I'm starting to think that maybe I just don't really have strong yiras shamayim and I don't care so much that it's assur bec I read up on addictive behaviors and took tests to see if I'm addicted-I'm sure no one holds of them-but I don't think I'm addicted at all as it wasn't taken control of life in any way, I don't act out when I'm stressed... I guess I just act out bec it's enjoyable and now it's sort of hutra by me since I've done it countless times

It may be de'chuya...

Fb2016fbt wrote on 09 Aug 2016 15:34:

Dear Fb,
It looks like you're having a hard time deciding if you're an addict or not. Whats the whole point?
Lets talk Tachlis.
Do you want to break free? If yes, what are you ready to do for it?
Have you read the Handbook?

I have read the handbook....

And yes I would like to break free it's just that I need the will power to actually go ahead and do it
based on many factors I don't feel super compelled to break free, that it when I'm in the sakana-obviously I don't want to do it when I'm not in the nisayon. I've never gotten hit hard from my actions-at least not that I have realized-and I'm still single-not hurting anyone yet...besides myself- and I guess I don't have much yiras shamayim that it's an aveirah which should be enough to stop me. Oh and it doesn't take over my life, it's just when I'm bored, it's obviously enjoyable so I involve myself in these things. 

Fb2016fbt wrote on 11 Aug 2016 17:44:

If you only fall when your bored, then you should keep yourself busy all the time.

Porn and Masturbation are very (very) enjoyable, but the the problem is that "the more we feed it the more we need it"    sounds strange?
Besides hurting yourself now, you are hurting your future marriage, wife, children, work, learning, happiness...........

We can't make you stop, it's you, and only you, who has to want, and to decide to change.  
It's worth and possible to break free!  

Hello,

I'm new around here (I'm just one day old I am suffering from porn (addiction?) amongst other lustful behaviors for about eight years now.



I have never shared my story with anyone (not even with my wife-I'm married). Can someone guide me as to where I should start and who I can share my experiences with?



Thanks 

Dreamer wrote:

Start your own thread 

Just made a taphsic based on someone's recommendation and I think it's the smartest thing as since I feel like I just act out when I'm bored and bec im just looking for something exciting, now when the nisayon comes up, I'm going to have to face the repercussions if I do indeed act out. So I'm hoping it will help.

Good luck on your Taphisic Fb2016, i know you are able to do it. I have to agree with doingtshuva, if your problem is that you are bored then find an outlet (sports exercise, books, shiurim, etc.) or if you like you could always email me(360@gye.com) and i'll be more than happy to keep you company/occupied during boredom. This offer extends to everyone on GYE.

Dreamer wrote on 11 Aug 2016 19:54:

Welcome Dreamer,
feel free to start your own thread and discuss your story, or if that's to public you can email me (360gye@gmail.com) and ill be happy to listen and provide you with support and chizuk.you may also like to explore the website and see what tools GYE has to offer. 
Good luck on your commendable journey,
360gye