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about to visit a massage parlor 05 Feb 2016 02:16 #276726

SimonConfused
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hi guys, i don't want to post in my old forum because no one will read it so I am posting a new post to get your attention

okay so basically 10 minutes ago i was going to go to a massage parlor to get a "massage" plus a bit more...I am really struggling with this issue. What deterred me was the money ($100/hr) dont get me wring, im a college student and I am make no money at all so this was a tough choice for me. I knew I could buy plenty of stuff for that amount of money that are valuable (sefarim, clothing, gifts, tzedakah) and yet I was really gonna go.

You know how I stopped myself? Guess?

I masturbated...once one is done with that, he is totally shut off and not interested in women for a bit...im sure u know what i mean

SOOO, thats really messed up...I need help with this prostitute issue..it will leak into my marriage, right? Besides the fact that it costs a whole lot of money...someone please help me and if someone with experience has gone thru this, please please please private message me.

Thanks

Last Edit: 05 Feb 2016 02:17 by SimonConfused.

Re: about to visit a massage parlor 05 Feb 2016 02:20 #276728

Markz OFFLINE Platinum Boarder Posts: 8228 Karma: 426	Hi my friend in need If you give me your bank info, I could go around to my friends and make a collection for you so you will never lack funds
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Re: about to visit a massage parlor 05 Feb 2016 02:23 #276729

SimonConfused OFFLINE Junior Boarder Posts: 27 Karma: 0	Thank you for the gesture Markz, but I am not poor. I can afford to live and my parents are supporting me, but $100 is alot of money and I would pay out of my own pocket for these things so it would be a hit to me

Re: about to visit a massage parlor 05 Feb 2016 02:28 #276732

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Thanks for the share.
If the money is the issue, we certainly cannot help you.
What is your biggest concern?
What have you tried for recovery in the past?
B'hatzlachah

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Re: about to visit a massage parlor 05 Feb 2016 02:30 #276733

SimonConfused OFFLINE Junior Boarder Posts: 27 Karma: 0	Money is the issue, but if I find someone for cheap then I will go. No I have not tried anything, but a fun thing that was supposed to be a one-time thing is starting to become a regular occurrence.

Re: about to visit a massage parlor 05 Feb 2016 02:35 #276735

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Once again, if money is the reason you wanna stop, we cannot help you. Masturbating is free....go for it!

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Re: about to visit a massage parlor 05 Feb 2016 02:37 #276736

SimonConfused OFFLINE Junior Boarder Posts: 27 Karma: 0	SO you suggest I just masturbate every time

Re: about to visit a massage parlor 05 Feb 2016 02:40 #276738

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SimonConfused wrote on Unknown:

SO you suggest I just masturbate every time

you are here to save money, I answer accordingly.

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Re: about to visit a massage parlor 05 Feb 2016 02:41 #276739

SimonConfused OFFLINE Junior Boarder Posts: 27 Karma: 0	I am here to talk to someone who has gone thru this, not someone with witty comments Thanks for nothing

Re: about to visit a massage parlor 05 Feb 2016 02:46 #276740

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Why don't you read my thread and see what I went thru?
I asked you a simple question: why do you wanna stop? You said because it costs too much money.
What would you like me to do?

Should I tell you that you might catch a disease?
Should I tell you that God and the Torah frown on such behavior?
Should I tell you that you will lose your loved ones and your work?
Should I tell you that your life will spiral downwards?
Should I tell you that you will lead a depressing life?

I'm sure you know all of the above.

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Re: about to visit a massage parlor 05 Feb 2016 02:49 #276741

SimonConfused OFFLINE Junior Boarder Posts: 27 Karma: 0	Okay so tell me what you went through please...I'm only 20, my friend and I feel like a total idiot...I'm not on the level to really care about torah and hashem frowning yet but the physical aspects DO frighten me

Re: about to visit a massage parlor 05 Feb 2016 02:55 #276743

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SimonConfused wrote on Unknown:

Okay so tell me what you went through please...I'm only 20, my friend and I feel like a total idiot...I'm not on the level to really care about torah and hashem frowning yet but the physical aspects DO frighten me

what does physical aspects mean?
Look in my signature and read the thread called tryin'.

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Re: about to visit a massage parlor 05 Feb 2016 02:57 #276744

SimonConfused OFFLINE Junior Boarder Posts: 27 Karma: 0	Sickness, depression, losing career and loved one... okay

Re: about to visit a massage parlor 05 Feb 2016 12:48 #276780

Markz OFFLINE Platinum Boarder Posts: 8228 Karma: 426	Hi Simon I hope this morning finds you in a better state of mind than last night There are MANY guys that recovered from acting out in the ways you do I beg of you, PLEASE read some success stories - found on the "Free Towing" page. Also I highly recommend you install a GPS. Both are found in the signature below You have it in you to get your truck out of this snowpile!!
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Re: about to visit a massage parlor 05 Feb 2016 13:15 #276785

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Wow, that ws a refreshingly honest and simple post!

Nothing surprising here, at all, tho. Most of us have used sex and masturbation to manage our problem for years and years. Your valiant attempt at satisfying yourself enough not to do something even more scary, is noted.

I relate very much, and am glad to report that recovery really works - when one really works it - and I have not had to use a massage parlor in many years now, thank G-d. And there are hundreds of us who I know personally, not just virtually. And since starting recovery seriously, I have not even had to 'manage' the desires by acting some of them out as you describe so honestly here, for many years now, too.

There is freedom from this stuff, but it comes at a price. If you are willing to pay a price to let go of this sweet erotic thing that is obviously so precious to us (cuz you see that it really is deeply precious to you, right?), then we can talk about it, if you like.

Scary, huh?

- Dov

"Off the 18-wheeler and fine on this tricycle!", "I do not particularly care exactly which "lav" suicide is. I'm not interested in it for other reasons...and you are probably the same."