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Re: My LIFE story 06 Jan 2015 21:45 #246692

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Perfect!
Keep up the good work!
Fabulous.

I personally was into the M2F meetin's , but in recovery, F2F is the way to go!

b'hatzlachah onward
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Re: My LIFE story 06 Jan 2015 23:58 #246709

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That's truly wonderful to hear! "If ya work it, it works."
Much Hatzlacha!

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Don't slip it hurts
Lions & Tigers & Internet, Oh My!

--"ולא המדרש עיקר, אלא המעשה"
--"To promise not to do a thing is the surest way in the world to make a body want to go and do that very thing." Mark Twain
--"If, when you honestly want to, you find you cannot quit entirely, or if when drinking (or lusting), you have little control over the amount you take, you are probably alcoholic (or sexaholic)." AA Big Book P. 45. Parenthesis added.
--You hit rock bottom when you decide to stop digging.

Re: My LIFE story 12 Jan 2015 03:42 #247011

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Hi,
I unfortunately had a fall after being 21 days sober:(

Re: My LIFE story 12 Jan 2015 05:21 #247015

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First and foremost kol hakavod for being honest it shows your serious
2) you didn't lose any progress made during the last 21 days and
3) the yetzer harahs game plan now is to get you down and out with arguments like now that you reset anyways why don't you fall a few more times then you'll really do it etc. forewarned is forearmed
4) the best way to make sur it doesn't happen again is to analyze what led up to the fall for example stress or a certain place etc.
and most of all know that hashem loves you just the way you are and now that you fell it was pre destin as a test to see how and how long it will take you to dust off and onward March

Hatzlacha
Hashem these lustful thoughts are not mine I don't need them or want them please take them from me so I can live a happy and healthy life

Gotta roll with the punches or the punches will roll all over you

yesterday was
tomorrow will be
the only thing you can change is the moment you see

keep smiling and keep busy

"lust is fire to dynamite don't get close" from someone don't remember who

The worst thing i did to myself was lie to myself for 2 whole years

I try not to hate it takes way to much energy

Re: My LIFE story 12 Jan 2015 08:42 #247025

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21 days of being sober! That's gevaldig. So for 21 days you did teshuvah and masim Torah. One hour of teshuva and masim tovim in this world is better than all the olam habah. Your 21 days of success is huge.
Much Hatzlacha!

My Threads:
Glad to be here
Don't slip it hurts
Lions & Tigers & Internet, Oh My!

--"ולא המדרש עיקר, אלא המעשה"
--"To promise not to do a thing is the surest way in the world to make a body want to go and do that very thing." Mark Twain
--"If, when you honestly want to, you find you cannot quit entirely, or if when drinking (or lusting), you have little control over the amount you take, you are probably alcoholic (or sexaholic)." AA Big Book P. 45. Parenthesis added.
--You hit rock bottom when you decide to stop digging.

Re: My LIFE story 12 Jan 2015 13:07 #247036

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Thanks for your courage.
I am going to start fresh today!

I know that 21 days is a lot, on the other hand I don't want to have a single fall! That's a bit contradicting with 1 day at a time, because I'm confident that I can stay sober today if I will do the necessary actions.

I am also shy to inform my group members that I had a fall.

All the best!

Re: My LIFE story 14 Jan 2015 03:22 #247123

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pick yourself up and KOT!

Re: My LIFE story 14 Jan 2015 04:35 #247131

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I don't want to fall either. But I know the things everyone else has written are true. Above all, that you haven't lost any of the progress you made before you fell. From the secular world, I've had some counselling with the Cognitive Behaviour Therapy (CBT) approach. One of the irrational beliefs CBT points out is "all-or-nothing thinking"...if it's not perfect, it's no good at all. Perhaps we can say it's one of the Yetzer Ha-Ra's tricks.

What about this idea? Even on the day you fell, you "fell" for only a few minutes of all your waking hours. If you say you have 16 waking hours a day and on Day 22 you spend 1 hour doing something you regret, you might say you were "clean" for all but 1 of 22 times 16 hours. That's 351 out of 352, which to me at least sounds even better than 21 out of 22 days. Just a thought.

The very best success in everyone's efforts. This group is the best thing I've found.

Re: My LIFE story 14 Jan 2015 04:38 #247132

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I have been around CBT for some time as well; I don't recall that which you say. perhaps, it's my bad. I do know that we should always be usin' our 'wise mind.' They also discuss not fallin' further, and don't make a bad situation even worse.

b'hatzlachah to all nonetheless!
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Re: My LIFE story 24 Feb 2015 01:46 #249295

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I keep on falling. No matter what I do. I just can't anymore!

Re: My LIFE story 24 Feb 2015 02:08 #249298

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JDI

The depression and helplessness are the yetzer haras guns know them and nutrilize them

It says Sheva yipol tzadik VIKOM
Hashem these lustful thoughts are not mine I don't need them or want them please take them from me so I can live a happy and healthy life

Gotta roll with the punches or the punches will roll all over you

yesterday was
tomorrow will be
the only thing you can change is the moment you see

keep smiling and keep busy

"lust is fire to dynamite don't get close" from someone don't remember who

The worst thing i did to myself was lie to myself for 2 whole years

I try not to hate it takes way to much energy

Re: My LIFE story 24 Feb 2015 02:25 #249299

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Sounds like you may be ready to surrender.

Do you call someone before you "fall"?

Hatzlacha!!!
Much Hatzlacha!

My Threads:
Glad to be here
Don't slip it hurts
Lions & Tigers & Internet, Oh My!

--"ולא המדרש עיקר, אלא המעשה"
--"To promise not to do a thing is the surest way in the world to make a body want to go and do that very thing." Mark Twain
--"If, when you honestly want to, you find you cannot quit entirely, or if when drinking (or lusting), you have little control over the amount you take, you are probably alcoholic (or sexaholic)." AA Big Book P. 45. Parenthesis added.
--You hit rock bottom when you decide to stop digging.

Re: My LIFE story 24 Feb 2015 04:23 #249300

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I feel for you

The feeling of despair is a killer. serenity gave you good advice. calling someone before a possible fall is standard good policy in other addictions as well.
What do ya think?

Re: My LIFE story 24 Feb 2015 09:54 #249306

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mayer613 wrote:
I keep on falling. No matter what I do. I just can't anymore!


Welcome back!

I have reached out to you many times on the chat thingy.
Are you ready to connect with the oilam here?

Additionally, what steps did you take for recovery?
What have you done in the past?
which tools did you use?

People here can better guide you if they know what worked by you and what did not.

We are lookin' forward to more of your postin'.

b'hatzlachah
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Re: My LIFE story 24 Feb 2015 09:58 #249307

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Just reread your thread.
Saw that you went to meetin's and 12 steps.
That's a very good start.
Perhaps the key might be in stayin' connected here.
Try a daily update at least.

b'hatzlachah
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