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I was a guy who used to fall multiple times a day. Recently, I've been working really hard on myself and, with the help of GYE, I was able to stay clean for 6 months straight! After a recent fall, I opened up to my wife about it immediately, and she was able to tak...

We have enjoyed your emails for over a year. Your emails were a lifeline when my husband needed it. Thank you so much for being a support for us in a time of need. How special it was to know that my husband was not the only one going through this. Hashem should give you k...

ראש חודש אלול. It's that time of year. When I usually sit down and write a list of everything I've done wrong. Of all the ways that I messed up. When I contemplate what a disappointment I've been to myself, my family, and those who don't even have any knowledge of h...

Dear Ladies, If you find that you cannot afford therapy or coaching while you are going to meetings or not. Here's the best solution for you: A small community of support and Coaching / Counseling from an experienced Life/Addiction Coach. With Miriam, who has done ex...

When You Caught Your Husband Rabbi Shafier from theshmuz.com send us the above MP3 recording that he made and wrote to us as follows: I often deal with women who find out that their husband was / is involved with pornography, and even though he is dealing with the pr...

Dear Scared! Let me first commend your level-headedness, a quality that is exceedingly rare when it comes to relationships. You obviously have your head screwed on right and you are walking into this with your eyes wide open. So often people enter or avoid relationships...

Married and love to watch some steamy porn together? Be warned, as frequent pornography use can sound the death knell for your happy marriage. According to the researchers, pornography is associated with a substantial increase in the probability of divorce for married p...

A woman wrote to us, asking for chizuk in face of a challenge she was facing. She wrote: A family friend from overseas called me and asked if we can meet up. I don't know if I ever told you about this family "friend" but that's basically how every SA issue that I have ...

E.F. writes: You need to add much more info on your website for women who abuse themselves on the Internet. I am recently divorced, and my son is now without his mother because she became addicted to the Internet and degraded herself daily by talking to men online all ...

Rabbi Azriel Ariel, of the the Israeli organization Hotam, which works to propose Halachic solutions to societal problems, has called to address the phenomenon of romantic relationships in the workplace. He stressed the need to create a behavioral code that will prevent u...

A wife wrote a letter to GYE: Your site was exactly what I needed when I signed up. I was a newlywed who had just found out about my husband's struggle and didn't know where to turn. Shocked, hurt, overwhelmed and frightened, I came across your site and found the sectio...

Our Reply: Dear Bewildered Tzadik, it is good that you are reaching out for help. Although we get tens of emails like yours every day, your email shook me up. Firstly, because of the statistics you quoted (75%!) and, secondly, because of how you make it sound: as if the...

My Rosh Yeshiva, ztzl, used to reminisce about his days as a child on the Lower East Side. Often, he would come back from school and his father would ask him, ‘Noach – did you remember that Hashem loves you today?’ ‘Yes’, was the young boy’s usual answer. ‘Well done, his...

Dear Mr. Yaakov, I have been wanting to email someone at guardyoureyes for awhile. I wanted to sincerely thank you and all your staff for all the resources available on your website. I found out my husband was watching schmutz about 7 months ago. It was the worst yissu...

When you are in the middle of a problem with porn it can easily feel like this is the way life will always be. Always hard, always hurting, always struggling. It’s easy for me to say this isn’t true but until you are out the other side you won’t believe me. So with that ...

"Neiroyair" sent an email to GYE as follows: Dear GYE, My wife sent me an email this morning (maybe it could be of service to others): My dear husband, I know that we both spend a lot of time on the family, taking care of the kids. But we don't spend time just...

When a loved one has an addiction. Get educated. Addiction is a disease. If you found out that your loved one had an illness, you would research it. Do the same for addiction. Read about the signs and symptoms of substance abuse, the reasons why it occurs and how to be...