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Re: A Modest Proposal 26 Jun 2024 19:11 #415901

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proudyungerman wrote on 26 Jun 2024 03:35:

Heeling wrote on 26 Jun 2024 02:31:

Hashem Help Me wrote on 25 Jun 2024 20:44:
A nice simple melava malka in someone's house would be great - real live interaction. Exchange of ideas. Chizuk and tips how to help each others and newcomers. Slight technicality - we have chevra living on every continent (besides Antarctica....)

Totally! I'd be open to hosting.

For this?!?!?!?
Of course I'm flying in!!!!!!!!

You guys are so brave!
My whole body starts shaking when I am thinking of such an idea. I am so jealous from your vulnerability.

Re: A Modest Proposal 26 Jun 2024 19:16 #415903

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It's so worth it.....

Pick one fella who you feel is the least intimidating. And dont forget that hes prepared to be just as vulnerable with you 
May you slide down the banister of happiness and get many splinters of success up your career

Feel free to send me an owl, a howler, or even a Crumple-Horned Snorkack to Iamredfaced@gmail.com


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Re: A Modest Proposal 04 Jul 2024 19:45 #416426

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Update:

We are G-d willing getting a proposal in front of the GYE higher ups.

Does anyone have experience putting together a clear and professional proposal (not just a post) and can help me out with this? Pm me if you can help.

(I can do it, but I'd like it to be as clear as possible and sometimes I get unnecessarily wordy and wander on kinda assuming my audience knows what I'm talking about when meanwhile they've been lost since the first run-on sentence and are just sitting there waiting for this interminable paragraph to asphyxiate on its own hot air and finally stop.)
Last Edit: 04 Jul 2024 19:46 by chosemyshem.

Re: A Modest Proposal 05 Jul 2024 12:37 #416475

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I'm  not sure if you are basing off the SA meeting format or not [and if not possibly speak to some SA guy's to get a feel]
In SA they say 
Meetings Meetings Meetings and more Meetings....!
Great idea though
Marbitz torah and communal askan in E Yisroel | 30's | Went to rehab | Avid SA'er
Not perfect yet, but a changed person 180 degrees
If you think you know who I am, and want to reach out for further chizzuk, I have nothing to hide in real life and would love to share my ESH with you

Re: A Modest Proposal 05 Jul 2024 13:34 #416477

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parev wrote on 05 Jul 2024 12:37:
I'm  not sure if you are basing off the SA meeting format or not [and if not possibly speak to some SA guy's to get a feel]
In SA they say 
Meetings Meetings Meetings and more Meetings....!
Great idea though

I'm not really familiar with the SA meeting format (and please feel free to give me a call and explain it to me) but I think this is going to be different. Cross-talk, positive feedback, interacting with a text instead of just reading. Happy to hash it out and make sure we're setting up the optimal format.

Re: A Modest Proposal 05 Jul 2024 13:47 #416480

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The consensus seems to be that most of the chevra here (BH) are not "true" addicts. Whatever we do, it is good to be familiar with the other resources so it can be suggested when appropriate. That being said, I think the goal is to be a group of friends, building bonds of connection and strength, not so much strangers getting validation and acceptance (though we'll get that too IYH). 
Today is yesterday's tomorrow.
The yetzarim a person has the most trouble dealing with are his most powerful God-given tools for developing his potential and achieving shleimus.
In order to love who you are, you cannot hate the experiences that shaped you.
It doesn't matter how big the number is, only that today it is going up by one.

A little about what I'm doing here: guardyoureyes.com/forum/19-Introduce-Yourself/412971-I-Want-to-Help-Others

Re: A Modest Proposal 05 Jul 2024 13:51 #416481

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chosemyshem wrote on 05 Jul 2024 13:34:

parev wrote on 05 Jul 2024 12:37:
I'm  not sure if you are basing off the SA meeting format or not [and if not possibly speak to some SA guy's to get a feel]
In SA they say 
Meetings Meetings Meetings and more Meetings....!
Great idea though

I'm not really familiar with the SA meeting format (and please feel free to give me a call and explain it to me) but I think this is going to be different. Cross-talk, positive feedback, interacting with a text instead of just reading. Happy to hash it out and make sure we're setting up the optimal format.

I sent you a PM with my number.
For the record SA meetings are not 1 size fits all, with various formats, often interacting with the text and sharing.
Crosstalk and positive feedback are not inherently anti SA, just one needs to make sure the maximum benefit to the group, and can be assessed by a per meeting basis 
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Not perfect yet, but a changed person 180 degrees
If you think you know who I am, and want to reach out for further chizzuk, I have nothing to hide in real life and would love to share my ESH with you

Re: A Modest Proposal 11 Jul 2024 22:18 #416949

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I think the most telling thing about this thread is that all the people sayin, "love this idea!" are the people who are already out meeting people.

Crickets from everyone else, except for crispy.

Re: A Modest Proposal 11 Jul 2024 22:38 #416952

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Bennyh wrote on 11 Jul 2024 22:18:
I think the most telling thing about this thread is that all the people sayin, "love this idea!" are the people who are already out meeting people.

Crickets from everyone else, except for crispy.

There are people who may never call, but the signs have gotten responses, and so it should reach other Yidden. Even helping one is enough.
Today is yesterday's tomorrow.
The yetzarim a person has the most trouble dealing with are his most powerful God-given tools for developing his potential and achieving shleimus.
In order to love who you are, you cannot hate the experiences that shaped you.
It doesn't matter how big the number is, only that today it is going up by one.

A little about what I'm doing here: guardyoureyes.com/forum/19-Introduce-Yourself/412971-I-Want-to-Help-Others

Re: A Modest Proposal 12 Jul 2024 13:49 #416994

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Bennyh wrote on 11 Jul 2024 22:18:
I think the most telling thing about this thread is that all the people sayin, "love this idea!" are the people who are already out meeting people.

Crickets from everyone else, except for crispy.

Exactly. Only posters communicate. That's why the proposal is needed. If it becomes part of the official program people will be much more likely to join and reach out.

Re: A Modest Proposal 16 Jul 2024 18:46 #417247

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chosemyshem wrote on 04 Jul 2024 19:45:
Update:

We are G-d willing getting a proposal in front of the GYE higher ups.

Does anyone have experience putting together a clear and professional proposal (not just a post) and can help me out with this? Pm me if you can help.

(I can do it, but I'd like it to be as clear as possible and sometimes I get unnecessarily wordy and wander on kinda assuming my audience knows what I'm talking about when meanwhile they've been lost since the first run-on sentence and are just sitting there waiting for this interminable paragraph to asphyxiate on its own hot air and finally stop.)

Any update on this? 
Feel free to reach out and say hi!
proudyungerman@gmail.com
406-219-8398

My Journey:
guardyoureyes.com/forum/19-Introduce-Yourself/406231-The-Real-Me

Re: A Modest Proposal 18 Aug 2024 18:19 #419348

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Update:

Very productive meeting with the good folks at GYE (who are unsurprisingly knowledgeable and interested in helping guys get better). Some insightful comments and a lot of interest.
:pinch: Warning: Spoiler!

Hopefully a pilot program will be getting off the ground.

Huge Yasher Koach to @Muttel for his hard work on this.

Re: A Modest Proposal 28 Aug 2024 16:11 #420277

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I had a similar idea!

guardyoureyes.com/forum/1-Break-Free/420272-Starting-a-supportchizzuk-group#420273

Re: A Modest Proposal 11 Sep 2024 13:09 #421276

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HERE WE GO!!

I hope you all saw the GYE email today. In case you didn't, here is the official kickoff of the Vaad program. 



Dear GYE Members,


We are thrilled to introduce the new GuardYourEyes Vaad program, designed to empower you on your journey to recovery through community support and shared growth.


The Vaad program offers you the opportunity to:


  • Work closely with a small, cohesive group of chavereim
  • Participate in weekly, hour-long phone conferences
  • Support each other throughout your recovery journey
  • Build lasting friendships and connections

Connecting with other members has proven to be one of the most powerful tools for overcoming challenges. The Vaad system aims to help you forge connections and meaningful friendships that will support you every step of the way.


Here's how it works:


  1. Weekly Meetings: Join a 1-hour phone conference each week
  2. Structured Learning: We'll begin with the Flight to Freedom texts, then progress to other valuable texts
  3. Safe Environment: Members are vetted by the Vaad gabbai to ensure your safety

To join or learn more about the GYE Vaad program, please fill out our brief questionnaire.


Let's join together and help each other - איש את רעהו יעזורו ולאחיו יאמר חזק.

The GYE Team

P.S. Have ideas to improve this initiative? We'd love to hear them! Feel free to include them in your questionnaire responses or reply to this email.

Re: A Modest Proposal 11 Sep 2024 15:57 #421283

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Pumped for this!
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