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Focusing on Not Focusing is Silly

By GYE Corp.
In the days before I became an out-of-control addict, I found that going to the mikva was nice. Saying Tikkun haklali was also nice. But is it mainly tikkun that you want, or is it some freedom from the compulsion when it strikes that you are really looking for? Please co...
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It's an Inside Job

By GYE Corp.
Dov answers a newcomer who posted on the forum for the first time (Dov's replies appear in between the lines below, in bold). Today is my first day clean. Actually, it's our only day. Today I will try and go on a journey to break free of this addiction once and for all. "...
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Attitude of Gratitude

By GYE Corp.
The root of our disease is self-centeredness. This leads to feelings of entitlement; "I need" and "I deserve". It also leads to resentment when we don't get what we want, and then bitterness, pain and disconnect from G-d. To start recovering, we need to begin changing ou...
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Our Lust is Often Misguided Yearning

By GYE Corp.
I truly believe that the lust problem we have is part and parcel of our natural but misguided yearning for d'veikus with Ultimate Power and Ultimate Goodness. I know that I want porn - not because it is dirty and "I like to be dirty" but because my heart tells me that som...
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Even if I'm Destined for Gehinnom

By GYE Corp.
My addiction got quite nasty, and then a lot nastier before making it into recovery. It is essential for me to accept in my heart that even if I am destined for gehinnom, c"v, my concern, my joy, and my sorrow, are all in today. I have taken, and still take, the 3rd step,...
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Walking with Hashem Through the Tears

By GYE Corp.
I have met many people who act out and immediately sense the abyss. That's all they see: this dark abyss. Of course, it was there before acting out - and that's why they acted out...A "bardichever chassid" sees the abyss and doesn't believe it is really there and says, "T...
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What's your Role in the Play?

By GYE Corp.
Dov from Israel writes: I had an interesting experience... I kept noticing that someone was also logged in when I was on my other Gmail account - but I did not recognize the person. Perhaps it was someone I once sent an email too (I am involved in several different activi...
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AA / SA is Not a Religion

By GYE Corp.
Bill and Bob wrote near the end of their book: "This book is suggestive only...". My sponsor reminded me once that the program is not a matter of faith, just experience. AA or SA are not a religion. The Program is secular (look up the word if you think [as I did] that it ...
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Fear Takes the Place of Serving Hashem

By GYE Corp.
Today I noticed that one of the weak links that the Yetzer Hara uses with me, is when he gives me thoughts to be frightened about. "You know, you're not going to be able to make ends meet this month" or, "Did you get everything done for the lawyer?" I live in fear mode. A...
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Stopping for the Thousandth Time

By GYE Corp.
To someone who posted about his decision to stop (for the thousandth time), Dov writes: Your last decision lasted two days. Being horrible at keeping any decisions myself, I am not about to criticize! I am just trying to point out one thing: You describe an incredible con...
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I needed support, humility & directions

By GYE Corp.
Someone wrote on the forum: I have just realized that there's no such thing as quitting cold turkey. This thing is much too powerful for that. There will never be a one time decision that can carry within itself enough force to go against this. It seems to me that all tha...
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My life is unmanageable with lust in it

By GYE Corp.
The Zohar Hakadosh talks about the orla of the lev being associated with orla (of the milah) d'chafyah bris. It explains that Avraham Avinu had a totally different depth of awareness (Da'as) of Hashem's Will after the (minimal) orlah of his milah was removed because that ...
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He's Gonna Help me even more now!

By GYE Corp.
I heard an alkie say (and recently heard an SA member say) that it took every last drink I took, to finally get me where I needed to be in my recovery. When someone with recovery falls again, he either collapses c"v and never comes back, or he realizes he needs even more ...
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The Beauty of the 4th Step

By GYE Corp.
"We made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves" Someone posted on the forum: Usually I am a very calm person. Now I feel like a woman. I am very aware of my moods and I feel that I have very bad days and very euphoric days. I also feel very angry a lot ...
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Letting it slide off our backs

By GYE Corp.
There is a fine line between failing at watching your eyes vs. running after it. If I do what I consider "poorly" one day in the GYE category, I can make calls to admit that, regain at least some humility and sanity, and let the garbage slide off my back so that it does n...
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How do we turn our will over to G-d?

By GYE Corp.
Someone wrote an e-mail to Dov: Dov, I read the Big Book and 'the 12 and 12' on the 3rd step. I was also on the call this morning but couldn't talk because I was with other people... I have a difficulty with step 3 when trying to put it into action, perhaps you can help: ...
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Giving In or Giving Up?

By GYE Corp.
Dear heiligeh yid. You posted about how you were "feeling like giving up the 'fight' soon" and saw that as ominous. I guess 'struggling' didn't work this time. Most people only see two avenues before them. 1. Try to struggle and win with trust in Hashem that He can and w...
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I'm Just Me; Hashem's Little Guy

By GYE Corp.
Someone posted about his progress - and struggle - on the forum: You'd think I'd be HAPPY that certain urges are going away and my ability to walk away from certain aveiras is strengthening. But I've realized-- er, um, I'm NOT. Why not? Because for so long I had been wea...
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