Prevention

Whether you’re an athlete, entrepreneur, teacher, parent, manager, or - fill in the blank here -, what percentage of your game do you think is mental? When Lanny Bassham, our Olympic gold-medal-winner, asks elite performers that question, they all say that elite perfo...

Habit #2 of "Seven Habits of Highly Effective People" by Stephen Covey Begin with the End in Mind So, once we move from being reactive to being proactive (Habit #1), we realize we aren’t victims. We’re creators. Which, naturally, begs the question: What do we want to ...

The accusations levied against Harvey Weinstein, Kevin Spacey, Louis CK and others for sexual assault, harassment and abuse have created righteous outrage and concerns that “sex addiction treatment” is being used to excuse their offensive behavior. It is critical to und...

Technology is a tool; it is not inherently good or bad. To keep it in a healthy place in our lives requires skillful use. Unlike passing trends that scared parents over the years, research shows poorly monitored screen time bluntly impacts kids for the worse. (Rock and ro...

Your phone’s slick, minimalist shell betrays a cacophony of alerts from apps, notifications from non-humans, and icons your fingers barely intended to graze. Yet there you are, ten minutes later, not even using the toilet at that point. Tristan Harris, a former design eth...

What if the biggest problem with our relationship to our phones wasn’t that we rely on them constantly—the “lazy brain” argument—but that we have a genuinely unhealthy, addictive relationship to them? .... From the narrator, philosopher Alain de Botton: To say we are addi...

Avraham Avinu is instructed by Hakadosh Baruch Hu to go up to the mountain and to bring Yitzchok as a Korban. R' Moishe Rosenstein gives a very beautiful and powerful insight as to why this was such a difficult test. He says, that when someone has a test and it's in fron...

One Shabbat, there was a man who came to the synagogue of Rabbi Berel Wein, in the Rechavia section of Jerusalem, accompanied by his three young sons, whom it turned out were of the ages 9, 7 and 5. Even with their long peiyot, they didn’t look Jewish with their stunning ...

I had had an amazing episode I would like to share with you. I had a big fall (again), and I was feeling terrible about life. Basically, I just had a baby boy born on Erev Succos, with Down syndrome and a few other complications, so it's been stressful, to say the least, ...

I’m in college and there’s non-tzniyus dress everywhere! I take off my glasses, no matter what I don't rationalize “I’m probably not going to see anyone right now.” Why? Why do I 'torture' myself? Because my life is on the line!!! My kedusha is at stake, what in the whole...

INTRODUCTION - CURTAIN CLOSING The 21st century confronts the Jew with unique challenges as never before. The long years of exile are drawing to an end, and the Satan is in his death throes, fighting with all his might before he is to be vanquished forever. As the curta...

J ean Twenge, a professor of social psychology, has written an important article in the current Atlantic, “Have Smartphones Destroyed a Generation?” that will provide much ammunition to parents concerned about their children’s use of iPhones, iPods, and various forms of s...

I saw an interesting drosho from the previous Klausenberger Rebbe, given approximately 40 years ago on parshas Kedoshim. He showed throughout history how all of our enemies who tried to destroy us physically rach"l, first tried to move us away from Hashem by causing us to...

Porn is addictive for the same reason that many drugs are addictive. Neuroscientist Dr. William Struthers explains how the brain reacts to viewing pornography repeatedly: As men fall deeper into the mental habit of fixating on these images, the exposure to them create...

Covenant Eyes | I need to be honest, I was reluctant to share my story publicly. Reluctant because women don’t struggle with porn, right? The Internet was not accessible for me when I was a teenager. It hadn’t yet infiltrated every aspect of our daily lives. I had no ac...

How Does Pornography Negatively Affect Children? These are a few of the effects referenced and cited in the paper: Pornography exposure at these young ages often results in symptoms of anxiety and depression. Children also report feelings of disgust, shock, embarrassment...

I don’t think anyone wants to put their marriage in jeopardy. In fact, we’ve heard from several readers that the only reason they “allow” porn in their marriage is to try to save or enhance it. They don’t want to push their husband away by putting “unrealistic expectation...

Pornography excites the brain, in part, because it gives us license to have unabashed sex. Like art, it's a personal taste: For some, porn is exhilarating and enjoyable with a partner, but for others, it embodies exploitation of the vulnerable. It's even difficult to dete...