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Re: My struggles with kedushah 22 Nov 2024 17:52 #425647

Have been having a very rough time in yeshiva, very often I'm craving for a release without having any sort of healthy outlet.
Sometimes I have a taavah to let the stress out with m, haven't given in once the entire zman.
Right now holding by almost 4 weeks, last fall was Shabbos parshas bereishis (spellcheck disagrees, insists that it was Shabbos pashas burnishes.)
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Re: My struggles with kedushah 22 Nov 2024 17:57 #425648

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tzaddikvikam13 wrote on 22 Nov 2024 17:52:
Have been having a very rough time in yeshiva, very often I'm craving for a release without having any sort of healthy outlet.
Sometimes I have a taavah to let the stress out with m, haven't given in once the entire zman.
Right now holding by almost 4 weeks, last fall was Shabbos parshas bereishis (spellcheck disagrees, insists that it was Shabbos pashas burnishes.)

First. That's amazing! Kudos to you.

Second. This is definitely shailas chacham chatzi teretz. Find an outlet! 
20 minutes of daily exercise is very healthy, and a lot of people have found exercise very helpful. I'd also recommend finding some daily responsibility in yeshiva you can do. This will help in multiple ways, but is a longer schmooze than I have time for right now though. 

Re: My struggles with kedushah 22 Nov 2024 18:43 #425653

I've talked too many chachamim, so far don't have any eitzos.
The problem isn't that I don't have any outlets.
The problem is that none of my outlets are enough against what I'm dealing with.
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Re: My struggles with kedushah 22 Nov 2024 18:58 #425654

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chosemyshem wrote on 22 Nov 2024 17:57:

tzaddikvikam13 wrote on 22 Nov 2024 17:52:
Have been having a very rough time in yeshiva, very often I'm craving for a release without having any sort of healthy outlet.
Sometimes I have a taavah to let the stress out with m, haven't given in once the entire zman.
Right now holding by almost 4 weeks, last fall was Shabbos parshas bereishis (spellcheck disagrees, insists that it was Shabbos pashas burnishes.)

First. That's amazing! Kudos to you.

Second. This is definitely shailas chacham chatzi teretz. Find an outlet! 
20 minutes of daily exercise is very healthy, and a lot of people have found exercise very helpful. I'd also recommend finding some daily responsibility in yeshiva you can do. This will help in multiple ways, but is a longer schmooze than I have time for right now though. 

I also found exercise very helpful but not enough by itself, I gained more by working on not needing the release and having exciting projects that occupied my time and mental and emotional energy. Also like the idea of accepting achrayos in the yeshiva.
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Re: My struggles with kedushah 22 Nov 2024 19:54 #425655

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tzaddikvikam13 wrote on 22 Nov 2024 18:43:
I've talked too many chachamim, so far don't have any eitzos.
The problem isn't that I don't have any outlets.
The problem is that none of my outlets are enough against what I'm dealing with.

Have you read the book The Battle of the Generation? Once you develop an excitement for the effort you are putting in to overcome it may make the wins more invigorating and may make the urges seem less powerful. 
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some of the experiences I write about may make it easier to identify me.  This is ok.  I trust that if anyone discovers my identity they will keep it to themselves.  If you do realize that you  know me, I am completely comfortable and welcome you acknowledging me and my struggle in person.

Re: My struggles with kedushah 22 Nov 2024 19:57 #425656

tzaddikvikam13 wrote on 22 Nov 2024 17:52:
Have been having a very rough time in yeshiva, very often I'm craving for a release without having any sort of healthy outlet.
Sometimes I have a taavah to let the stress out with m, haven't given in once the entire zman.
Right now holding by almost 4 weeks, last fall was Shabbos parshas bereishis (spellcheck disagrees, insists that it was Shabbos pashas burnishes.)

Most of the time, even when I'm craving an unhealthy release, I dont have any urges, and if I do, they're usually pretty weak.
But it still is the main trigger of urges when in yeshiva.
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Last Edit: 22 Nov 2024 20:12 by tzaddikvikam13.

Re: My struggles with kedushah 22 Nov 2024 20:01 #425657

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Sounds difficult….

Stay strong brother, we believe in you!

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