strugglinginpain wrote on 28 Feb 2016 04:32:

If I can chime in here. I have been doing that for the past few weeks (almost three bh) and its really been helpful to me to have the responsibility to check in once a day. Its become part of my daily thing, to read a few posts and to post something myself. And let me tell you that the chevra on this site are amazing. I feel - and you will too - supported, respected and understood. Something I dont feel as often outside of GYE

Hey fellas,

It's a great idea,  but if i can add, just like if we're hungry we eat,  regardless if we had our scheduled dinner that night.  When we need to reach out, we need to reach out so dont limit yourself.  If you feel the need at anytime to connect just do it. 

Also, if anyone is interested in phone shmoozing from time to time, im always up to connecting with a fellow soldier. 

Gut voch

Thank you realsimcha and Yesod. Since all of this is new to me, I really appreciate the support and ideas.
כל טוב and have gut, gezunt Voch.

Welcome Welcome!!
I too am 23 in shiduchim, you came to the right place with great people who will support you until the very end and beyond...
Hatzlocha!

OK. B"H I just had a very nice day. I traveled a little so that didn't give me much time to contemplate about any urges. Headaches are still persistent but more bearable. I don't know if they're subsiding or I'm getting used to them. But they're less noticeable, which is the main thing. I'm still having flashbacks of videos at unexpected moments.
I just realized how many hours I used to spend looking for these videos. Once I knew where and how to find them it was easy. But after I found one, I would look for a "better" one and so on and so forth. Then I would have ten or more paused videos open in my browser and I would view only the last one. Isn't that crazy? They all would've gotten me off the same way, but I was looking for more and more and more! And it wasted lots and lots of time.
Anyway, I'll go read other people's posts and call it a night.
כל טוב and have pure dreams.

Hi Sasha 2,
I haven't really started shidduchim. How are you managing?

Good evening,
B"H I have an uneventful day. I spent it with my parents. So, I didn't have time to think about urges, if I had any. Then in the evening after learning Gemara with my father, I was sitting alone and that's when those feelings started coming over me. B"H I had the presence of mind to overpower the thoughts, but it wasn't easy. It really was a fight. The images came to my mind and I was going to search the internet. But I nearly burst out laughing. How would I find anything? My filter wouldn't allow such images, let alone videos, to get past it. And I'm long out of practice in trying to bypass my filter (for a long time, I had my password). Besides, do I really want to give in when I've already had five whole days without acting out? I can't remember the last time that I've been clean for five days.
I realized that when I'm alone in the evening, that's when I'm the most vulnerable to my feelings. I begin to get lonely, even with my parents in the house, and I'm tired, so I give in more easily to my emotions.
I'm going to have to change something with my evening routine if I don't want to wear myself down.
At any rate, I feel a lot stronger, now that I've overcome those feelings.
Have a good night and pure dreams.

A common saying in SA is to be aware of HALT:

H - Hungry
A - Angry
L - Lonely
T - Tired

Hatzlacha Rabah.

strugglinginpain wrote on 29 Feb 2016 05:31:

I havent actually gone out yet either, but im definitely working on getting the right tools.
Im on the right track and so are you!!

Hi Shlomo24,
I have to be aware of at least two out of those three (L and T). Sometimes, H as well.
Thanks.

Hi Sasha 2,
Keep up the good work and הצלחה רבה.

B"H another clean day towards my goal of a lust-free life. I was quite occupied today, so the thoughts and images in my mind were few and far apart.

That's all for tonight,

כל טוב and have pure dreams.

Wow, seven whole days without acting out or viewing inappropriate material!
B"H during most of the day today I felt like I didn't need or want to act out. It felt great and exhilarating. In the evening I felt the usual urges but with Hashem's help I was able to ignore them. Of course, I know that I have a long way to go to enjoy a lust-free life. But it just shows you that if you take one day at a time, it certainly adds up.
כל טוב and have pure dreams.

strugglinginpain wrote on 03 Mar 2016 05:54:

Wow, Great! seven WHOLE days, i remember clear as day my first week clean and how excited i was about it! Keep it up or as Markz says "Keep on trucking" 
Hatzlocha!

Keep on Trucking is a standard gye refrain everyone repeats, which I use a little more liberally to advertise the Free Towing

My friend struggling, if you are counting days only, I personally don't think that's considered trucking, rather more like ticking - watching the clock tick - or rather a bomb ticking, tick tick...










Explode... BAM!!!!

I don't think you want to go down that road on your bike

so whats the plan?

Posting daily is one. anything else?