These are very true and smart points, and being able to tell it to yourself while your down, is amazing. saying this while feeling good to another fellow is one thing but saying it to yourself is something else... 
keep us updated, hope your feeling better soon!

ColinColin wrote on 25 Jan 2021 23:11:

I really love something I heard from one of my rebbeim that חשבון הנפש is NOT on action but on our NEFESH. @willdoit's nefesh is doing really well now! All that fighting ODAAT, letting go, davening etc. 
Keep up the good inspiring work willdoit

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He has guided me as well toward a completely new experience.

And I too, look forward to meeting him BEZH in a couple weeks.

Cant wait to celebrate with you in 9 days!

I had a simchah last night and saw some well dressed women and I really got carried away and today I keep obsessing about what I saw.
​This is something that I keep stumbling on, no matter how many times I promise not to look I just keep on giving in.
Any advice on how to stick to Guarding my eyes??

Thank you!

Thank Hashem that he made beautiful people, then daven that they have an easy life - nachs from their kids, financial peace, feel well, etc... This will remind you that they are people with lives of their own - not your toys. Obviously, do your best to look away, but at all costs - do not obsess or panic about this. That's exactly what your yetzer hara wants you to do. Accept the nisayon and ride its waves.

Hello,

Just to share, I got to 90 days clean from mb and porn b"h.
​To be honest, I did have some serious slips here and there and was really close to falling but hashem saved me.
Thanks to you my dear friends for being there for me when in need.

Thank you Hashem!! 

Mazal Tov! May this be the beginning of a long ,clean healthy life beH!

willdoit wrote on 04 Feb 2021 22:11:

Mazal Tov! Keep going strong brother!
How are you celebrating this huge milestone? 

MAZEL TOV!

May you go from strength to strength!

90 days is a huge milestone however the YH doesn't magically disappear in thin air. He will nag and beg but now that 90 days have passed you realize you can live without the garbage.

I myself haven't got to 90 days but I'm certain the YH will show up to say hello. Just now you can react in a healthy way.

Keep strong and keep being an inspiration!

Thank you all for these nice bruches.
May hashem help us all stay clean and give us the clarity on how to deal with this monster Y"H.

Yours truly
Willdoit,

Zedj wrote on 05 Feb 2021 06:48:

Very well said!
This is actually my 3rd time making it to 90 days, I went as far as 150 days and fell. So 90 days is none magic number. But it certainly shows us that we could live without it and with time going by it DOES get easier though.

But even then the urges do revisit here and there and we need to be on guard and keep in mind what worked for us and stick to it.

Big Mazel tov!!! May you be able to stay clean, and grow with harchuvas hadaas! And iyh by all of us!

Sapy wrote on 05 Feb 2021 15:34:

Thank you!
​Waiting to celebrate with you in 74 days Iy"h.
One day at a time!

willdoit wrote on 05 Feb 2021 15:33:

Hey, thanks for the chat today; you seem like a swell guy!
Nice on your milestones.
You were about to tell me the tools you use to stay sober; I'll look here later, as in this thread it just seemed that you're trying to control the urge when it comes, which is good and more than I can say for myself right now, but I was wondering about the proactive methods that you use.

Thanks so much