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I like to be real, not philosophical. The body is craving the masturbation and does it ("leiv chomed uk'lei mayseh gomrin"). And the body rarely cares about philosophy, of course. The body is what's getting the payoff here. I would never have stopped due to halacha - aye, it hurts to admit that -...

Dov Responds: One of the safer places for a female sexaholic is a sexaholics meeting because the men there are known entities - they are all essentially wearing a sign over their heads that says to the female member, "Hi. I'm a womanizer/stalker/worshiper of people like you. Sorry." ; ; Now, cer...

; The Torah does not talk about ;any ;mental illnesses directly. The main reason this omission vexes so many and is a recurrent topic on GYE is simple: this particular addiction happens to involve ;a sin, while alcoholism and drug-addiction do not. Suddenly, an emergency ensues for frum people: ...

I believe that the main reason we cannot find one eitza that works is because an eitza is always, that means without exception, nothing more than a gimmick. ;Gimmicks are tricks that are used in order to bypass real change. They may ;prevent the behavior, but consider this: Removing the bad beha...

Dear GYE, I don't know what my husband does or doesn't do regarding the Internet - he plays the innocent card - but I caught him watching porn several years back, and he never came clean to me, ;saying, "it's in my past, I'm doing GYE." He gets your emails but they rarely get opened. ; I'm not su...

"Dear Nathan! Congratulations! ; That is beautiful. May Hashem be with you! ; In my opinion, ;your struggles in SA had nothing to do with their definition of sobriety, but rather with your sponsor. A sponsor should not consider lusting to be a fall unless the sponsee acted upon the lusting throu...

; Dov writes: Sometimes guys write to me about SSA. I responded to a couple of them with this (below) as a start to the right ;conversation: As far as myself, I do not see any similarity that homosexuality bears to addiction. Do you? It seems like a ;separate issue and therefor needs to be accep...

The GYE forums are often breeding grounds for heated discussions / arguments for and against 12-Step groups, whether or not they are in accordance with the Torah, and why or why not the Torah hasn’t been enough to stop the struggling Yid from his behaviors. Dov, who is clean in SA 12-Step groups ...

Someone wrote: I act out with masturbation more often and more rarely do I spend some time browsing dirty sites (like once a month or once in 2 months). Is there a point to make a TaPHSiC shvuah for the shmutz if I anyway can't stop the masturbation? ; ; GYE Responds: From an halachic point of...

Tomorrow I will iyH complete my first (hopefully of many) 90 days clean bH. My problem is that every time I start having accomplishments in these areas I start to feel like I overcame the problem and start slacking off and before long end up back @ square 1. My first question is what is the prope...