
- THE BEST THREAD ON THE FORUM; READ, POST, AND HAVE A GREAT TIME
 
Last Edit: 27 Mar 2016 04:21 by peloni almoni.

Re: My Story / Asperger 30 Mar 2016 16:47 #282968

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Guys - here's why I appreciate the.guard's forum and YOU!

When I started gye הטהור more than half a year ago I asked the following question  "I've been wondering if people with mild aspergers are more vulnerable to the lure of pornography"

I quoted from "Asperger Syndrome and Sexuality".
The gist of that article was that lust can be caused from the aspect of relationship, where aspie young adults are often immature (although they may be interested in sex and dating at the same time as their peers).


The.guard sent me a great parenting handbook. Yesterday I found something interesting there (pg 20)

"Researchers describe four pre- existing conditions that put an individual at high risk for getting into trouble on the Internet.
1- They are lack of family bonds;
2- low self-esteem;

3- inability to express opinions and questions;
4- inability to socialize"


If this is true, it puts all Aspergers that often have all 4 conditions, in a very tough predicament - high risk for getting into trouble on the Internet

I want to focus on the last point and quote rabbi keleman from further in that Handbook

4. Inability to Socialize:
Data indicate that many who turn to the internet for pornography or social contact do so because they consistently fail to succeed socially in their own world.First, there are the socially inept. These are individuals who never mastered how to get along with others. When they were young, they often studied straight through recess or preferred playing computer games or doing other solitary activities. In some cases, they wanted to play with everyone else but were excluded. In their pre-teens or even earlier, these children were joining the ranks of the “at-risk” for later internet involvement."


OTR quoted yesterday the following that
"The opposite of addiction is not sobriety.
The opposite of addiction is connection. 

And our whole society, the engine of our society, is geared towards making us connect with things not people"

 'gettingcloser' said correctly on page 1 that "Aspergers do care about relationships". But they lack social skills and therefore are often without close friends, as I experienced. I have many relatives, but none close. 

Today I feel a close friendship with many guys on guardyoureyes without mentioning all the countless חברים!
Even with you Dov, who can't believe that an anonymous relationship for someone on gye is considered a real relationship (as it is for me)

I feel that this could be a Major part of my sobriety - the.guard took my "inability to socialize" and created a socializing forum, which it alone could be why my lust overdrive has crashed.

It's still spluttering - relax, ok?
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Re: My Story / Asperger 30 Mar 2016 20:02 #282985

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Wow, that is a really good point. I never thought of that. Are you this social "in the real world", because you do seem to have the skills...
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Re: My Story / Asperger 30 Mar 2016 20:06 #282987

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Mark, great point. Maybe this new skill can be transferred to face-to-face relationships as well? I know nothing about Asperger's so I may be off-base, but just speaking from my experience, I have found that I learnt new skills in the safe anonymity of the forum which I have then been able to apply in real life as well.

Think how life would be if you weren't addicted to GYE...less fun for everyone else, of course.
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Re: My Story / NON Asperger 03 Apr 2016 23:17 #283409

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newsflash.gif

I have formerly handed in my resignation from the league of Aspies
I HAVE GRADUATED

I have morphed into a regular Neurotypical guy on the street

See ye all later
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Re: My Story / Asperger 03 Apr 2016 23:30 #283412

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Prove it

Re: My Story / NON Asperger 04 Apr 2016 00:33 #283413

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markz wrote on 03 Apr 2016 23:17:
newsflash.gif

I have formerly handed in my resignation from the league of Aspies
I HAVE GRADUATED

I have morphed into a regular Neurotypical guy on the street

See ye all later
:pinch: Warning: Spoiler!

i saw this coming a mile away
you know, mark, remind me never to become enemies with you. because you do not forgive and forget easy.
Have a corny day ... and if you do have other plans, change 'em!!
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None of us has it all together, but together, we have it all.

we always put our sobriety before our ego -
מוטב שאקרא שוטה כל ימי ואל אהיה רשע שעה אחת לפני המקום

לפעולות אדם בדבר שפתיך אני שמרתי אורחות פריץ. תמוך אשורי במעגלותיך בל נמוטו פעמי. תהלים יז
__________________________________________________________
LINKS:
- SOLUTIONS: WHERE DO I FIT IN TO GYE
- DOWNLOAD GYE HANDBOOK & READ AT LEAST TWICE
- OVERDOSE OF DOV: READING MATERIAL TO KEEP ME SANE
- THE BEST THREAD ON THE FORUM; READ, POST, AND HAVE A GREAT TIME
 
Last Edit: 04 Apr 2016 00:35 by peloni almoni.

Re: My Story / Asperger 04 Apr 2016 00:41 #283414

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Have a corny day ... and if you do have other plans, change 'em!!
peloni_almoni@hotmail.com

None of us has it all together, but together, we have it all.

we always put our sobriety before our ego -
מוטב שאקרא שוטה כל ימי ואל אהיה רשע שעה אחת לפני המקום

לפעולות אדם בדבר שפתיך אני שמרתי אורחות פריץ. תמוך אשורי במעגלותיך בל נמוטו פעמי. תהלים יז
__________________________________________________________
LINKS:
- SOLUTIONS: WHERE DO I FIT IN TO GYE
- DOWNLOAD GYE HANDBOOK & READ AT LEAST TWICE
- OVERDOSE OF DOV: READING MATERIAL TO KEEP ME SANE
- THE BEST THREAD ON THE FORUM; READ, POST, AND HAVE A GREAT TIME
 
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