Hi Don,
Happy you joined. For me what helps in this respect is thinking about the lowly nature of the human body. I.e thinking about the fact that there is excrement within us, blood and eaten food etc.
I can't really help with the SSL because I'm a straight porn addict. I always try to think that the women we see on screen are not the real women at all. The wicked producers use make up and photoshop etc. etc. to make them look as stimulating as possible. If you are struggling with porn that can help.
Second like the GYE book says, lust is often a way for us to zone out, a 'medicine' for the anxiety we feel because of life. We need to starting living a healthy life and be active, so we are satisfied and relaxed and we won't need the medicine. Try working out regularly.
Also, moving to a healthy Jewish environment can definitely be part of that. Pray every day and even many times a day. Ask HaShem to help you deal with the thoughts you are having.
I hope this helps a bit. Please, tell us some more about yourself.
Hatslacha rabah
