welcome aboard

controlling yourself once will lead you to control the second time.

find something on the site here that resonates with you and work it!

perhaps a mashgiach can help as well.

opening up to a real person and disclosin' your secrets is extremely beneficial.

b'hatzlachah

Maybe investing in some interesting books to read to sleep. there are so many good books in all different styles in the Sefarim stores. they can be a good distraction. I often read until I fall asleep with the book open. (my phone has a flashlight app that goes off on it's own every so often, so once I fall asleep it just stays off)
as far as getting up in the morning, I truly wish i knew how to do that. I have been struggling with that for years. sometimes having something meaningful to get up for in the morning helps. but I can't figure out anything for that matter. I was thinking recently maybe we should open up a waking up on time forum and have a 90 day challenge for that as well as a way to discuss what works and doesn't like we do for these things

Yisgaber koari laamod baboker v'yikra kriyas shema baerev.

Thank you all!!
It's not so much the physical waking up I b'h have no issue with that. It's just that in the morning the taivah is so strong it's very hard to abstain.

I don't have any rebbe that I would feel close enough to talk to about these issues

Helpmrstop22 wrote:


There's a special tefila that deals with these 2 specific times:
השכיבנו ה' אלקינו לשלום והעמידנו מלכנו לחיים טובים ולשלום
It's your daily (or nightly) opportunity to petition your loving father for that extra siyata dishmaya.

As they say in the heiligeh 12 steps: "We admitted that we were powerless... We came to believe that a power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity. We made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we
understood Him..."

Hatzlacha (and welcome!),

MT

MT?!
TWELVE STEPS?
MT?!
HEILIGE TWELVE STEPS?!


MOSHIACH! MOSHIACH!
IT'S ALL RIGHT, YOU CAN COME!!!

welcome

work on shma and really talk to Hashem when you say modeh ani

TehillimZugger wrote:


I learned from our good friend Dov - he uses (lehavdil) Chazal/Mussar/Chassidus when it serves his purpose. As they say: "Az men darf dem goniff, nemt men em arup fin di tliya".

(Calm down - and don't expect to see me at your SA meeting - I wear a paper bag.)

MT

Helpmrstop22 wrote:

"My hardest times that I really need major siyata dishmaya is when I get into bed at night and getting out bed in the morning. I'm very scared of those 2 times. Any tips on those 2 specific times would be appreciated."

I sleep on my back because of a medical issue. That was for me a very vulnerable position and a possible trigger, This is my seder for getting ready to sleep and getting up-which seems to be working so far- When I wake up, I go and wash negel vaser, say Birchos HaShachar, and get dressed. I close the door to the room where our computer is, and go and back dressed as quickly as possible, learn a little at home, go to a chavrusa and daven Shacharis. At night, after I tak a shower and get dressed as quickly as possible, I say Krias Shema, I get into into bed, and keep my hands on top of the blanket, say good night to my Eshes Chayil, and think of the Nusach of Shemoneh Esreh. I think that like in any other aspect of living a life committed to Torah, you have to have a seder-like in so many other aspects of Mitzvos and Avodas HaShem.

WELCOME!!!!!

I also have problems at night. I sleep on my right side but honestly i always couldn't fall asleep so i fell. After awhile i just decided to choose not to fall. So Keep in there!!!!!!

Helpmrstop22 wrote:

meybe learn with him the halacha sader you are planning.

a bit late but not to late WELCOME!!!

keep on posting and shtieging!!!

Helpmrstop22 wrote:



dd wrote:


SHIVISI Responds:

Reb Helpmrstop22- I would be more than happy to learn with you, either Halacha (of your choice) or any other topic that you prefer.
But if your interest is based on the assumption that I am a "Talmid Chochom" than I must say it would be a "mekach Tous".

If youre still interested you can email me at: she.v.c26@gmail.com

Hatzlacha

This site is amazing!!
Going on day 3 today. Started yeshiva. So it's a little easier. But I'm always alert as the y'h has his ways

Belated WELCOME! I've been out of the loop lately.

Is the rest of the day fine? Are you stressed, lonely, depressed? Or is it simply raw tayva?

Usually compulsive behavior has other factors besides tayva.

Have you checked out the tools on this site, the handbook etc, The part for newcomers. There's lots of good info there.