byebye wrote on 06 Jun 2018 16:32:
dear moderators, i recently made a challenge to someone on his thread that i thought would be a benefit for his and my recovery, a 30 day challenge,but i see the post was deleted ,i dont know if he requested to the moderators to remove because of
A. hes not interested
B. he just didnt want me on his thread for whatever reason ,
if its A. ,please delete this post,
if its B, ill just repost it here, thank you.
Dear Mr byebye/gyegye/ieeyc or whoever you are,
I'm sure you have noticed that certain people are annoyed by your posts and Markz has already notified you of that in manner or another, as have other people here on the forum.
Why would you 'reach out' to him by
challenging him in any fashion at all? Don't you realize there is a history here and don't you realize that you have been repeatedly acting oblivious to other people's annoyances about your posts - and I hope you realize how that can annoy them even further. Maybe you don't realize that you have annoyed people by posting certain things. And maybe you also don't realize that people who are annoyed at you will be annoyed even further when you pretend as though you've never annoyed them at all. And maybe you don't realize that issuing a challenge of sobriety to somebody else who has already expressed annoyance, is basically tempting fate.
That's a lot of things you might not be aware of that I think most people may be aware of. We all have things to learn. I've got a lot to learn about time management and reliability, for example. There's no shame at all and your having a bit to learn about communication and other people's expectations.
Before you continue posting, I suggest that you educate yourself about these matters. The Rov who you mentioned you had talked to before would most likely be a great place for you to start. You wrote that he is wise. (Perhaps he himself is a sexaholic in recovery where we all learn a lot of wisdom...I know a few Roshei Kolel who are Sexaholics in great recovery for years and have grown very wise indeed, bH). Please try opening up to him about the way you interact with others and the chalkebges youve had here, and I'm sure he will be able to explain this stuff to you in a way that will be kind, meaningful, and helpful.
You deserve better - and so do some of the people you interact with, chaver.
I wanted to post this publicly here because it has been affecting people here in a public way.
Any more discussion you want to direct to me, I ask you do
only through Private Messaging. I'm going to try to avoid responding to any of your posts, at least for a while. Perhaps a 30-day challenge will do.
And I think that it would be an effective demonstration of your good will and insight, if you do not respond to this post at all on this thread, but again,
only through PM.
Hatzlocha
