MAZAL TOV EC!!!!!!!!!

Beautiful news! Mazal tov! So happy to hear!

EccentricComposer wrote on 10 Jul 2023 18:29:

Mazel tov!!

I'm so excited about seeing how much I accomplished in my 100 days! Looking forward to the next 100!

Looks like I missed the l'chaim, but I can still say Mazal Tov! My friend, you are from the powerful inspirations here, in your quiet way, growing and shteiging and sharing your growth with all of us. Keep inspiring, and may you have a life full of Simcha, gezunt, parnassah, nachas, and all the good things possible! You have one lucky Kalla!

Bein HaZmanim coming up, you know what that means! Time for a plan.

I want to basically stick to the same thing as last time, but I want to keep in touch with the oilam via email, so please help me out!

Main points:

Computer- Text accountability partner before I go on, and why I am going on, and an approximate amount of time. And, of course, keep everything to a bare minimum and only go on for essentials. If I go on because I'm bored, you know where that leads to.

The magazine room is completely assur for me to enter. Hopefully I can put in some incentives for staying strong.

My main safek is if being engaged now will help, I think it will!

Please let me know if you have any other ideas!

Hatzlacha!

EccentricComposer wrote on 13 Jul 2023 20:05:

Being engaged itself doesn't help . That's an outside factor.
Change has to come from within. Being engaged can be the impetus to make you create that change. 

Dont let your guard down & YOU CAN ABSOLUTELY DO THIS!

Thanks so much for the encouragement!

I meant that now that I'm engaged I can use that as more of a push for if I feel tempted. Like, I shouldn't be doing that, I'm about to get married, I don't want that on my head at all! Or some other form of that. I don't know if that's a good mehalech or not, but I definitely think it can help. 

Halevai that thought would hold us strong! It gives you another incentive for staying strong, but it does not weaken the YH or his powerful enticements. You are BH very strong, you have a plan, and you have the accountability partner, so with siyata d'shmaya you'll be good. Keep sharing and trucking!

How about the thought "How dare i cheat on my kallah!"

Hashem Help Me wrote on 14 Jul 2023 00:28:

The Rebbe is the nicest brutal sledgehammer I have ever met.

chaimoigen wrote on 14 Jul 2023 01:21:

God-willin', the sledgehammer part will be more prominent.

chaimoigen wrote on 14 Jul 2023 01:21:

That is indeed a brutal argument, though I am not sure it would hold up in a court of law

cordnoy wrote on 14 Jul 2023 02:03:

So I think I know what the old man will be holding in the next avatar....

Hi, just checking in again.

I'm absolutely amazed at 105 days, I have never done so well before, and a major difference I have realized about this time is my growth. I realize that I've been working on myself this time around and growing, and it makes a major difference. Normally by the end of the zman I would be struggling thinking about all the random things I've seen in the past, and how to access more in the future, struggling to push it out of my mind, and then the thoughts coming back in. Now, I am doing much better, for sure due to my accountability and just from keeping up with the chevrah here, realizing that this is a challenge, but also that I can, and will, overcome it and move on in life.

On that note, I again want to say, that when I go home Bein HaZmanim I hope not to have access to GYE. If I'm checking in, it means that its probably for a negative reason. I will however have access to the email in my signature, and would love to keep in touch with everyone that way. Please reach out to me, I really want to hear from people, it will help give me chizzuk and help me continue my growth.

Thank you so much!

Hatzlacha!