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My journey 12 Jan 2021 16:01 #361153

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Re: My journey 12 Jan 2021 16:11 #361154

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Take each day, one at a time. Don't worry about next week. Don't even think about tomorrow. Just push through the day. You can go weeks free like this. It hopefully gets easier after a few weeks, but beware, the urge can become seemingly overpowering without warning - no matter how long you have been pure. Just push through it. Don't give in! Focus on some other important topic, pray, post on GYE and in a few minuets the urge will subside.

Keep it going strong!!
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Re: My journey 12 Jan 2021 17:46 #361162

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Hi willdoit! And tischadesh on your own thread! Looking forward to hear from you!
I relate alot to your issue, my urges also lately come to me late at night in bed, when I'm not doing anything, so I relate to the issue of focusing on something else.
For me to de-objectify works great, it can even be if it's in your imagination, if a particular scenario comes up in your head try thinking about that person when they have a hard day, is down etc that helped me alot.
Also try to take a few minutes then of giving in your mind, like thanking hashem for the good things you have, I find that giving is a contradiction with lust in a way, and it changes my mode.

Best of luck! Keep us posted!

Re: My journey 12 Jan 2021 19:30 #361164

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Re: My journey 12 Jan 2021 21:33 #361172

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willdoit wrote on 12 Jan 2021 19:30:
Thanks@DavidT@Sapy, For your response.

Just a little update. Hashem gave me 2 hours of freedom from this monster (Urge), But now he is back again.

Wanna just share with you guys our dialogue:
Urge: Go mb now, YOU NEED TO RELEASE THE TENSION. 
Me: I hear your suggestion, however don't wanna do it.
​Urge: Why not?? You need to explain, can't just say no without explanation. 
Me: You may be right, however i am willing for now to do things that don't make any sense.
Urge: Well I'm not leaving you alone, ill chase you the entire day.
Me: Ok, No problem, make yourself comfortable here. but hope you don't mind that i wont get into any further discussion with you, so whenever you pop up ill just say hello and will move on and stay present and refocus on my surroundings.

Beautiful post! 

Btw have you written a cba (cost-benefit analysis)? 

If yes, the conversation continues: anyway I can't think straight with you on top of me. I get what you're saying but when I'm thinking clearly I usually come to the conclusion that No. Even as a stress reliever. 


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Re: My journey 12 Jan 2021 22:35 #361180

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Re: My journey 13 Jan 2021 18:31 #361246

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Re: My journey 13 Jan 2021 19:46 #361253

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willdoit wrote on 13 Jan 2021 18:31:
Hello,

​I had a very hard last night, even woke up in middle of the night with a powerful urge, I literally felt like exploding. So I just closed my eyes and begged hashem from the bottom of my heart, please, please hashem take it away from me, you want me to stay clean, and so do I - and helped me he did, and i made it thru b"H.

Today is easier b"H.

Thanks for listening


The holy Steipler Gaon of Bnei Brak once said, “There is no such thing as a sincere prayer that goes unanswered. Any heartfelt request addressed to Hashem must be answered. It can’t be otherwise."

The Hebrew world for prayer “tefillah” comes from the root “palel” which means to connect. A successful prayer doesn’t necessarily mean that we get what we ask for. Hashem is not a vending machine and there are times when the answer we receive is “no.” But the prayer may still be deemed “successful” since the primary goal of prayer is to connect with Hashem. That has been accomplished.

Keep strong! 
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Re: My journey 13 Jan 2021 22:26 #361273

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willdoit wrote on 13 Jan 2021 18:31:
Hello,

​I had a very hard last night, even woke up in middle of the night with a powerful urge, I literally felt like exploding. So I just closed my eyes and begged hashem from the bottom of my heart, please, please hashem take it away from me, you want me to stay clean, and so do I - and helped me he did, and i made it thru b"H.

Today is easier b"H.

Thanks for listening

Amazing. Very impressive
Thank You!

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Re: My journey 14 Jan 2021 15:44 #361319

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The GYE motto at it's finest!

One who has given up hope is without a G‑d.

One who sees hope in each day is already free

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Re: My journey 25 Jan 2021 22:49 #361925

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Re: My journey 25 Jan 2021 22:59 #361927

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Re: My journey 25 Jan 2021 23:11 #361931

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I think being self critical is a common trait amongst us on this Forum.

We have to learn to conduct a sensible Cheshbon Hanefesh, without being too harsh.
If we put ourselves down, it can lead to depression which can lead to sin.

We have to remind ourselves of our good points.
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