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A fellow struggler writes on the forum of jewishsexuality.com: I am not very educated in these things, but from my own experience and struggles I can at least say: G-D is very true and frequently helps you when you ask for the right things (in the right way)! Every tim...

The Arizal explains that the "oneg"- pleasure that one feels from a sexual transgression, turns into "nega" - plague, by a rearrangement of the Hebrew letters. The Arizal also teaches that every time a man misuses his seed, he is handing a sword to his urge for evil, wh...

Today I would like to share with you the recovery story of a non-Jew, who saw our site www.guardureyes.com and send us his story to help inspire others...   Dear Rabbi, After several correspondences and having read much of your website I feel I can trust you. At the age o...

Kids think that dolls look so human. They are fascinated with them and have fun playing with them and imagine that the dolls are real. We always have to remember this fact. All the fascination that we have with sexual desire and with the beauty of women is fake. It is sat...

All the fascination we have for sexual desire is satisfied in a few seconds. After that we feel sick from it and don't even want it anymore. What a gyp! Is it worth it for this to give away Hashem, with whom our fascination can never be quenched, and with whom the more w...

On Pesach we say "Bikesh Lavan La'akor es Hakol" - "Lavan tried to destroy everything" (even more than Pharaoh). The question is asked, where do we find in the scripture that Lavan tried to destroy everything? The holy sefer, the "Ma'or Vashemesh" writes that Lavan is sym...

Let's go back to the ABC's and see what G-d wrote in the Torah about the Yetzer Hara. When Kayin was not willing to sacrifice to G-d as much as Hevel was, G-d turned away from his offering. Kayin felt rejected and so G-d said to him:"Why are you sad? If you will do better...

To truly be free of the insidious desires, we need to make a true and final decision that we don't want these things anymore. When we are standing in Shul on Rosh Hashana or Yom-Kippur, or when we are meeting with a Rabbi we truly respect, is there anything we want more i...

"I have tried to stop over and over, but just can't seem to. I have even gone like 3 or 4 months without porn, but always the desire grows so strong that life seems too dull and worthless to live without being able to indulge in the viewing of women... " We would like to ...

Long ago, Rabbi Nachman of Breslov had recognized Simcha as the key to success in fighting the evil inclination and coming truly close to HaShem. In stressing the importance of Simcha he went so far as saying that depression - the antithesis of Simcha - constitutes "the m...

It is very important to remember these three, very powerful sayings of Rebbe Nachman at all times. "There is no such thing as "Yiush" (i.e. despair) in the world".  "As long as the candle is lit (i.e. one is still alive), one can always correct".  "If you believe you can destroy, then you must believe that you can fix".

We need to internalize that these desires are out to destroy us, not to help us. He claims to be our best friend, but he is our worst enemy. The evil inclination's goal is that the value of our lives should be zero. His job is to damage. To do this he was given permission...

From the Shaar ha'Tefillah by the Beer Mayim Chayim "And it is not seemly and it is not proper for an intelligent person to run after the filth and desire of this sort, for why is he called man if not for having the spirit of man which ascends above and not that of a bea...

Repent to G-d every day. Admit your sins and change your ways, as the Pasuk says "Modeh V'eozev Yerucham" - "He who admits and desists will be shown mercy". In the holy books it says that the secret of confession is as follows: Every deed a person does creates a prosecut...

Chanukah is an opportune time to work on sexual purity. Here are some excerpts from an article by Tzvi Fishman. At the center of the Greek plan to uproot the Torah from Israel was their strategy to lure the Jews into sexual transgression. The Jewish People's belief that G...

Bitul (self-nullification). Learn to think "Who am I to want anything? We are not here for pleasure. I am doing the work of the king every time I say "No". What more can a Jew want in this world? Along these lines of Bitul, R' Nachman offers a powerful suggestion. Whenev...

From the Zochar Chai, Vayechi 377b The sin of emitting semen in vain is encompassing and it damages the mazal of the person at the level of DAAT. Because the one who sins in this fashion, the image of G-d immediately runs away from him and he becomes a beast, damaging wi...

Q. Anybody with a normal sex drive and no outlet for it will masturbate. Man or Woman! I once went without masturbating for about a month…toward the end of that month I thought I was going to rape someone. Even while studying Torah I had the urge. The more you deny it th...