Grant400 wrote on 29 May 2023 14:33:

Very powerful point. I often find it difficult to face this truth and try to convince myself that the first method is accomplishing the second, although deep down we all know it ain't so. I think the way you articulated this so clearly might help me face this more honestly. 

Posts don't create accountability, but connecting through them can.

There's a big difference between being clean - and not acting out.

Grant400 wrote on 01 Jun 2023 01:37:

There most certainly is!

Grant400 wrote on 01 Jun 2023 01:37:

Can you elaborate a bit on this one? I'm not quite sure I get what you're saying.

Giving up porn isn't a sacrifice, it's an investment.

monseyyid41 wrote on 01 Jun 2023 14:39:

Being clean, is when changes are made and growth happens to facilitate long term improvements. Not acting out means you just didn't act out yet.

Very often, in order to get better, you're going to have to hurt more first.

When the going gets tough

We want our wives:

To be spontaneous - on our schedule.

To have pleasure - for our benefit. 

To make it meaningful - but animalistic. 

To have fun - but follow our script.

I pity them. Us too.

I pity us more

Yeshayahu 41:6 wrote on 04 Jun 2023 21:01:

(probably explains why I can barely get a $@%&$% clean week off the ground)

Grant400 wrote on 04 Jun 2023 19:17:

I have finally found the place in my heart to forgive you for the audacity of clamping down and shutting the StoryTeller auto-biography. 

KOP!!!

Markz wrote on 04 Jun 2023 21:20:

Kop? Don’t you mean KOR ?

If you are not willing to accept being controlled by sexual desire, manipulated by the porn industry, and out of control of your life anymore - then you are ready for changes.

But -

If you are not willing to accept frequent discomfort (in the beginning), periods of overwhelming desire, occasional pain, and lots of brutally hard work - then you are not ready to make changes.