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Re: Hi from bb0212 08 Feb 2017 14:32 #305272

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Singularity wrote on 08 Feb 2017 09:26:
again, beautiful.

I'm just doing my part. I need to tell you it sounds like hell. You need to realise it's all for the good.

My chavrusa just lost his kid at 6 months' pregnancy. This following a previous miscarriage as well. And this guy is an actual illui, never stops learning, such a nice guy, constantly working on himself (we learn mussar together, discuss our lives).

He told me the worst thing someone said to him is "Hashem does everything for the good!"
It's true, but it's only his cheshbon, not anyone else's. He told me the best comment he got was from one of his rabbeim in Israel,

"OY, MAN, THAT SUCKS!!!"

I've heard the idea quoted often. Another's gashmiyus is your ruchniyus.

Rav Twerski brings a story. A rav going around for yeshiva donations, the donors say, "Doesn't the Mishna say, bread and salt, and water? Why so lavish?"
He responds, "It also says, etz chayim hi l'machazikim ba. From the donors' perspective, we must give all we can. From the learners' perspectives, they must know to subsist and not indulge."

Well said, Tyvm!
My road to 90 days, all with God's help.             What brought me here.90 days with Areivim

Made it 259 days from 01/28/17-10/15/17 without mz"l. At day 90, I started to go for all aspects of שמירת עניים\הברית. At day 168 I fell with שמירת עניים & restarted the count. On approximately November 4 2017, with the support of a fellow GYE brother (daily text messages/phone calls), I restarted. This round I'm working on שמירת הברית as well as שמירת עניים.

Re: Hi from bb0212 19 Feb 2017 22:33 #306173

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Hi bb0212
I'm feeling your pain going through hardship.. I had my struggle as well..  Therapy  could help you and give your the strength.....
but one think you should know H' is there all the time & You're Not a failure.. Just do your best and H' will help u... H' loves every little effort  that we do....!!

Re: Hi from bb0212 19 Feb 2017 23:15 #306180

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Ready2work wrote on 19 Feb 2017 22:33:
Hi bb0212
I'm feeling your pain going through hardship.. I had my struggle as well..  Therapy  could help you and give your the strength.....
but one think you should know H' is there all the time & You're Not a failure.. Just do your best and H' will help u... H' loves every little effort  that we do....!!

TY. I've been to therapy for other, more pressing matters & bh I got tremendous help. However, I had to leave both the personal therapy & the group therapy that I was in, to keep my sanity and my job. There's not enough time in my life right now for therapy & I'm doing OK without it. Ty again for your support!
My road to 90 days, all with God's help.             What brought me here.90 days with Areivim

Made it 259 days from 01/28/17-10/15/17 without mz"l. At day 90, I started to go for all aspects of שמירת עניים\הברית. At day 168 I fell with שמירת עניים & restarted the count. On approximately November 4 2017, with the support of a fellow GYE brother (daily text messages/phone calls), I restarted. This round I'm working on שמירת הברית as well as שמירת עניים.

Re: Hi from bb0212 24 Mar 2017 08:43 #309058

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bb0212 wrote on 19 Feb 2017 23:15:

Ready2work wrote on 19 Feb 2017 22:33:
Hi bb0212
I'm feeling your pain going through hardship.. I had my struggle as well..  Therapy  could help you and give your the strength.....
but one think you should know H' is there all the time & You're Not a failure.. Just do your best and H' will help u... H' loves every little effort  that we do....!!

TY. I've been to therapy for other, more pressing matters & bh I got tremendous help. However, I had to leave both the personal therapy & the group therapy that I was in, to keep my sanity and my job. There's not enough time in my life right now for therapy & I'm doing OK without it. Ty again for your support!

You sounded very down this week
(sure you're ok without it l?)

You wrote on the forum "Why did Gd create women"
Random question on a random thread gets a random answer that I wrote earlier this week

But then I saw on the Chat that you meant something TOTALLY different
And then I decided to check your thread, from post #1

And now you deserve a very different reply

I really feel for you brother - sounds like you're going thru hell
Someone once asked on the forum "where is it?"

I think sometimes the here and now can feel like it.


btw, I wish people would keep all their personal posts not on the chat or mini community pages, rather on their personal thread

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Re: Hi from bb0212 26 Mar 2017 01:44 #309143

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Markz wrote on 24 Mar 2017 08:43:

bb0212 wrote on 19 Feb 2017 23:15:

Ready2work wrote on 19 Feb 2017 22:33:
Hi bb0212
I'm feeling your pain going through hardship.. I had my struggle as well..  Therapy  could help you and give your the strength.....
but one think you should know H' is there all the time & You're Not a failure.. Just do your best and H' will help u... H' loves every little effort  that we do....!!

TY. I've been to therapy for other, more pressing matters & bh I got tremendous help. However, I had to leave both the personal therapy & the group therapy that I was in, to keep my sanity and my job. There's not enough time in my life right now for therapy & I'm doing OK without it. Ty again for your support!

You sounded very down this week
(sure you're ok without it l?)

You wrote on the forum "Why did Gd create women"
Random question on a random thread gets a random answer that I wrote earlier this week

But then I saw on the Chat that you meant something TOTALLY different
And then I decided to check your thread, from post #1

And now you deserve a very different reply

I really feel for you brother - sounds like you're going thru hell
Someone once asked on the forum "where is it?"

I think sometimes the here and now can feel like it.


btw, I wish people would keep all their personal posts not on the chat or mini community pages, rather on their personal thread

THIS ENTIRE FORUM IS A GROUP FORUM, regardless of community, ethnicity, insanity... and we will support each other here, thru thick and thin

BB I wish you only the best, cos your situation is tough, yet you're holding strong

Hehe, so I started going to the shrink again around a month ago. Brown hit the fan, & she's been helpful somewhat. When I asked that question I was in a very dark place. Really pissed off at my ex for "making my life difficult". Yeah I know, she can't make my life difficult only I can. I need to do some radical acceptance (DBT). In either case, I have the kids this weekend, which almost always helps.

Your words are very much appreciated, thank you Markz!
My road to 90 days, all with God's help.             What brought me here.90 days with Areivim

Made it 259 days from 01/28/17-10/15/17 without mz"l. At day 90, I started to go for all aspects of שמירת עניים\הברית. At day 168 I fell with שמירת עניים & restarted the count. On approximately November 4 2017, with the support of a fellow GYE brother (daily text messages/phone calls), I restarted. This round I'm working on שמירת הברית as well as שמירת עניים.

Re: Hi from bb0212 26 Mar 2017 04:53 #309160

Glad to hear ya feeling better

KOMT
my thread:guardyoureyes.com/forum/4-On-the-Way-to-90-Days/300426-I-will-make-it-bh" option="guardyoureyes.com/forum/4-On-the-Way-to-90-Days/300426-I-will-make-it-bh">I will make it b"h











very important thread: guardyoureyes.com/forum/20-Important-Threads/19180-FEEL-THE-HUGS%21%21%21" option="guardyoureyes.com/forum/20-Important-Threads/19180-FEEL-THE-HUGS%21%21%21">FEEL THE HUGS!!!

Re: Hi from bb0212 31 Mar 2017 07:23 #309767

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Been trying to fall asleep for the past 1½ hours... From two till 3 kept my thoughts clean. But I was very frustrated that I can't fall asleep. Took a couple of Ativans not sure that it'll help. At three I told God, I'm gonna keep my hands off and my thoughts clean till 3:04. So at 3:05 I tried the distraction that I should be staying away from. Haven't fallen yet, but I might. Pretty pissed at God not sure wtf he wants from me. I'll call it relationship issues. At 4 I'll go get the iPad. I cannot afford to go to sleep after 4, I'll miss the appt with my shrink for the 2nd week in a row if I do. With the iPad I can watch movies to keep me up till morning. Hopefully stay on clean sites. I'll probably miss it now with less than 6 hours till my appointment &I still haven't fallen asleep. @$&!#!!!! 
My road to 90 days, all with God's help.             What brought me here.90 days with Areivim

Made it 259 days from 01/28/17-10/15/17 without mz"l. At day 90, I started to go for all aspects of שמירת עניים\הברית. At day 168 I fell with שמירת עניים & restarted the count. On approximately November 4 2017, with the support of a fellow GYE brother (daily text messages/phone calls), I restarted. This round I'm working on שמירת הברית as well as שמירת עניים.
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