Thank You!
just don't tell my Belzer buddies

Anyone else?

We can also do personalized knitting.

ז זע זעמ זעמי מבעלז
פ פד פדנ פדני מאוינק

I think there is some potential here...
How much can I sell these for? Can Guard charge me for rent?

So last night, in a conversation with my wife, I got smacked in the face by the plain truth. It's the kind of truth that when it smacks you in the face, you realize it really should have been obvious all along, but before it actually hit me over the head, my sick, twisted, addicted mind could never fathom it.

I have mentioned before that I feel uncomfortable when my wife "polices" me. She knows that I have a lust problem, and I am most vulnerable at work, and she asks me about my day to 'keep track' of my progress. So until now, I understood (at least I thought I did) why she would always ask me about my progress and how my day was -- she wanted to make sure I hadn't acted out that day. And I wanted to reassure her that I accomplished the Goal, namely, to NOT ACT OUT THAT DAY. So, the conversation usually went one of two ways:

(1) ON A BUSY DAY
Her: How was your day?
Me: Well, in the morning I worked on this project and it took me a couple of hours and in the afternoon I did this assignment and I got so caught up in it...and my boss wants me to start looking at this...
Both of us are happy because I HAD A BUSY DAY AND DIDN'T ACT OUT

or

(2) ON A QUIET DAY
Her: How was your day?
Me: Good.
Her: Were you a 'good boy'?
Me: Yes.
Her: Really?
Me (slightly annoyed): Yes, really.
(Maybe I will add, "It was quiet today, but I didn't do anything bad.)
[Awkward pause]
[Awkward tension in the house for the rest of the evening]
I am annoyed because she is acting like my mashgiach/policeman, and won't trust me when I say I didn't do anything wrong. And she is frustrated because SHE DOEN'T KNOW WHY I AM NOT GIVING HER A FULL ANSWER. AM I LYING TO HER? EVEN IF I AM NOT LYING TODAY, IF I EVER FELL IN THE FUTURE, WOULD I LIE ABOUT IT THEN?

This second version of the story has happened a few times lately, and it came to the point where we had a conversation about it (Thank God we are both civil enough to keep these types of conversations relatively peaceful). To make a long conversation short, she explained to me that the answer she is looking for is WARNING: BIG CHIDDUSH AHEAD She said that if I give answers like that, then she will be satisfied and not go breathing down my back all night, every night, finally.

So I realized that my original assumption about the goal her asking me about my day was incorrect. I was assuming that just like my goal at work was to be a valued member of the team, use my time well, and cetainly not act out, so her goal by asking me was to verify that I accomplished the above. (And if I did not accomplish the above, than I would be failing HER, hence the hesitation and lack of up-frontness with her.) But that is not the case. Her goal is to get me to give an honest, accurate, and full report about what happened that day, good, bad, or in between. And then she will be happy, and be the loving trusting wife I am hoping for.

Now comes the implentation part...

Good stuff you got!

don't forget to tell her about all the yarmulkas you are knitting as well

Great lesson in communication TTS! Thanks!

tryingtoshteig wrote:


GEVALDIG! Ich luv ess!

tehillimzugger wrote:

You love to eat? (Sorry, my Yiddish isn't so good. It's not אויף צו פֿאַר [up to par])

and to repeat...I don't wanna write any book...I was spendin a lot of time thinkin about yomim noraim and being clean the first time in who knows how long....bottom line....focus on today...thanks again

Sorry for slacking off of my daily update. It's gonna be a boring one again...

Today is כ"ב אלול, ה'תשע"ג, August 28, 2013. Today I am clean.

Just a thought, if it is really כ"ב אלול today, then it is not really so boring after all.
ELUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUL!!!!!!!!!!!

WOOOOHHHOOOOOOOOO!!!!!

YIIPEEEEEE!!!!

YEEEEEEHHHAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAWWW!!!

WHAT COULD BE MORE EXCITING?! A FRIEND IS CLEAN!!!!!

yes, ess meands it eat, but olso it meands it eet like dey rite in a dikshinery "it" ess meands it eat end eet end it, farshteist?


[I was in Williamsburg this week]

tehillimzugger wrote:

Thanks TZ you cud knot have maid that pshat moor chlorine. Maybe you shud right a dikshinary fore us yeedin hoo donut farshtei Mamma Lukshin.

Hey did someone say donut?

Gevura Shebyesod wrote:



That's for you Gevura. Everyone else, hands off!

Good thing I didn't write "Did someone say chlorine"!