I always found my wife's objectively pretty sister unattractive, all of the sudden I started noticing her....Whats going on?

noshimnosher wrote on 26 Jun 2023 16:37:

Do you want a psychological explanation? Will understanding what's going on help?

connected wrote on 26 Jun 2023 16:50:

I'll quote Cordnoy...
"Philosophizin' beats workin' any day of the week!"

DavidT wrote on 26 Jun 2023 17:53:

I don’t think psychological explanation is philosophizing, unless you consider psychology fake science which rabbi gottlieb shows maybe accurate to some extent…

My take is, that the question of “what’s going on?” Is valuable insofar as much as it’s part of answering the question:”What are you going to do about it?”

Being honest with yourself and having an understanding of your motivations are important , because these fact are important in making decisions that result in actions and change.

Which we can do, with Hashem's help!