doing fine day 6 b"h

an addict is always absorbed in himself whatever i do i am constantly evaluating how i feel am i feeling good right now am i in pain etc.after a whole day of being busy with myself its no wander that i act out. just saying.

Yeah, we are supposed to be aware of ourselves but sometimes it can lead to self-absorption otherwise known as selfishness.
I hope you are aware that doing for others-chesed-is a fundamental part of recovery

At any rate, 6 days is great and tomorrow you will I"H reach a GYE milestone of 7 days.

Certainly something to look forward to

Overthinking, a typical attribute by lots of us here!

It's really amazing how much energy gets used by all that thinking, and the mood swings that I can get from them....sheesh!

BUT...That having been said, trying to fight it has never worked. When I realize what I'm doing, the only thing that helps to not let it get in my way is to just smile at myself, acknowledge that it's not really that important, and try to continue something more productive.

KOMT!!! KOP!!

What a great idea. Every time I think about how I feel, I can call my wife to see how she is doing.
Now I will not need reminders to contact my wife, my own selfishness will remind me.

Keep it up. Glad to hear that you are doing well.

day 9

all is good b"h in the lusting department. i"m having some very strong anxiety episodes which may or may not be related to withdrawal symptoms, i would imagine that it has somewhat to do with it since iv"e been surviving through lust for the last several months

a point. the nature of my job is so that i am in a constant struggle of gaining approval of a whole lot of people. that has exacerbated my nature of being a taker not a giver because i am constantly evaluating myself how did i perform in the eyes of others, am i getting what i need am i being approved of etc. after a days work of working on getting and not being sure that i actually received what i crave for, i naturally descend to the outlet of ultimate taking which is lust. by going into my job striving to be a giver and actually practicing it i might be able to alleviate this addiction.

Some good thinkin' there, but I am sure there are many facets of life where you can focus on givin'.....howbout marriage? i know that's a yuchy one, so perhaps you can think of other scenarios.

bhatzlachah

mggsbms wrote:


There is a book called "7 habits of highly effective people". In his first habit he discusses ways of turning situations like you describe into being proactive and not relying on approval as much as seems necessary.

I recommend it. It is a good read and might be beneficial to you.

unanumen wrote "There is a book called "7 habits of highly effective people". In his first habit he discusses ways of turning situations like you describe into being proactive and not relying on approval as much as seems necessary.

I recommend it. It is a good read and might be beneficial to you"

thanks a lot will definetly look into it

day 14 b"h, it has been a real new start so far so good

unanuman thanks so much for the referral to this great book, so much chochmas hachaim its riveting !!

We all know the famous story of the truck that got stuck under an over pass till someone came along and introduced the brainstorm of letting out some air from the tires. Reb m biderman uses this as an ingenious metaphor to those of us who are stuck in life – lets leave out some air and not be so full of our-self's... Then we will actually get moving .

day 22

hey yshar koach!

i heard once that 22 is the gimatria becho wich alludes to "becho yevorech isroel"
hashem gives you his brocho!

good luck!

every action has a philosophy behind it, my acting out is based on the philosophy that lust is my right.