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Married and love to watch some steamy porn together? Be warned, as frequent pornography use can sound the death knell for your happy marriage. According to the researchers, pornography is associated with a substantial increase in the probability of divorce for married p...

וַיְהִ֗י בְּשַׁלַּ֣ח פַּרְעֹה֮ אֶת-הָעָם֒ וְלֹא-נָחָ֣ם אֱלֹקים דֶּ֚רֶךְ אֶ֣רֶץ פְּלִשְׁתִּ֔ים כִּ֥י קָר֖וֹב ה֑וּא כִּ֣י | אָמַ֣ר אֱלֹקים פֶּֽן-יִנָּחֵ֥ם הָעָ֛ם בִּרְאֹתָ֥ם מִלְחָמָ֖ה וְשָׁ֥בוּ מִצְרָֽיְמָה: וַיַּסֵּ֨ב אֱלֹהִ֧ים | אֶת-הָעָ֛ם דֶּ֥רֶךְ הַמִּדְבָּ֖ר יַם-ס֑...

A new day-by-day Elul program can help you achieve serenity. Experience Elul, Rosh Hashana and Yom Kippur like never before - living the aspirations alongside hope, and joining together in powerful positive prayer for personal and national renewal. "Think Positive...

My Name is TC and I Have an Eating Disorder I remember texting my friend from the hospital “do you think you can come pick me up?” My husband, Jon, knew where I was, he was the one who took me to the ER earlier that day, but I didn’t want him to have to come get me, I w...

Questions: 1) May men masturbate? Is there any (rabbinic) dispute regarding that? If not, for what reason? 2) And the same regarding women. Are they prohibited to masturbate? Is there a discussion regarding that? If not, why? Reply: B”H To the honorable questioner. Alt...

I was struggling since age 15. Never made it past 20 days on a good cycle. I found GYE by doing a search in Google. Originally, I thought that if I joined the 90 day challenge, things would be fine. It wasn't. I was too scared to join a meeting. I searched on your site to...

One of the big demoralizers and deterrents to spiritual progress, is the feeling that I'm anyway in the mud and G-d surely isn't interested in me now. Even if we are making good progress in general but now we had a slip or fall, we get this feeling that "I'm anyway far ...

"Powerless" has nothing whatsoever to do with 'ilmolei ozro, eino yachol lo' and is not the flipside of 'hakol bidei Shomayim chutz miyir'as Shomayim', at all. Whether I am in control or not is a simple fact: if I cannot stop having sex with myself (most folks call that ...

Fruits are squeezed to get juice. Flowers are crushed to get fragrance. Diamonds are extracted to make jewels. So if you are being pushed in life - Fear Not!!! It's Hashem, trying to get the Best out of you.

Rabbi Shafier from theshmuz.com began an initiative with Guard Your Eyes to put the full 13 part Fight Series called The Fight onto CDs in MP3 format. Guard Your Eyes and The Shmuz have collaborated to print thousands of copies of the CD's and our objective is to distrib...

A woman wrote to us, asking for chizuk in face of a challenge she was facing. She wrote: A family friend from overseas called me and asked if we can meet up. I don't know if I ever told you about this family "friend" but that's basically how every SA issue that I have ...

Please pass on to Dov how appreciative I am of his posts. They are perceptive, speak to me personally, and pose healthy, life-developing challenges. They have inspired me to keep in regular contact with my sponsor and partner; they've led me to much-needed brutal honesty;...

E.F. writes: You need to add much more info on your website for women who abuse themselves on the Internet. I am recently divorced, and my son is now without his mother because she became addicted to the Internet and degraded herself daily by talking to men online all ...

First, I want to thank you for this wonderful site. I have no words for you how this site saved my life. B'chasdei hashem, I am sober since I started the 90 days, which is almost a year and a half ago. This is a great miracle, and I am very grateful to Hashem for this si...

No, you certainly do not have to tell your parents. I do believe, however, that your making a huge deal about rejection and shame if you would tell the parents is just not accurate. If your parents love you and are not very screwed up in the head, they will sympathi...

Rabbi Azriel Ariel, of the the Israeli organization Hotam, which works to propose Halachic solutions to societal problems, has called to address the phenomenon of romantic relationships in the workplace. He stressed the need to create a behavioral code that will prevent u...

GYE Responds: Thank you for this nice share. Yes, what Dov always shares seems to be the only way to beat the yetzer hara at the end of the day. I was thinking recently, we find by the story of the Meraglim, that they clearly saw that אל פי טבע (naturally) there was no...