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מוצאי ט’ באב - Trigger 11 Aug 2024 11:10 #418873

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It's a day after ט’ באב.
Over the past 9 days there were many restrictions, a long fast, forcing yourself to shed a tear or two during the boring קינות... you felt tied, bit down, and yucky.
Finally you feel like a free man again!
Cut your hair. Do your beard. Take that long awaited, long hot yum shower...
You're busy with intense "body-care"...
BANG! The YH strikes! "Just do it... don't think too much... its Bein Hazmanim... release all the stress... have fun... soon its Elul and you don't want to be doing this then..."

Anyone relates to this מוצאי ט’ באב struggle?

I can see it happening and I'm getting worried...

Together let's beat the YH this year! Who's in it with me?
If you'd like to join me in this 1 day challenge, please click the "Thank You" button on this post.
On י”א אב I'll write a new post "Mission Accomplished" and anyone who managed to stay clean on the day after Tisha Be'av will click the "Thank you" button on that post too...

ברוב עם הדרת מלך

My favourite resources:
1. "זאת בריתי". hebrewbooks.org/56572 (PM me for a sharper version)
2. "שערי גדולה". hebrewbooks.org/48344
3. guardyoureyes.com/ebooks/item/the-battle-of-the-generation

My journey: Emunah struggles, Celebrating a fall, I'm fed up(main thread), I'm drowning, Tips for Shmiras Einayim.

Last Edit: 11 Aug 2024 11:13 by upanddown. Reason: Typo

Re: מוצאי ט’ באב - Trigger 11 Aug 2024 13:02 #418880

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Re: מוצאי ט’ באב - Trigger 11 Aug 2024 23:46 #418928

upanddown Current streak: 7 days OFFLINE Gold Boarder Posts: 186 Karma: 14	Amazing! We've already got a Minyan... who else relates with this struggle? Just hit the Thank You button on the first post to join this 1 day challenge!! Let's beat the YH together!!
	My favourite resources: 1. "זאת בריתי". hebrewbooks.org/56572 (PM me for a sharper version) 2. "שערי גדולה". hebrewbooks.org/48344 3. guardyoureyes.com/ebooks/item/the-battle-of-the-generation My journey: Emunah struggles, Celebrating a fall, I'm fed up(main thread), I'm drowning, Tips for Shmiras Einayim.

Re: מוצאי ט’ באב - Trigger 12 Aug 2024 17:22 #419013

upanddown Current streak: 7 days OFFLINE Gold Boarder Posts: 186 Karma: 14	Almost 20 special Yidden have signed up... Anyone else?
	My favourite resources: 1. "זאת בריתי". hebrewbooks.org/56572 (PM me for a sharper version) 2. "שערי גדולה". hebrewbooks.org/48344 3. guardyoureyes.com/ebooks/item/the-battle-of-the-generation My journey: Emunah struggles, Celebrating a fall, I'm fed up(main thread), I'm drowning, Tips for Shmiras Einayim.

Re: מוצאי ט’ באב - Trigger 13 Aug 2024 15:24 #419054

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Ready to hear a "quick fix"...?

Private hot showers aside, there's also the problem to the whole family fighting who gets to shower first, and who finished all the hot water...

Just take that first shower at the mikva. Unlimited hot water ( where i go it's unlimmited hot water ) and a 'supervised' setting [assuming you've never been triggered there b4 - no offense and plz do not try this if you have problems with urges at the mikva ]

Re: מוצאי ט’ באב - Trigger 13 Aug 2024 19:14 #419060

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1-12steps wrote on 13 Aug 2024 15:24:

Good idea. But if you've just cut your hair you'll likely leave behind some nice amount of hair floating in the mikva...

Re: מוצאי ט’ באב - Trigger 13 Aug 2024 22:32 #419072

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1-12steps wrote on 13 Aug 2024 15:24:

You got a mikva thats open at 1pm with ppl there as well?

Re: מוצאי ט’ באב - Trigger 14 Aug 2024 00:20 #419095

upanddown Current streak: 7 days OFFLINE Gold Boarder Posts: 186 Karma: 14	Last call for anyone who would like to join tomorrow's 1 day challenge... Just click the Thank You button on the first post. Wishing everyone a good fast!
	My favourite resources: 1. "זאת בריתי". hebrewbooks.org/56572 (PM me for a sharper version) 2. "שערי גדולה". hebrewbooks.org/48344 3. guardyoureyes.com/ebooks/item/the-battle-of-the-generation My journey: Emunah struggles, Celebrating a fall, I'm fed up(main thread), I'm drowning, Tips for Shmiras Einayim.

Re: מוצאי ט’ באב - Trigger 14 Aug 2024 12:06 #419133

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upanddown wrote on 14 Aug 2024 00:20:

Last call for anyone who would like to join tomorrow's 1 day challenge...
Just click the Thank You button on the first post.

Wishing everyone a good fast!

Can I join without clicking the Thank You?
Will it even be counted if I abstain without clicking?
Will Hashem know?
Cuz if not, I might as well go watch porn, what with missing the last call and such.

Re: מוצאי ט’ באב - Trigger 14 Aug 2024 12:31 #419135

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thompson wrote on 14 Aug 2024 12:06:

upanddown wrote on 14 Aug 2024 00:20:

Last call for anyone who would like to join tomorrow's 1 day challenge...
Just click the Thank You button on the first post.

Wishing everyone a good fast!

Thompson, we love you dearly.. and thanks for bringing in some humor into the forums..
But you missed the point. Clicking the thank you button isn't for yourself. It's for us. It's a support for others. Because when we're together in a battle then it's easier to win our enemy!!

Re: מוצאי ט’ באב - Trigger 14 Aug 2024 17:56 #419175

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Chevra

If this is a challenging time for you during the weeks of Bein Hazmanim, as indicated by this thread, then the והאר עינינו program may be what you are looking for.

Learn any Sefer about Shemiras Einayim for 5 minutes a day, they recommend והאר עינינו in either Hebrew or in English with a calendar for the entire period from י' אב through the first day of ראש חדש אלול. There are daily and weekly raffles as an incentive.

Call 732-400-9005 to sign up, follow the prompts.

Call 732-569-8564 for more information or to get booklets for your community. You must sign up by today י' אב.

Come fly with me as I fly higher!
My Story

Feel free to reach out to me.
138.124.eagle@gmail.com

Re: מוצאי ט’ באב - Trigger 14 Aug 2024 18:29 #419177

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138eagle wrote on 14 Aug 2024 17:56:

Chevra

If this is a challenging time for you during the weeks of Bein Hazmanim, as indicated by this thread, then the והאר עינינו program may be what you are looking for.

Call 732-400-9005 to sign up, follow the prompts.

Call 732-569-8564 for more information or to get booklets for your community. You must sign up by today י' אב.

Yasher koach for bringing that up.

You can get a free ebook of the English version on the GYE website here

Agav, that book contains some of the most interesting stories of gedolim I've ever heard, including this gem about Rav Aharon Kotler:

On one occasion, it just so happened that Rav Aharon
Kotler, ztz״l, inadvertently saw something unsuitable when
turning a corner. His anguished reaction was to lean against
a wall and weep. His citadel had been breached. ״Ribono
Shel Olam״ he cried, ״You took away so, so many of our
brothers and sisters in the holocaust. Why did You leave me
alive?״ He would have preferred death at the hands of the
Nazis rather than life in America if that meant sullied eyes.

Tzarich iyun katan.

The rest of the book is great.

Links: TBOTG (and a peirush); F2F Program; Hall of Fame thread; Dov's 12 Step Workshop recordings; Welcome New Members; Muttel's Bochur Schmooze; The Easy-Peasy book; The Big Book (a pdf version) (and the White); Markz's compilation thread; Accountability relationships;
Me: My trip. Please feel free to reach out.
CLICK HERE TO JOIN THE VAAD PROJECT. HERE is an explanation of the Project.

Re: מוצאי ט’ באב - Trigger 15 Aug 2024 12:19 #419213

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upanddown wrote on 11 Aug 2024 11:10:

Mission Accomplished bh.

Together we'll continue to fight עד הניצחון!

Last Edit: 15 Aug 2024 12:46 by upanddown.

Re: מוצאי ט’ באב - Trigger 15 Aug 2024 22:59 #419267

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Just sharing a great Chizzuk i felt when saying Kinna 23 which describes the story of the son and daughter of Rabbi Yishmoel who were captured and put in the same dark cell at night...
The boy said נין אהרן איך לשפחה יהי נושא. The girl said בת יוכבד איך לעבד תנשא...
Young teeangers with such a pure השקפה... This is the way a Yid refrains from an עבירה. We are בני מלכים and just don't do these things. We live a higher life. And we must make sure to give this "Stoltz" over to our children and Talmidim...