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Hashem gives us these struggles so that we can make beautiful jewels for His crown through them. Rabbosai, share with us your thoughts from the times you have struggles and overcome them! By sharing and inspiring many other people as well, you will be uplifting your strug...

To me, GYE (generally) no longer has anything to with addiction! To me, GYE is special family. I don't see 'addicts' when I come to visit. I see nothing more and nothing less, than suffering neshamos. I see tremendous pain, bleeding wounds, and scars in all sizes and shap...

The heart needs to be broken when will-power is not enough

Someone who has been on our forum for a long time and put in a lot of effort to break this addiction and yet still continued to have occasional falls, wrote on the forum: I think many of us have given it our all. We've made drastic changes in our lives, created many fence...

Everyone must say the world was created for me (Sanhedrin 37). This shows that humility isn't that one should feel lowly and worthless, rather humility is knowing that all your attributes and accomplishments are a gift from Hashem. There's a contradiction, it says, "and h...

"It is not the critic who counts: not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles or where the doer of deeds could have done better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood, who strives valiantly,...

I'm sorry if you weren't warned, but the fact is - this forum is a one way street; there is no leaving! This is a club of fighters, not winners. In truth, we are winners, because not giving up IS winning. When the angels claimed that the Torah should be given to them and...

I've printed out the GYE handbook and Attitude handbook, and I've been working my way through them. I have to say that they are utterly brilliant. My favorite thing about them is that they provide me with so many different TOOLS to fighting the addiction. I really used to feel ILL-EQUIPPED in dealing with the dreaded urge, and all I'd be able to tell myself was things like 'come on, just fight it' or 'try harder', without really having any idea of HOW to effectively and creatively work around the problem. Kol Hakavod for providing this service!

We have discussed in the past how one of the foundations of the 12-Steps is learning how to "Let Go and Let G-d". Well, another major foundation of the steps that helps us find freedom from the addiction, is learning how to live for OTHERS and not be "self-centered". As o...

Yesterday was 12 weeks, which brings me today to 85 days. I read the daily emails and hear and feel the emotion of the people posting here how thankful they are to R' Guard and this site for literally saving their lives. I feel the same way, and if I would have time I wou...

"Me" posted: I saw in the sefer Shomer Emunim that we can't even begin to fathom the Emunah (faith) that our forefathers had. The revelation that they had of Hashem is way beyond our grasp... BUT, Emunah P'shuta (simple faith) is our yerusha (inheritance) too, and we stil...

At 5 weeks clean "Hoping" posted: I am happy to report that I had a wonderful weekend. In the beginning when I got to the country, I was triggered to fall back into the same bad patterns as previous years. It took quite a bit of energy to resist, but after that B"H, I was...

God commanded Moses to attack Midian in revenge for their devastating scheme against the Israelites. The Midianites had used their daughters to lure the Israelite men into worshipping the licentious idolatry of Peor, resulting in Divine anger and a terrible plague. The wa...

I very much feel that this day is & should be a celebrated as a Yom Tov by all GYE members & in general by all of Klal Yisroel! (Reb Guard, I mean NO Tachnun :-) even though it is in the 3 weeks.I'm sure that the day that GYE was born & shined its light on the...

Rav Arush discusses how people get depressed because even though they try their best to succeed, they fail and continue to fall. He writes that if someone gets depressed, he should realize that he doesn't have enough Emunah, because he thinks that he could accomplish some...

The miracle is in process at this very moment! It is more useful for me to be aware of one short coming in myself, than realizing a thousand in someone else. Happiness is not ready made, it is built through our actions. I know that true happiness comes from Hashem - ...

I have really begun to feel and see the Yad Hashem more and more as I learn to let go of control. Strangely, the idea that I am not in control has led me to increased responsibility for my actions, because they are the sole thing for which I am responsible (Hashem is 100%...

Rav Kook writes that midas HaYesod can bring a person to a lower level than he really is at, and the opposite is true as well, it can boost a person to a higher level than he really is, as the Pasuk says "Tzaddik bechol hadoros" (meaning that a Tzadik, i.e. one who guards...