jack wrote:


Sorry I can't resist...

what's spoiler?

as u see, i'm an am haaretz-

Click the spoiler

dear eslaasos - we addicts are very hard on ourselves.maybe because people were hard on us, so we learned.but in my opinion, saying there'll be a din vcheshbon only serves to bring us down.UNLESS, UNLESS, it doesn't. in which case, it's GOOD to think about it.but it only works if we take that down feeling and use it to stop us from acting out.i think dov speaks about this.for me, it doesn't work.for me, the wise words of anybody, are only STARTING to make their way into my psyche.i read with envy the way our leader speaks so forcefully against this addiction.i wish i had that feeling.but i don't.but i'm working on it.the klippos of the addiction are mighty strong, and it takes a long time to break them down.and while i'm doing the work, i can't afford to be brought down - it'll only make me fall.
by the way, the people here are GREATTTTT!
jack

Thanks again everyone for your encouraging words!
I have a question: Sometimes when I'm on the web, I tell myself that I won't search anything porn related... it lasts for a few min... My question is, how do I control myself and always remember that I'll be much happier not watching/doing these things... Even as I watch, I tell myself "this is no good! It's not healthy" but once you're in it, nothing seems to help

Thanks

Are you on the web for work or chizuk purposes?
I myself wouldn't go on for other purposes, and after 10:15 PM is out of bounds for me as shown at the last link on my signature.

I have a great reporting system too

This is if gedarim helps you

What to tell yourself?
I don't talk to myself too much so I can't tell you

I go online for work related and for news etc.

markz wrote:


uh huh, sure, we all believe you mark

in terms of what to tell yourself i think one thing that can be helpful is saying that tomorrow (or even in a hour, minute wtvr) you can go watch all the porn you want, but right now you aren't going to watch porn. I am assuming you can stop for one (day, hour, wtvr) at a time?

I guess I can try that.

Teshuvah wrote:


that's all we really can do in life.

Teshuvah wrote:


Hi Teshuva
I"ll share with you what helps me
I use the TaPHSiC method - guardyoureyes.com/the-gye-program/20-tools/item/tool-10?category_id=278
But first read how to use it correctly and then adjust it with the time.

I would also advice you to spend time reading or listening on this topic, there so much available and it opens our eyes and we learn new ways to fight.
Hatzluche

Thank you! Will check it out

Gevura Shebyesod wrote:


When I say you couldnt resist, I was expecting this: