Reb thompson at the risk of being skewered like a hyena on a pogo stick would you care to share a bit more detail?

kavey wrote on 14 Aug 2025 14:31:

hyena on a pogo stick
Now that's an image to entertain the mind.

Detail of what?

What makes it miserable and how that leads to porn

kavey wrote on 14 Aug 2025 15:18:

Feelings of inadequacy, not belonging, being the fifth wheel (or the fourth of a tricycle), not good enough, not man enough, undesirable, persona non grata.

And then some.

These aren't feelings per se, they're judgements. Judgements that ruled my self-image up until not too long ago. I've been working on them for a while, and am BH making progress (and I'm grateful for that), but yesterday was a doozy.

As for the question about the relation between this and porn, fantasy, intensified by masturbation, has been my go-to numbing agent since I was around 6-7 years old. Hence, a carefully selected porn video, which resembles the fantasy I created to feel an artificial sense of self-worth, is the perfect vehicle.

Shtimt?

I know this is a public forum and you currently at least in my non-technical appraisal of the market are probably one of the top 10 posters currently so you get extra scrutiny but are you open to sharing a bit more about where those feelings stem from? Work? Wife? Recurring Tintin related nightmares? I'm assuming you're American and in this country Tintin appreciation is woefully lacking. Though it's funny that if the books came out today with things like opium dens I wonder if they could make it.



Also...what about pressure valves? The pressure is there and it's recurring. You're working on it but is there any other way to relieve the pressure?

kavey wrote on 15 Aug 2025 14:35:

I made it onto the coveted list of "The (probably) top ten posters on GYE." I'm honored. Or has the site become so dull? Nah, that can't be it.

Here are some stems for you:

• Watching Les Misérables (I know, I need to stop that. Can someone make me forget it exists or how good it is?).
• Childhood molestation (Oh no, not that story again).
• Imposter syndrome from not being an actual die-hard Tintin fan (unless we're talking about the music from the 2011 motion picture).

There might be some other damage sprinkled in, but this should suffice for now.

kavey wrote on 15 Aug 2025 14:35:

Tintin has been cancelled. Not because of the opium, but because it's super racist. Look at the pictures of the black characters, or really any non-white character. 

chosemyshem wrote on 18 Aug 2025 16:55:

Oy vey.
Is my GYE username at risk? Should I expect to be demoted to the black-badged "banned" rank?

This reminds me of that Ben Shapiro hearing I think last year "the first rule of digging a hole is that if you're in one stop digging" but I'm in one so might as well continue.

I guess in a way I still don't understand. You're married, have kids, can hold down a job so you've clearly accomplished a lot despite tremendous headwinds (someone re-printed Tintin in small hardcover volumes each with 3 books in one come into the pool it's warm...and once you're here look up Asterix...it even has a pretty good Netflix series). So what about the daily grind causes you to want to escape?

chosemyshem wrote on 18 Aug 2025 16:55:

And not only that. My wife pointed out that some of the innuendo is perhaps less appropriate than I remember *sigh* but part of the charm of Tintin is his ability to survive all those assassination attempts

kavey wrote on 18 Aug 2025 17:11:

When did getting married and having kids become a significant accomplishment? At least in my circles. The Shadchan is the one who accomplished something. Maybe I'm too chicken to leave.

Who said anything about the daily grind? (Is that the name of Shapiro's website?)

You mentioned something about headwinds; perhaps therein lies the answer to your question.

Oy...I just realized that my limited supply of witty repartees has unfortunately dried up.

But maybe more about the headwinds regardless? And the shadchan comment...oy. I feel like lots of opportunities there for black humor sh'ein zeh mekomo. One day the gye retreat over cigars and whiskey at that Stamford hotel will happen lol