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Shaar Bitachon 19 Feb 2019 15:44 #339068

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I was never big into the mussar approach. Yiras ha'onesh never talked to em, and still doesn't. I know there is a hell and I don't care enough to not act out because of it.

However, I want to sahre what has made a profound impact on my life. It doesn't help me stay clean when I have unrestricted internet access.. that environment is not one I want to be in and not one I think I will ever be able to be in at this time. But learning Shaar bitachon is Chovos halevavos every day (or at least regularly) has made a huge difference in how I see the world. I started with one or two minutes a few times a week, just to 'tune in'. Eventually I wanted to do a little more and got into doing it daily fora few minutes. The sefer does not tell you you have to have bitachin. But basically (as I read it) outlines what the relationship of bitachon looks like- whether that is bitachin in a friend, in god (which is his angle). The point is there are definitions for a trusting relationship. This was really powerful for me. Combined with an external environment that does not incite me, I feel very happy and normal. 
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  • I'm seeking the life that I find manageable which may not be the life you find manageable. But let's make a deal. I want you to find yours and you want me to find mine even if they are different.

Re: Shaar Bitachon 20 Feb 2019 15:11 #339102

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Ironic. I as well. Since the good old days, I'm about to finish shaar habitachon for the first time. Makes a difference in my life and those around me as well.
I'm all about that (substantial) bass, no trouble ....

Re: Shaar Bitachon 20 Feb 2019 16:55 #339107

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When you learn it, do you see it as only referring to God? I see it entirely as a blueprint for trust in relationships. Of course his objective it to teach us bitachon in HAshem. But I think it was written in a way that we can derive and apply to all . What say you mr trouble? 
  • I've never been one for signatures.. but sometimes people change
  • I'm seeking the life that I find manageable which may not be the life you find manageable. But let's make a deal. I want you to find yours and you want me to find mine even if they are different.

Re: Shaar Bitachon 20 Feb 2019 18:25 #339109

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OTR wrote on 20 Feb 2019 16:55:
When you learn it, do you see it as only referring to God? I see it entirely as a blueprint for trust in relationships. Of course his objective it to teach us bitachon in HAshem. But I think it was written in a way that we can derive and apply to all . What say you mr trouble? 

No, I don't/didn't see it that way, but that's fine.
I'm all about that (substantial) bass, no trouble ....

Re: Shaar Bitachon 20 Feb 2019 21:37 #339118

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Re: Shaar Bitachon 21 Feb 2019 20:11 #339142

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Mark . what did that mean? 
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  • I've never been one for signatures.. but sometimes people change
  • I'm seeking the life that I find manageable which may not be the life you find manageable. But let's make a deal. I want you to find yours and you want me to find mine even if they are different.

Re: Shaar Bitachon 26 Sep 2019 07:23 #343842

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OTR wrote on 19 Feb 2019 15:44:
I was never big into the mussar approach. Yiras ha'onesh never talked to em, and still doesn't. I know there is a hell and I don't care enough to not act out because of it.

oy,otr,if you only would  review what you knew,boy would it make a difference its worth it even if you only give a krechtz/sigh
For an explanation on my choice of username and avatar see my first post

Re: Shaar Bitachon 26 Sep 2019 07:27 #343844

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But I'm happy to see that shear habitachon is helping you I myself have been learning it and also the book living Emunah hatzlacha
For an explanation on my choice of username and avatar see my first post
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