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Re: Tryin' 11 Jun 2015 18:30 #256656

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No, it's because they need to spend extra buying the vomit bag to use after the couple leaves...
"Off the 18-wheeler and fine on this tricycle!", "I do not particularly care exactly which "lav" suicide is. I'm not interested in it for other reasons...and you are probably the same."

Re: Tryin' 11 Jun 2015 21:26 #256668

I had some sessions like that. The therapist will speak to one patient as if the other one isn't there, back and forth. But there's a different kind where the couple talk to each other (facing each other) and practice their communication skills. I wonder if that's cheaper.

Re: Tryin' 16 Jun 2015 15:18 #256983

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Switchin' topics:

It has been discussed how tzitzis prevents one from sinnin'.
The pesukim and the Gemoras, etc.

Please pardon me for the followin', as it is not my usual shprach here:

bava basra: three things a person is not saved from every day; one is hirhur aveirah.
seems like there is a judgment on these.
How can there be a judgment, if he cannot be protected from them?
Maharsha: Adam/man cannot save himself, but a malach can.
How can one be like a malach?
Mitzvah of tzitzis.
Vihyisem kedoshim....Targum says to be like a malach.
Rememberin' all mitzvos is too much and gets watered down, but like a malach who cannot do two things, not because he can't, but rather, because he is focused on the task and mission and hand.
Tzitzis can make someone like a malach, in the sense that he has but one mission.
If one is a malach, he will be saved from hirhurim; if not, he will be judged.

Moral of the story: Men are addicted to lust; angels are not!
Keep your tzitzis on, and perhaps your pants will stay on as well.
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Re: Tryin' 19 Jun 2015 12:49 #257202

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Noticed that there were several new posters, and all jumpin' to the 90-day endgame.
While that is certainly good, they were cautioned by others to focus on today.

Saw this written concisely on another thread: Keep in mind, that while the 90 challenge is a fantastic goal, in reality, we only have today. You don't need to abstain for the next 90 days. Right now you need to abstain just for today. When tomorrow comes it'll be the same thing, just for today (aka tomorrow... ). Keep it in the day and the 90 days will come on their own.

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Re: Tryin' 19 Jun 2015 16:04 #257219

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cordnoy wrote:
Why do therapists charge more if the couple (rather than an individual) shows up? Doesn't it make their job easier then?

I don't know what setup you have in the States but I wouldn't trust a therapist who charged more for couples.

Re: Tryin' 19 Jun 2015 17:14 #257224

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"Sometimes a hard decision leads to an easier outcome."
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Re: Tryin' 19 Jun 2015 17:22 #257225

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The way I look at the 90 day chart is as if day 91 is day 1 of recovery. The only significance to 90 days for me is that it hopefully gets me out of any routines I was in and has hopefully started me on new routines. I definitely try not to look at it as a personal goal. My experience in life is that I can achieve short term personal goals with a big trophy at the end with zero lasting effect. In other words, I can win a competition and go back to my old self the next day. Setting short term goals that are specifically designed to have lasting beneficial effects and that are boring is another story.
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Re: Tryin' 21 Jun 2015 05:16 #257279

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Gevura Shebyesod wrote:
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Thank you....real sweet of you
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Re: Tryin' 21 Jun 2015 15:40 #257294

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There will be a reading from the big book from 230 to 245; sa book from 245 to 255; 5
minutes share till 3 from Monday thru Friday this week EST.

All times are exact (God-pendin')

If you want to join, email me at thenewme613@hotmail.com

b'hatzlachah to all
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Re: Tryin' 21 Jun 2015 18:52 #257302

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look above

Gevura, Did you count those stickers? Maybe if I do that I'll be so busy that I can also get to 738 days!
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Re: Tryin' 21 Jun 2015 19:09 #257307

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Mazal tov Cordnoy on 5000 posts. Wow. So many people you've helped; you've kept the forums ticking over nicely, and been a balanced sensible dose of reality.
Your 5000 number is worth so much than if it were just a private victory.
You should have bracha, hatzlacha and have shalom and enjoy the fruits of your labours in this world as well as the next.
Shlomo

Re: Tryin' 21 Jun 2015 19:19 #257308

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shlomo613 wrote:
Mazal tov Cordnoy on 5000 posts. Wow. So many people you've helped; you've kept the forums ticking over nicely, and been a balanced sensible dose of reality.
Your 5000 number is worth so much than if it were just a private victory.
You should have bracha, hatzlacha and have shalom and enjoy the fruits of your labours in this world as well as the next.
Shlomo


Amen!
Nice brachah
not sure about the rest of the post though....
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Re: Tryin' 22 Jun 2015 16:26 #257372

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Today; dammit today!
NIC reminded me.

For myself, i will be readin' big book and SA book....startin' at 2:30 EST.
If you wanna eavesdrop, send me an email to thenewme613@hotmail.com, and i will send you the anonymous dial-in code.

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Re: Tryin' 22 Jun 2015 16:29 #257373

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stillgoing wrote:

look above

Gevura, Did you count those stickers? Maybe if I do that I'll be so busy that I can also get to 738 days!


I colored them all in and drew the smiles by hand.
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Re: Tryin' 23 Jun 2015 02:43 #257433

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I'm starting to get the hang of it. Did you blow up the air yourself in those monster tires too?
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