The Library

We are compiling a list of professionals that have a proven record helping GYE members. If you were helped by a professional therapist please tell us about it and send us the therapist's contact information so we can share the information with others. Please send deta...

Anyone who avidly follows contemporary popular culture and cultural trends in general is probably well aware that the pornography (adult entertainment) industry is an entity that generates billions of dollars of revenue in the United States annually. What is more notable...

We received the following sheilah: I am reaching out to you on behalf of a good friend of mine. She had a boyfriend for a few years, and now that she is soon going into shidduchim, she realized she may not be a besula but she is unsure. She did have relations a number of...

Principle One: Acceptance Key Concepts We need courage to live changed lives of serenity and emotional sobriety. The encompassing umbrella of the First Principle of Acceptance is the integration of a paradigm shift, freedom, consistency and willingness to move into a ...

Dear Unwilling, What if your best friend told you the following: "I have a secret that I want to share with you because you are my best friend in the whole world. I have never revealed this to anyone. There is a forest at the end of the city. You need to go at night, so n...

Dear Mr. Yaakov, I have been wanting to email someone at guardyoureyes for awhile. I wanted to sincerely thank you and all your staff for all the resources available on your website. I found out my husband was watching schmutz about 7 months ago. It was the worst yissu...

I'm a lust addict. What does that mean? It means that even when I'm not actually doing the big act, I'm thinking about it. I'm fantasizing. I'm checking out women for lower-level excitement. And the pressure builds until I am completely out of control and act out again...

One of the tools used in sex offender treatment (SOT) is called "victim sensitization," i.e. teaching sex offenders (not addicts, mind you, but actual predators, who not only get triggered but actually violate vulnerable others, including children) about the human side o...

Head of the Rabbinical services organization 'Tzohar,' Rabbi David Stav, criticized on Wednesday rabbis who hush up sexual abuse cases in their communities rather than reporting them to the authorities. "Sexual abuse is physical and psychological damage of the highest or...

Rabbi Dovid Heber of Baltimore, who has been a member of GYE's Rabbinical Board since 2010, gave permission that this letter be shared, including with the GYE community. Rabbi Heber wrote the letter 20 years ago, when Internet use was in its infancy. In the letter,...

We are looking for GYE members who are fluent in Yiddish to help on the forum or as a partner/sponsor for other Yiddish speakers around the world. If you can help please let us know by email: help@gye.org.il

climbingdan I am over two years sober via SA and GYE. I have participated and led many of the GYE phone meetings gyemember123 Sober for over 13 months. Go to SA meetings after a few months on GYE. Learn in kollel. Was very very afraid to join SA, but th...

Chazal say, מעשה אבות סימן לבנים– "the deeds of our Fathers are a sign for the children". There are so many parallels between the Yidden’s sojourn in the desert and our journey through Galus until the ultimate redemption. The Exodus from Egypt was supposed to lead to ...

Question: You say that only Hashem can give us ultimate victory over lust. Then, where does human willpower and bechira come into play? Here are a few good resources that can help us understand this sticky topic: 1) This PDF booklet discusses the issue in depth. 2...

When you are in the middle of a problem with porn it can easily feel like this is the way life will always be. Always hard, always hurting, always struggling. It’s easy for me to say this isn’t true but until you are out the other side you won’t believe me. So with that ...

"Neiroyair" sent an email to GYE as follows: Dear GYE, My wife sent me an email this morning (maybe it could be of service to others): My dear husband, I know that we both spend a lot of time on the family, taking care of the kids. But we don't spend time just...

When a loved one has an addiction. Get educated. Addiction is a disease. If you found out that your loved one had an illness, you would research it. Do the same for addiction. Read about the signs and symptoms of substance abuse, the reasons why it occurs and how to be...

An entrepreneurial investor has offered us a challenge once again. He has committed to donate $5,000 to GuardYourEyes on condition that we raise $5,000 to match it within 5 days (by Friday July 22). If we don't, we lose the opportunity and his commitment. Please help u...