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Re: going for 90 days (Feb. 20) 09 Dec 2016 13:57 #299541

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Yosef Tikun HaYesod wrote on 09 Dec 2016 13:49:
"When you love someone, you do what's best for them, not what's convenient for yourself...".
Does that mean that my wife doesn't love me? Surely, she does. And no, her name is not Sherley.
In the treadmill/cleaning for Shabbos scenario, someone's will has to be done. Either mine or my wife.
We both wanted to do what was more convenient. 

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Re: going for 90 days (Feb. 20) 09 Dec 2016 14:18 #299542

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Yosef Tikun HaYesod wrote on 23 Nov 2016 22:44:
1. I almost always will fail around Sukkos time, which is only a few weeks after the 10 Days.
2. the next time after Sukkos is Chanuka time. I will almost always fail around Chanuka time.



"Yosef Tikun HaYesod" post=299536 date=1481290081 catid=4

Over FOUR full weeks clean! Oh yeah!

Question for you. Why are you so happy with 4 weeks clean when you wouldn't normally fall by now anyway?

Not that you shouldn't be happy, just wondering what's changed?
Last Edit: 09 Dec 2016 14:20 by Watson.

Re: going for 90 days (Feb. 20) 09 Dec 2016 14:25 #299543

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Re: going for 90 days (Feb. 20) 09 Dec 2016 14:29 #299544

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Watson wrote on 09 Dec 2016 14:18:

Yosef Tikun HaYesod wrote on 23 Nov 2016 22:44:
1. I almost always will fail around Sukkos time, which is only a few weeks after the 10 Days.
2. the next time after Sukkos is Chanuka time. I will almost always fail around Chanuka time.




"Yosef Tikun HaYesod" post=299536 date=1481290081 catid=4

Over FOUR full weeks clean! Oh yeah!

Question for you. Why are you so happy with 4 weeks clean when you wouldn't normally fall by now anyway?

Not that you shouldn't be happy, just wondering what's changed?

DDats a good question.
Perhaps there is a good answer as well.
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Re: going for 90 days (Feb. 20) 09 Dec 2016 14:31 #299545

Excellent question!
(And I did fail on Hoshana Raba of all times!)
I think the answer is that I'm going strong.
I feel good.
Mushel time: there's a runner. At the 5k mark, he always has to start walking. He has never been able to run the whole 10k race without walking. Then, he changes some things up, gets some suggestions and takes some advice, and now he is running another race. At the 2k mark, he says: "2 kilometers...Oh yeah!" So, someone asks him, but you always made it to the 5k mark before you had to stop running. What's the big deal about getting to the 2k mark? The answer is, that he feels good and strong and knows that THIS time, he will probably make it a lot farther...maybe even the whole race.

Good Shabbos.

Re: going for 90 days (Feb. 20) 09 Dec 2016 14:43 #299546

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Yosef Tikun HaYesod wrote on 09 Dec 2016 14:31:
THIS time, he will probably make it a lot farther...maybe even the whole race.


This time is different. Got it.

Don't forget "one day at a time" my friend.

Re: going for 90 days (Feb. 20) 09 Dec 2016 14:50 #299548

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When does the race end?
What does the finishing line look like?
Will there be in waiting seventy....?
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Re: going for 90 days (Feb. 20) 11 Dec 2016 13:52 #299597

Another couple of clean days. I just got an email from GYE that said:
Wow...a whole month! If one said Ve'sain Tal U'matar for 30 days, we assume he won't forget anymore. What does that mean? It means that sticking to a pattern for 30 days kind of "wires it" into the brain!
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I went into Shabbos a little more calm than usual.
Shabbos was nice.
Motzei Shabbos too.
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Yes, I could fail any day...and am not so strong as to be able to pass a big test.
That goes back to my very first post here. I don't know HOW this is going to help.
I've taken several different steps this time (preparing for the race differently), so 
I think I've increased my chances of success. 
What more CAN I do?

Re: going for 90 days (Feb. 20) 11 Dec 2016 15:35 #299605

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Markz wrote on 09 Dec 2016 14:25:
Yosef have you been on gye since Feb 2011 as displayed on your page?

Re: going for 90 days (Feb. 20) 11 Dec 2016 16:04 #299611

First, I would like to know what's the difference? 
Maybe, I don't care to admit that I went on here before and failed and gave up for many years.
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I felt the desire and koach to try to break free from this nisayon several years ago.
I went on this website and put in some real effort to work on myself and this tyvah.
When exactly that was, I don't remember.
By the way, when I go to my profile it says:
My 90 Day Count
31 Days
Started Nov 10, 2016
9 Heshvan, 5777
Last Update : 0 Day Ago

I'd seriously like to know where it says Feb. 2011. I couldn't find it.
[EDIT: I see it now: Register Date: 01 Mar 2011    Last Visit Date: Today]
There IS something totally wrong on my 90-day chart. 
I thought it was curious, but didn't care too much OR know how to change it.
It says that I was clean for 2000 or so days...which "halivay," will hopefully happen...
but that is totally not true and hasn't happened yet.
Last Edit: 11 Dec 2016 16:40 by Yosef Tikun HaYesod. Reason: found it

Re: going for 90 days (Feb. 20) 11 Dec 2016 16:12 #299613

Cord, 90-days is the end of the race in the mushel.
I've VERY rarely, made it that far/long.
If and when I finish the race, I will feel powerful and strong and good...
that I accomplished something real after a lot of hard work.
I understand that then there will be MORE races to run...
but that's not a contradiction.
What does this mean: "Will there be in waiting seventy....?"

Re: going for 90 days (Feb. 20) 11 Dec 2016 16:50 #299615

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Yosef Tikun HaYesod wrote on 11 Dec 2016 16:12:
Cord, 90-days is the end of the race in the mushel.
I've VERY rarely, made it that far/long.
If and when I finish the race, I will feel powerful and strong and good...
that I accomplished something real after a lot of hard work.
I understand that then there will be MORE races to run...
but that's not a contradiction.
What does this mean: "Will there be in waiting seventy....?"

B'hatzlachah

Let'sI talk again when you finish the race.
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Re: going for 90 days (Feb. 20) 11 Dec 2016 18:08 #299617

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I'm not sure why it's a race. Last I checked no one was getting timed, there was no finish line, and there were no other competitors. Sounds like a hella weird race.
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Re: going for 90 days (Feb. 20) 11 Dec 2016 18:45 #299624

Feeling like I entered the twilight zone again.
I was asked a question by Watson: Why are you so happy with 4 weeks clean
when you wouldn't normally fall by now anyway?
I answered with a mushel: there's a runner. At the 5k mark, he always has to start walking. He has never been able to run the whole 10k race without walking. Then, he changes some things up, gets some suggestions and takes some advice, and now he is running another race. At the 2k mark, he says: "2 kilometers...Oh yeah!" So, someone asks him, but you always made it to the 5k mark before you had to stop running. What's the big deal about getting to the 2k mark? The answer is, that he feels good and strong and knows that THIS time, he will probably make it a lot farther...maybe even the whole race.

The nimshal is not a race, doesn't have a finish line, you don't have to wear running shoes, or have a number bib pinned onto your shirt. What is confusing or not clear?

Yes, it's true that I might even fail later today, but I feel good and strong, and feel that I will probably make it a lot farther this time, maybe even my whole life.

Re: going for 90 days (Feb. 20) 11 Dec 2016 19:45 #299634

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Yosef Tikun HaYesod wrote on 11 Dec 2016 18:45:
Feeling like I entered the twilight zone again.
I was asked a question by Watson: Why are you so happy with 4 weeks clean
when you wouldn't normally fall by now anyway?
I answered with a mushel: there's a runner. At the 5k mark, he always has to start walking. He has never been able to run the whole 10k race without walking. Then, he changes some things up, gets some suggestions and takes some advice, and now he is running another race. At the 2k mark, he says: "2 kilometers...Oh yeah!" So, someone asks him, but you always made it to the 5k mark before you had to stop running. What's the big deal about getting to the 2k mark? The answer is, that he feels good and strong and knows that THIS time, he will probably make it a lot farther...maybe even the whole race.

The nimshal is not a race, doesn't have a finish line, you don't have to wear running shoes, or have a number bib pinned onto your shirt. What is confusing or not clear?

Yes, it's true that I might even fail later today, but I feel good and strong, and feel that I will probably make it a lot farther this time, maybe even my whole life.
My email: thenewme613@hotmail.com
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