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A client has asked me whether I would be prepared to be his Webchaver to help him stop watching porn. Essentially this means that there would be a download of the History of Sites he has visited and Alerts if he visits any porn sites, sent to my nominated email.

B”H, I’m doing okay — almost 12 full days - but I’m scared I will just have a sudden fall. I’m trying to put in an effort every day but maybe one day I’ll simply be possessed by my Y”H and masturbate, and either not care or just not have the power to stop it in the moment.

The problem is that you are fighting. A good driver needs guardrails only in an emergency - to drive constantly bumping against the guardrails is a problem. 

Question: Hi, I'm 26 years old. I am married for a bit over 5 years and from the beginning, have not had much of an attraction for my wife. However, after having 2 kids, my wife gained a lot of weight and now I have absolutely no attraction to her. I spoke to her about th...

QUESTION: I just came home from summer camp, and I found out my little brother got an iPod with unrestricted internet on it. I'm not sure what I'm supposed to do because I myself have unlimited internet. I'm scared he's going to end up like me. Can you help? ANSWER: Are y...

Question: I grew up without anyone teaching me about Kedusha issues, and I always thought that I was alone in my struggles and that I was a major loser. It wasn't until after my marriage that I found GYE and read the handbook (especially the "Attitude Principles") that I ...

"Workingmyprogram" asks: The klippa has us so confused - he makes us think we need to run to churches and goyim for help. We have the power of tefilla which is the strongest eitzah of all! Cry out to Hashem with genuine tears, and you will feel His closeness! Why all the ...

Question: I'm breaking free from porn, not masturbation. Does the one affect the other in terms of addiction or not? The 90-day chart for me isn't just a game to follow the rules for. I want to achieve my goal with it. Of course, I will do what is necessary in order to br...

Dear Crossroads, Excellent question. It seems that overall you are working on yourself and doing well, but you are still struggling with occasional falls. You should know that there is almost never such a thing as an "overcharged libido" by nature. Rather, our sages tell ...

A girl asked us: This is a bit embarrassing but I have this desire to look at my Israeli cousin's non-tznius friends online (Facebook & Instagram). Is this coming from a place where I wish I could look as good as them, or is it the yetzer hara trying to get me to lo...