Prevention

"The answer lies in what I learned from GYE: If you go out into the street expecting to somehow avoid gazing at forbidden things, you have lost the battle before you start. ;You have to train yourself in your own home to keep your focus within 4 amos of where you are walking so that you do not bu...

*I was getting my teeth cleaned today - by a female hygienist who had to reach over me a couple times. והמבין יבין. I tried so hard to control my thoughts and think of Hashem's love in giving me this test. And, you know what she said to me? "Wow! You're a great patient! Not even moving!" My gums ...

I've been thinking a lot about it lately and I realized that looking at inappropriate things is just like smoking - either first hand or second hand - and we should approach it the same way. Let me explain. Every time I walk around someone who smokes, I try to make sure I don't inhale any smoke b...

When a pleasurable and intimate activity is always shared with one person ( e.g., a wife) to the exclusion of anyone else, that both indicates a closeness and causes further closeness [siman ;& ;siba]. If this activity is also experienced with others (or even a person alone) - in the past or ...

I struggled with shmiras einayim for years. I tried every trick in the book, every kind of inspiration, but nothing lasted for the long term. Until I finally gave up. ; Surprisingly though, it was actually when I gave up that things finally changed. I came to the realization that I just can't bea...

Dear Rabbi Morgenstern, ; Would the Rav be able to weigh in to this discussion and offer a psak? See the conversation below: Question: Can I use a mixed gym and pool, as I feel It would help me not to fall. I know that these days we are not allowed to even go in to the streets but Rav Moshe Fein...

When we were approaching חודש שבט I heard from Reb Shlomo Meyer a vort that was tremendous chizuk for me all these years. שבט ר״ת שמרם ברכם טהרם. This month, which is entirely during the weeks of שובבים is here to remind us what our goal in life is. ; We ask Hashem, please שמרם - watch over us th...

Question: I am a happily married man. But for a reason I don't know, this past week my mind has been driving me nuts with thoughts of other women, etc. These thoughts are so powerful. Is there a way to stop them? Are there any extra prayers I can be reciting? Is there so extra type of learning I ...

Judaism views lust as follows: We acknowledge the fact that ;G‑d ;created us with such feelings, and it’s certainly not an aberration to feel lustful. However, outside of marriage, we are expected to be sufficiently aware of our higher calling, utilize our intellect, and muster enough inner forti...

Rav Dessler (Chelek 1, page 42)brings a Gemara which tells of a man hiding in the walls of the house of a woman with whom he was having an affair. The husband came home and was about to drink water that this man knew was poisoned. At the point, the man jumped out and rescued the husband. Abayei s...