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A question we received: When I was young I watched lots of bad things. Later, I became frum and got over the whole thing and married a very nice frum girl and we have a great marriage. But a couple of years after I was married it started to bother me that she was flat-che...

An excerpt sent to us from a website on breaking porn addiction Answer: Most people who are addicted to pornography claim they are more sexual than the average person thereby rationalizing their need to rely upon porn. In most cases their sexual batteries are charged up b...

I've read the first step and admitted powerlessness. But I am finding that this is dangerous for me. Once I start falling I just give up and say, "well anyway I'm powerless"! GYE Replies: This is a common misunderstanding in what the word "powerlessness" means. Powerless...

Someone wrote in to the GYE Helpline (gye.help@gmail.com). Hi, I read your article in the Jewish-Press about addiction and the fact that it's destructive. I'm a 21 year old yeshiva bochur and I don't know if you can call me addicted but I watch porn sometimes. I know it'...

"Sometimes my addiction makes me think, what's the evil in adultery? So many goyim do it today. Is there something intrinsically wrong with it, besides for the Torah forbidding it?" GYE Answers: Even without the Torah, adultery completely destroys the fabric of the famil...

Someone wrote us: I made a promise to HASHEM that I will not be pogem habris this week, but I broke it twice. I feel really bad, and I'm afraid that I will do it more times. What should I do? GYE Responds: Shavuos don't usually work very well in addictions - if the shavu...

Aharon emailed us: Hi Guard, From my experience, it's clear that long term recovery can only be achieved by "living right" one day at a time. "Living right" can mean different things to different people, but a relationship with Hashem is a core component by any definiti...

A member wrote on the forum: I fell twice again today, I really can see that I can't afford to take that 1st lust hit, because once I open it up, I'm powerless, I have to put the break on before that point. But what if my partner is unavailable? I haven't quite got the k...

"FightingYid" writes on our forum for the first time: My struggles with lust have plagued me since my 15th birthday. Since then, it's "all day every day". Now I'm never of fan of asking questions on Hashem, but I truly don't understand why he did this to me. I was given a...

We received an e-mail from a Bochur: I am dating seriously, and I know that this has been talked about on the forum and Dr. Twerski thinks you should share your addiction with your prospective marriage partner, but I am wondering, if I seem to be stable when I stay on top...

"I am 22 years old and have struggled with being shomer habris ever since I can remember. I am going to be living at home for the summer where there is unfiltered internet access. I already am slipping more. I do not feel comfortable asking my parents to install a filter....