I thank Bigmoish for quoting the paragragh that he slipped .

btw i dont know how to do the quoting inside the gray area.

press the quote button on the bottom right of the post box (before hittin' reply) and then type afterwards.

if you wanna break up a quote into two, ask and I or others will explain that as well.

newaction


There is an icon with a speech bubble. Click on that. It will insert into the Reply box. Copy and paste the text you want to quote between them.

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Here are the rules: guardyoureyes.com/90-days-chart/rules

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Dear CT,

I don't know what you meant exactly with that comment, but I would just like to tell you what I know about skeptical in particular and about GYE in general.

We are a group of fellows looking to grow together. We share a common battle ground and understand each other. Most of us have been through many of the same dilemmas, more or less. Sometimes with different colors, different names, different sizes, but in essence they are the same point.

When I read about someone who is going through something that I feel I relate to, I would love to help them. The only way I can help them is to share with them what I know from being there myself. Not always did I end up doing the right thing, but many times I know what the right thing was to do, and I can share that insight.

Nobody here is perfect, but together we have a hell of a lot of experience! Skeptical was just sharing what helped him in his experience with a situation which he feels he can relate to. He wasn't at all diminishing your feelings, your pain, your discomfort. He was offering something that helped him deal with all that discomfort that he himself felt.

Again I'm not quite sure what you meant, but it's a good point to know about GYE in general

Keep on Posting!! and KOMT!!!

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Oh, one more thing, what does KOMT stand for?

Keep on Monster Truckin'!

I feel for you and I can relate to some extent to some of the things you mentioned, although not all. I will not try to solve your problems. I will say that this site is a public forum, one which was established for people to try helpin' each other - either thru their own experiences or those of others. Yes, some people simply provide support and cheer from the sidelines, but others try to help; it is done all over here. If you don't want this, that's fine. Perhaps put a disclaimer in your signature that you just want sympathy, understandin' and support. Whoever read your last post will know, but they will need to remember for the future.

May God be with you!

Hi Cheshbon Tzedek.

I'm sorry that I wrote words that could have been taken the wrong way. I actually spent so much time responding to you, because I felt that as a Lubavitcher, we "speak the same language". I certainly didn't mean to be insensitive, and my words were not written to tell you off in any way.

I have gone through some very painful things in my own life. I currently live on a very low income, and am working on paying off a lot of debt due to a failed business venture. I know very well what it means to have bills coming in, and schools calling for tuition, as I wonder how I'm going to make it through the month.

What has helped me get through my tough times, is being aware that everything is hashgacha protis. If I'm in a situation, I'm in it because Hashem wants me there, and it is good for me, even if I can't see how. I can relax. I can breathe. Hashem is taking care of me. I don't need to be sad, upset, anxious or worried. I just need to do what I need to do, to the best of my ability, and Hashem always takes care of the rest.

I could have empathized and typed out a few words of encouragement, but I thought it would be more effective to share with you what works for me - trusting in Hashem and being grateful for all He has given me.


PS. Keep On Monster Trucking!

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Thank You CT for that honest post, I really do feel your pain.

It's funny that you wrote this

Cheshbon Tzedek wrote:


Because a few weeks ago (or was it months?), I wrote almost the identical thing over here!!!

Pidaini wrote:


With some more posts where that one came from.

May Hashem help you gain peace of mind!!

KOMT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Please KOP!!!

CT,
just wanted you to know the guys feel your pain. I had private conversations with two guys last night and they both said to me "Did you notice cheshbon tzeddek? He is having it rough." We notice and feel for you.
hatzlacha

Hi Cheshbon Tzedek!!!

I agree to all of the above posts.

All i want to add (also mentioned) that we all are very caring we of course are not in the situation you are but we try to relate as much as possible.

Like unanumun said, i also spoke to three (two beside unanumun) guys about the hardships we see your going through. the oilam really cares.

Gye is the best place in general and in seeing the כל ישראל ערבים especially .

So keep on sharing and reaching out and you'll feel the same way we all feel here and about the whole gye lifestyle (attitude)!!!

KOMT!!!!!

and KEEP ON BEING HAPPY!!!!(kobh)