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Re: My Story - Reallygettingthere 31 Oct 2013 20:27 #222451

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Uh, oh.

90 days.

What the H' will we do now?

How do ya top that one?!

Ayyyyeeee!!!!!! Help!!






(Mazel Tov!)

In 12-step groups they just call it our "birthday". No one deserves a real prize for breathing and not killing themselves so that they actually make it to 1, 2, 10, 13, 20, 40, or 80 years of age, right?

Being clean is obviously just the beginning, not the goal - it is living. If you continue living, you make it to the birthdays and can celebrate being in the game for another year. If we are not clean, then we are alive (technically) but not in the game...we are in our own little game. It may be a 'holy' game ("I am so busy fighting this yetzer Hora!"), or a non-religious game ("I am trying not to be a sicko pervert!"), but it is just that: a little private game.

Blech.

It is so good to be sober today!
"Off the 18-wheeler and fine on this tricycle!", "I do not particularly care exactly which "lav" suicide is. I'm not interested in it for other reasons...and you are probably the same."

Re: My Story - Reallygettingthere 31 Oct 2013 20:29 #222452

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Mazal Tov! Just remember, you are always "getting there" and never "there".

Re: My Story - Reallygettingthere 31 Oct 2013 20:36 #222453

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Mazel Tov!

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That is spectacular!!! KUTGW!!!!! (and KIT )

Just wanted to point out that R' eli did not make any grand big to do about it, he just mentioned the number of days he is clean. It's the rest of us that went beeeeeeeeeeeeezerk
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Re: My Story - Reallygettingthere 31 Oct 2013 20:49 #222460

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All of you are correct
Roy in the SA White Book noted that we frequently prayed and it did not work...because the best we could muster was begging G-d to "Please take it away, so I will not have to give it up!

No amount of sobriety can cure the insanity -ChaimCharlie

The emmes hurts but fake chizzuk will hurt more -Bards

Remember, best block, no be there - Mr. Miyagi

Re: My Story - Reallygettingthere 31 Oct 2013 20:53 #222461

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gibbor120 wrote:
Mazal Tov! Just remember, you are always "getting there" and never "there".


Yes. "Sheim" is "mahus"
Roy in the SA White Book noted that we frequently prayed and it did not work...because the best we could muster was begging G-d to "Please take it away, so I will not have to give it up!

No amount of sobriety can cure the insanity -ChaimCharlie

The emmes hurts but fake chizzuk will hurt more -Bards

Remember, best block, no be there - Mr. Miyagi

Re: My Story - Reallygettingthere 01 Nov 2013 00:33 #222501

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Mazel Tov!! KUTGW & KOMT!!!
!אנא עבדא דקודשא בריך הוא

וּבְיָדְךָ כֹּחַ וּגְבוּרָה וּבְיָדְךָ לְגַדֵּל וּלְחַזֵּק לַכֹּל


"If it would be so easy there wouldn't be a GYE, but if it would be impossible there also wouldn't be a GYE."
"Sometimes a hard decision leads to an easier outcome."
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My story: guardyoureyes.com/forum/19-Introduce-Yourself/111583-hello-my-friends

Re: My Story - Reallygettingthere 08 Nov 2013 23:18 #223043

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Leichter!!
Roy in the SA White Book noted that we frequently prayed and it did not work...because the best we could muster was begging G-d to "Please take it away, so I will not have to give it up!

No amount of sobriety can cure the insanity -ChaimCharlie

The emmes hurts but fake chizzuk will hurt more -Bards

Remember, best block, no be there - Mr. Miyagi

Re: My Story - Reallygettingthere 08 Nov 2013 23:36 #223044

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A short summery of what I do to keep myself away from acting out:

(or the things that I do now that I didn't do 14 months ago)

  1. Participate in the GYE forum
  2. Make honesty an integral part of my life
  3. Learn daf yomi
  4. Exercise regularly
  5. I told my wife that I am a lust addict
  6. Have a safe friend to talk to when I'm feeling weak
  7. I don't not watch movie or movie trailers (this was a turning point in my recovery because they key is to avoid the first sip)
  8. I let my wife know that she should NEVER feel pressure to have relations with me if she does not want to, ever
  9. I make myself available to others that need someone to talk to when they are feeling weak
  10. I talk to Hashem in plain english



I'm sure there'e more...
Roy in the SA White Book noted that we frequently prayed and it did not work...because the best we could muster was begging G-d to "Please take it away, so I will not have to give it up!

No amount of sobriety can cure the insanity -ChaimCharlie

The emmes hurts but fake chizzuk will hurt more -Bards

Remember, best block, no be there - Mr. Miyagi

Re: My Story - Reallygettingthere 09 Nov 2013 00:32 #223047

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reallygettingthere wrote:
  • I don't not watch movie or movie trailers (this was a turning point in my recovery because they key is to avoid the first sip)

    • Nice list! You may want to remove the double negative "don't not" .

    reallygettingthere wrote:
    I'm sure there's more...
    If you think of more, let us know.

    Have a Great Shabbos!

    Re: My Story - Reallygettingthere 09 Nov 2013 00:48 #223048

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    Very en"light"ening

    KUTGW and have a great Shabbos!
    !אנא עבדא דקודשא בריך הוא

    וּבְיָדְךָ כֹּחַ וּגְבוּרָה וּבְיָדְךָ לְגַדֵּל וּלְחַזֵּק לַכֹּל


    "If it would be so easy there wouldn't be a GYE, but if it would be impossible there also wouldn't be a GYE."
    "Sometimes a hard decision leads to an easier outcome."
    - General Grant


    My story: guardyoureyes.com/forum/19-Introduce-Yourself/111583-hello-my-friends

    Re: My Story - Reallygettingthere 10 Nov 2013 00:21 #223054

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    WOOOOHOOOOOO!!!

    Awesome!!

    (just want to reaffirm that telling one's wife should not be taken lightly, and as a given which one must do, as the other things on that list ARE must-do-ers.

    Telling one's wife should be discussed with higher athaurity before doing so)

    Thanks for sharing!!!!

    KOT!!! KUTGW!!!
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    Re: My Story - Reallygettingthere 10 Nov 2013 05:50 #223063

    I'm really stuck on the movies thing, I know its the correct thing to do, to stop watching anything, but I kind of grew up with it and find it hard to let go, but I fully see that it can lead to slips. and was part of my recent slip.
    Please give me some advice and chizzuk maybe.
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    Re: My Story - Reallygettingthere 10 Nov 2013 06:52 #223067

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    I used to watch poprn when noone else was home or awake. Now, I close the door to room where the computer is located at those times, and make sure that I go to sleep at the same time as my wife. As far as regular TV is concerned, the language and plots make most, if not all TV, highly problematic,

    Re: My Story - Reallygettingthere 15 Nov 2013 02:59 #223397

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    dunno.

    I guess I was was so frustrated trying not to lust and then fall and wanting to watch movies at the same time. I ultimately made the decision that I wanted sobriety more than I wanted movies.

    I really really like movies, but I was not addicted which is why I was able to make that decision.

    Had I tried to say, "I like being sober and I like porn. I can't have both so I'll pick sobriety" I never would have been successful.
    Roy in the SA White Book noted that we frequently prayed and it did not work...because the best we could muster was begging G-d to "Please take it away, so I will not have to give it up!

    No amount of sobriety can cure the insanity -ChaimCharlie

    The emmes hurts but fake chizzuk will hurt more -Bards

    Remember, best block, no be there - Mr. Miyagi
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