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You are a mature adult who can make the right choices. Say no to the child within you.

Chaza"l say that if a person is walking and he needs to say Kriyas Shema, he should "stand" and not continue walking when he says the first pasuk. The Beis Ahron of Karlin explains this to mean that one should stand firm like a beam of iron, meaning that when one accepts ...

There is nothing as powerful as prayer to help a person break free and overcome the greatest tests. Make a note of pesukim in Tehilim that you feel relate to your situation. Compile a list, print them out and save them in your wallet to read over to Hashem, with a broken ...

Never underestimate the value of each and every time you say no to yourself. Sometimes a person is feeling weak and says to themselves, "what's the difference if I look now at something that I know I shouldn't - I'm anyway not feeling strong now". You must believe in the ...

Taken from www.briskodesh.org Know that there are two sides. The side of good, and the side of evil (Sitra Achrah). G-d created evil to provide man with free will. The Sitra Achrah is like a shell (klipah) it has no energy of its own. All the klipas must receive...

More from www.briskodesh.org Many people were pogem their bris since they were young and no longer remember their state of mind before they started. Most people nowadays are controlled by their subconscious. Even conscious acts are strongly tainted by their subconscio...

More from www.briskodesh.org Wasting seed uses up a lot of of the bodies energy this has many physical manifestations. People who are pogem the bris are always tired and need more sleep. There is spiritual energy all over the place. A special part of the b...

The Chassidim teach that physical love is a branch of spiritual love. It is a materialistic expression of what the soul truly yearns for. G-d gave us these desires only to "learn" what the love of G-d should be like. As David Hamelech said, "Tzama lecha nafshi, Kama lecha...

This is an amazing tip that really works to get you started, if you are determined to learn how to guard your eyes: Commit (for a few weeks or a period of time), to pinch yourself -- enough to make it hurt -- every time you gaze improperly at something that you know you s...

Taken from the forum at www.jewishsexuality.com/ Gary Writes: "I made it thru the whole week. I have been following the 12 Torah Steps for almost 2 months. I confessed to my Rabbi and he has an encouraging word each morning after Sharcharis. I try doing a mikvah a day, ...

From www.briskodesh.org on the seriousness of spilling seed, according to Kabbala. Just like a person creates children through intercourse, so too, souls are drawn down every time a person spills seed. These souls are immediately captured by the forces of ...

I can't believe I'm quoting from an Islamic Forum. Nonetheless, I think these excerpt from a forum discussion have some educational value for us. It makes us feel all the more responsibility in these areas, for if even these people, who are called "Am Hadomeh Lachamor" ar...

Sometimes, when we find ourselves drawn, time and time again, to look at things we know we shouldn't, we ask ourselves, "wouldn't it be great if I just couldn't see"? But then, we start to think about how wonderful it is to be able to see. We begin to realize that withou...

A non-Jewish sex therapist in Maryland wrote on one of the forums of Arutz Sheva (on the subject of porn addictions): "While many men watch pornography to stimulate their sexual excitement with their wives, the opposite is the case. The experience of our clinic and studie...

We all know how the attraction to women makes no logical sense. It is part of our animal nature, given to us by G-d for the sole purpose of the perpetuation of mankind. As our sages said, "everyone knows that a woman is a barrel of excrement and that her mouth (allegoric...

The man who sees a woman improperly exposed and closes his eyes because at that time he can't go anywhere else, merits to greet the Shechina, for he has drawn an great light of holiness onto his soul. Even though he has no conscious perception of it, he is really greeting...

From the Medrash Yalkut Shimoni, Vayechi THE FOLLOWING STORY HAPPENED TO RABBI MATYA BEN CHERESH WHO WOULD ALWAYS BE SITTING IN THE BET HA MIDRASH ENGAGED IN TORAH STUDY AND THE BRILLIANCE OF HIS FACE RESEMBLED THE SUN AND THE APPEARANCE OF HIS FACE RESEMBLED THAT OF THE ...

The Yetzer Hara's biggest tool in getting people to sin, is depression. One way to always remain happy is to remember that everything we go through in life - including all of the "unfulfilled" desires that we think we need and all the suffering that we endure, it is all o...